I have a friend who worries a lot about her 13-year old girl. She's very worried about modesty, so she makes her girl wear a bodysuit, that kind of underwear that encases all her torso and breasts and clips at he crotch. I know she loves her daughter and is sure it's for the girl's best. But the girl hates that garment, says it's uncomfortable and hot. But she has no choice, her mom decided she has to wear a bodysuit everyday, all day long, except for sleeping and taking a ashower. Some days ago the girl rebelled, made a fuss, cried, but didn't succeed and is still wearing her bodysuit. My friend asked for my opinion, I said she's being harsh and shouldn't force her girl to wear it.
2007-01-20 02:09:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't think a parent should force a child to do anything they don't want to do (not including things like eating their vegetables etc...lol). Forcing her to wear a body suit is doing nothing but upset the girl and damage their relationship. The girl is old enough now that if she wanted to, she could easily take it off once she leaves the house.
The body suit is not going to prevent the girl from doing anything that she shouldn't be doing because as I said, she could easily take it off.
I hope your friend changes her mind and allows her daughter to wear what she wants to wear...
2007-01-20 02:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That mother has very serious hangups about sex. And she won't stop her daughter experimenting by making her wear a bodysuit (assuming that's what she's worried about). It also sound from your description as if the bodysuit is too darned tight and doesn't fit properly - they shouldn't hurt.
With a mother as controlling as that, there are probably some other problems going on as well and it migjt be worth your talking to your friend, getting all the problems out on the table, and then perhaps suggesting that the daughter talk to the school counsellor and/or the mother talk to a relationship counsellor. In the meantime, would it be worth suggesting that the girl just wears a garment called a 'teddy' - it covers, but it doesn't confine. But I don't have much faith in that as a solution because I think the problem go much, much deeper.
2007-01-20 10:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that is ridiculous! I think the outcome of this issue is just going to be a power struggle, and may cause the girl to act out. I know that kids dress provocatively now, but that doesn't mean that there are not clothes that are appropriate for a young girl to wear without a bodysuit!
2007-01-20 12:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It' s not fair. If she is not comfortable with it how can she sleep well? how can do anything well? I'm sure all what she think is just take this bodysuit off.
Doing this the mother can have the opposite effect, maybe the girl, when she can have the possibility she' ll stay naked any time she can. No because we are the parents we have the right to give our children a bad life
2007-01-20 10:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by *Baby* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you asked for an opinion, no it's a completely ridiculous, unfair, unkind not to mention odd way to behave. How is a body suit better if she is concerned about modesty? What an odd perception. They are deathly uncomfortable and the girl is likely to undo the clips when her mom's not around to check on it anyway, I know I would! Anyway no parent should be forcing their child into particular clothing that's daft.
2007-01-20 11:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor little girl! I hope she doesn't develop serious self image issues. There are plenty of modest clothing choices, besides a body suit. Tell mom to throw out the corset and instead go shopping with her daughter for outfits they can BOTH agree on. There are lots of cute extra long shirts, or tshirts for layering. I'm afraid if she keeps pushing the body suit issue, she's most likely going to push her daughter away, and I'm sure she doesn't want that.
BTW....does mom wear a body suit all day long?! Prolly not!
2007-01-20 12:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by chickaboo72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats not right she sould trust her daughter and teach her about modesty instead of thinking that she won't be modest. If she keeps this up the girl is realy going to rebel way more than throwing a fit!
2007-01-20 10:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you!!! Sometimes you need to be a little harsh with your kids but not for this !!! She is just a girl, does things are awfully uncomfortable, and I know it for a fact!!!! so she should let her BREATHE!!!!!!!!! and don't use that thing!! At least not all day long!!! Maybe a couple of hours a day, when she is arround the house, doind homework or whatever, but not all day long poor girl!!!
2007-01-20 10:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Raquel_02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should have girl take off the suit, and go shopping with her mom. I mean, come on, as long as she buys things that are stylish and that look good, they can be modest. otherwise the girl will start rebelling and wearing what ever
2007-01-20 14:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by Unknown. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez louise...yeah, i agree with you; the girl's mum is being quite harsh. but WHY? nobody's going to see the girl's underwear, anyways, so i really do not see the point of wearing something as uncomfortable as a bodysuit when it's not needed.
2007-01-20 10:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋