I doI am 29 y/o and I feel like I ruined my life and no matter how hard I try and cannot get back on track. I grew up an only child of a single parent. I did really bad in HS barely graduated and hung around all the wrong people. y mom was always working so there was only so much she could do. After graduating I cont.to hang around the wrong people had the bad boy BF stayed in trouble all the time. Smoked weed, drank, shopliftin. When I was 22 I got pregnant and everything changed, I went bk 2 sch.received my asso.degree, cut off all neg.friends well I thought. I met a great guy and fukd it up b/c I was being superficial and I am so depressed about it. I applied to RN school near where he lives ( b4 we broke up) we remained friends and I got n finally. I thought we were goin 2 start over but he didnt trust me thought I was using him so now I am over here by myself w/o my son, my cat, I sacrificed all to finsh sch. Im lonely depressed I barely leave the house b/c I dont know area
2007-01-20 01:53:10 · 12 answers · asked by *sexy mocha* 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I thought every thing was going to be great when I got over here I am near Chicago like 20 min and it s not I am alone and the harder to make better choices it seems that the worse the get the one person I thought I was going to be with I dont have anymore and I feel like it was a mistake coming over here. Ive met new people at school but they are either married or are in a relationship I dont know wht to do I cry almost everyday and I feel hopeless cant sleep cant eat I just feel like the only thing I have is school and I also feel like I am on the verge of ruining my 6y/o life too.
2007-01-20 01:56:45 · update #1
my mom is keeping my son while I get settled into my first yr of school. I feel like my life is ruined b/c I also have no social like and it doesnt look like it will change
2007-01-20 02:04:20 · update #2
I sympathise with you - this is where I am at the moment - I wish I had a time machine to go back to when I was younger and try to make the right or even just better choices. At least you have achieved your goal of finishing school - that must have been really hard and its fantastic that you have managed to do so. You will meet another great guy - the internet is proably the way to do it if you cant get out too much - (dating sites not random sites). But - you are only 29 and you are realising what mistakes you have made in the past - you have many many more years in which to develop into someone you like and have the life you deserve. The kind of stuff you did when you were younger is very common - you havent ruined your life - I am sure osme of it was fun at the time. You need to get to know more people - join a club, gym, start to see more of the friends you have - even the guy who you still like. You have lots of time to make it all up. Go to the doctor if you still feel terrible - you may beed some help to get over this bad patch. I feel like some of the choices I have made will never leave me - and the bad thing is - I keep making them! I am really trying to sort it out and you can too. Best of luck and happiness. x
2007-01-20 02:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by Islandgirlss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't ruin your life... you just took a different path than you expected. Your depression is a cycle - you don't leave the house because you're depressed, but you're depressed because you don't leave the house. Is the fact that you don't have your son with you making you more depressed? Sitting home will not solve anything. Get out there and DO something. Meet people, get involved, make the best of the life you have. Get involved in a church, an adult studies class at a college, a singles group, whatever. See if a local hospital has a support group for depression. I'm sure there are many people in your area that are looking to make new friends. Look online to see what kinds of activities are offered in your area, explore the city. The depression is not going to go away without you making some changes. If it's that severe, look into some sort of counseling and/or medication. Try the local Department of Mental Health for referrals or low cost options. Best of luck!!!
2007-01-20 02:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my son in June of 2002 when I was 20. In September I started college. Last June I graduated with my Assciate's degree in Criminal Justice. This June I will be graduating with my Bachelor's degree. I did not graduate high school. I got a GED. I've made a lot of mistakes. But I know that I'm blessed. Even though I don't feel it all the time, I am. I know how it is to feel hopeless. But look at how you have turned your life around. Forget that man. Do what's best for you and your son. Even if it means moving again. Anyone who says they have ruined their life is foolish. As long as your living there's time to make up for the mistakes of your past. Things change. Nothing, good or bad, stays the same forever.
2007-01-20 02:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Cori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not depressed but I do believe that I have ruined my life too with all the things I have dont bad. I am 13! and I feel this way! I have done so many bad things that give me such a bad reputation and I can't help but keep doing them. For examples: drugs I have done, sex, and smoking. Also, not going to school wen I should be there. I don't know where to turn anymore cause I feel like my parents hate me so I take it to sex like I will just go do something stupid with my friends or boyfriends. well, to help u I say start fresh once more and don't have anything to do with that guy anymore, I know I don't know the full situation but I would get over w/him and start over by maybe meeting some nice guys at a country club or somethin, they always have nice guys, lol! well good luck!!!
2007-01-20 02:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by ~V@NN@H~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still going to RN school that'd be a good place to start. Talk to the Instructors and/or counsellors, and try to make friends with people near your age. Online maps of your area will show you where everything is. Ask at school as a way to not only get information, but find out who is friendly and who isn't. Check out: www.depression.com/- and www.relax7.com and the blogs of Shan Eris on "tackling depression" at www.myspace.com
2007-01-20 02:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't ruined you life hun, we all make the wrong decisions and mistakes but we learn from them and i can see that you have. I think what you should do is get your son to come home with you. Believe me your son will enrich your life and the rest don't matter, just be a good mom to your son because in your son's eyes you are a queen! When you get yourself together you'll be fine but at the mo your heart broken. Your son can help to mend your heart and you'll feel great! Good luck!!
2007-01-20 02:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by boopie240 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make terrible mistakes and feel awful about them, but this also is true - you still have the rest of your life ahead of you and you have the freedom and the power to do something very positive with it. It sounds lame, but it's not. It's reality. And you can do something different and turn your life around, too.
2007-01-20 04:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel your life is bad, because of a messed up relationship. Look at you, You did good, finishing school and all. You are obviously strong willed and determined. Get your son, where ever he is and move on.
2007-01-20 02:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I have ruined my life, for now I am what a call "a funkadelic, overhappy, hyperactive, psychotic, evil, little lunatic!" I am the knig of weird! I invented the word! Mwa Ha Ha Ha (just kidding)
2007-01-20 01:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,and they won't let me get to deep into it.Someone will report abuse if I even tell a portion of my life.I have destroyed so much it stinks.If I had a wish I wouldn't wish for money or anything but only change of my past.
2007-01-20 01:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by one10soldier 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋