2007-01-20 01:54:03 · 17 answers · asked by terracotta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wel, unless my husband ever gave me reason not to trust him, I wouldn't care.
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2007-01-20 01:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not married, but my fiancee and I work together and we deal with guest servies for families staying at a resort (We are on the "entertainment" staff). He's always around younger girls (I'm older than him) and I'm one of the most jealous people I can think of. We've discussed it though and realized that "schmoozing" is all part of the business we're in (tips), but that there should be a line drawn between what's appropriate and inappropriate. Once he told me, "Well you know, it's just part of my job so yeah you might see a little flirting and laughing going on, but it's just for tips." And I said that I hoped my feelings were more important than some tip money. However we've discussed this in detail and I definately trust him, he knows where he's sleeping every night and he wouldn't do anything to intentially hurt me. Besides, if there's any rocky days I can make him equally jealous, and then the jealously can come out later in the bedroom. (Alright too much information, I'm done now :)
2007-01-20 10:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him, you don't have a marriage to start with. Jealousy comes from insecurity and lack of trust. If the rolls were turned, for the first 8 years of marriage with my EX she could have spend a night in a motel with 20 men and the thought of her cheating would have never crossed my mind. I traveled on weekends ridding Bulls all over the western states and although she was invited to go with me, most of the time she would stay home. Her knowing about rodeo dances and me being a champion Bull rider... women were all over me all the time and she never asked me once if I had ever cheated on her. That's because the answer would have been NO and she knew that because she trusted me and I trusted her. And just for the record...I manage 5 women right now and I learned a long time ago that you never dip your pen in company ink. If your husband is a real man and devoted to your marriage, he knows this as well and you have nothing to worry about. Good luck to you.
2007-01-20 10:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off I would of never married someone I wasn't SURE I could trust. If you have a very good relationship and a great sex life then what do you got to worry about? Are you not confident in your self or what? Don't ever doubt yourself. If your husband cheats then he was not the one anyway. No I am not a jealous woman cause I am very confident and sure of myself. Seems like you have questions of your self and you need to figure them out and get more self esteem. I guess I would worry if I didn't have a great relationship with him. Sit him down and talk to him about your insecurities and let him know how you feel. The key is good communication and he needs to know if you are feeling this way. He could reassure you and make you feel better.
2007-01-20 10:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no! The temptation! I would hat that. ouch. And there is nothing you can do about it. And the young girls today seem to be more intersted in older men and they don't care if there married or not. I would be keeping a close eye on your man. Pop in if you can. And I would make sure that there are no , things starting up like , honey I have to work over or i need to give someone a ride. etc. Anything out of the ordinary starts nip it right away. And don't accuse him of anything. but you can always tell him you are thinking about getting a job in a all mens gym as the towel girl and see how he reacts.lol
2007-01-20 10:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally id hate it.. but what can u do.. u cant be up ur husbands rear end 24/7 so u get to a point that u have to trust in the man u married.. the girls didnt take a vow to u , he did.. so it will be up to him not to breach his marriage vows to you.. sometimes as much as a situation sucks, u have to hold ur breath and pray that u married the right man that wont hurt u.. because if he does cheat with any of the girls at work, then it wouldnt matter where he worked if he has it in him to cheat he would of found away of cheating even if he worked with all men he would of found a girl some how in his daily travels to have an affair with.. it would of just been a matter of time..
2007-01-20 10:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly speaking its not a question of trust. If i am not wrong/wrong has to happen in 99 percent cases. This is the reality n we must accept/again in case of females{married} not may be but sure to be some problem in the normal life of a married couples{ pl forgive me} It is not a new thing but it is there in the history also if we look back/
Still exception can be there but remote chances. it is natural that one start comparing/ its a natural instinct n the thing sdo work in sub concious mind of humane beings but in the present society u can not control it in case of females more. / pl forgive me . I am a cancerian n will talk straight. Pl believe me.
To sum up u should take it casualy its all in the game. Pl do comment n correct me /i will be much obliged/ I gave u this openion considering as if i am ur real brother or a true friend. My e mail id is carmaexpo@yahoo.co.in God bless u R
2007-01-20 10:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by raashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the green-eyed monster back into the box... trust him or not it is your choice on how you feel and frankly, the young girls at work don't care how you feel, nor the check he brings home... so stop torchuring yourself.. if he flings it with a little red-head it's because he would have done it regardless of how you feel or where he worked...
Keep him happy the best you can ... make your home a place that he wants to return too and see what happens...
oh.. also... I am looking for work... ummm... where did you say he works at?
2007-01-20 10:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is surrounded by young girls every day at work. It made me feel insecure in the beginning because while I have always trusted him, I don't trust the girls! They didn't seem to be deterred by the wedding band he wears. So...I popped in to see him on occassion and made sure they saw me. They don't stand around his desk hanging on to his every word quite as much now.
2007-01-20 10:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by rayhnebeaus_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust your spouse then you don't have a relationship.
On another note: it's not that I wouldn't trust my husband, it's I wouldn't trust the girls. Young girls seem to be attracted to married men for some reason or another. Can't figure it out.
2007-01-20 10:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trusting is difficult, but it is possible, because it's a thought process.
Jealousy is harder because it's an emotion. The more insecure the person, the more likely it will surface. Therapy can help for those who have have very low self-confidence.
Boost your self-confidence and jealousy will be less prevalent; and trusting will become easier.
From a guy once a victim of baseless jealousy ...
2007-01-20 10:04:31 · answer #11 · answered by curly bob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋