ok. My fiance and i our planning on getting married in June. I have put down deposits on everything! ( most refundable) we are not having a major wedding just a intimate one. about (5,000). This is the catch, we i have children from a previous realtionship and got my tubes tied. He and I very much want a child together and we want to untie my tubes this year. We cant afford to do them both being though the procedure is 6,000. were paying for our wedding and everything alone. no help. what can we due to saisfy both of these needs. I have my dress almost every detail for a wedding. any creative ideas to still have a little wedding and baby. dont want to go with a barbecue or anything like that. or should i just have my wedding, then risk the chance of not having the money for baby? HELP!!!!
2007-01-20 01:56:15 · 10 answers · asked by Shampaine 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You should have a small private romantic ceremony, at a park or beach or someones house, with only a few of your closest family members and friends only. Afterwards go out to dinner at nice restaurant. If you can't pick just a few people you can possibly rent a restaurant out. Take your own pics. Digital cameras are wonderful and you can edit and do so much with them. Then pick you favorite picture and make announcement cards" Jon and Joan are happy to announce their marriage which took place in a private ceremony on........." This way you let everyone know that it was private and you are married now so they don't feel left out.The point is that you love your fiance and want to marry him you don't want to spend all your money just to get married esp when you want to have the tube reversal done. A wedding can cost so much money and only last one night but your baby will be a part of you and your husband forever. It will bring more love and joy to your life than one night at wedding reception. So what i am trying to say is get married and spend as little money as possible and spend the rest on your surgery. Good Luck.
2007-01-20 02:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should go ahead with the wedding. There is no promise that untying your tubes will work (although my cousin had hers tied, and ten years later undone and had two healthy kids after that!)
Additionally, you will get money and gifts from your wedding. Also, you should give yourselves and your kids time to adjust to being a family before you get pregnant again.
You could also take out a loan for the surgery if your credit is decent.
If you haven't ordered your invitations you could print them yourselves (Office Depot has BEAUTIFUL ones)
Use post card RSVP cards instead of litte cards (24 cents instead of 34).
Have a friend DJ....ditch the photographer unless you have already paid a deposit....if so stay with the smallest package..trust me you'll never look at it after the firts year. If you haven't paid, have a friend take your photos and put a camera on each table for guests to take shots.
Buffets are cheaper than family style (and people get to pick what they want)
Skip the dessert table...what the heck are you paying for a cake for anyway....serve the cake!
Cut down your guest list...no one under 18 (other than your kids) no family beyond 1st cousins unless you have a relationship with them.
If your wedding is only costing $5,000 I don't see how you could get much smaller.
Have a dry reception, no alcohol and see if you can switch to a Friday or Sunday...cheaper.
2007-01-20 02:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would find a nice hall like a loins club or a daughters of charity hall to rent for my wedding i rented a hall that held 500 people for 500 bucks and they cleaned up!!! Then get a caterer that serves the food and had an open bar. the company i had served food and i had buffet style with a carving station. They also had a "wedding planner" type of person that helped decorate the hall all that (food and drinks included) cost me 3500 dollars. I had a friend video and i put cameras on the tables. I did have professional pictures but i only paid for one location and I only got thr proofs. I went buy a good photo printer and made my own large prints. I also ordered my invations and napkins online. So the "wedding" itself only cost 4500 dollars. then i had the cost of flowers, dress, ,DJ, pictures and etc... but i did not spend over 7000 for my wedding and it was very nice.
2007-01-20 05:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by cajunprincess97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-08 02:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just go ahead with your wedding and later on down the road you can have money saved up for having your tubes untied.
2007-01-20 02:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by manders030405 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be married, get married! Because everything is just about paid for you can begin to save for the procedure. One task at a time!
2007-01-20 02:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan's Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a barbeque
In fact they can be more fun for your
guests, than a formal (stuffy) wedding.
Having a child is much more
important than 1 day of fluff.
Good Luck
2007-01-20 02:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Cher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose my first question is this..........
Why are you in such a rush to have another child??? Once you are married, you have all the time in the world......you can save up for the procedure, and do it a couple of years from now. Trust me, if this marriage is right for you, it won't seem like any time at all........and if it's not, then you won't have placed another child in the position of having to cart back and forth from one parent to another.
Please wait, ok?
2007-01-20 02:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Critter Lady 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont know if this is much help but if it is cheaper y can have aprivate beach and make the cermeonies there. its a charactristic that you should remember because not everyone marries there i think.
2007-01-20 02:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose!
Its better to wait, gain economical strength to plan for baby.
wish you very best.
2007-01-20 02:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by leo G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋