And how do you personally deal with being lonely?
2007-01-20 01:39:53 · 21 answers · asked by X 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Because you are NOT alone, but you feel lonely.
Only you can fix this one by opening up to those
who surround you.
2007-01-20 01:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ricky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not, I am alone quite a bit and I just keep busy with painting, planning things, reading, watching TV. Being alone though isn't lonely, loneliness is something you feel when you feel disconnected from the rest of society and you wish to be there.
With a computer if you are lonely, its because you are choosing not to connect. I do think life is better with someone in it you can share things with, but its not the hardest thing, in this vast nasty world of starvation and war and murder, its just a little self indulgent to think that.
2007-01-20 01:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh give it a rest! No one in this country knows what hardship is compared to other places.If you are a miserable sod then who is going to want to be with you? Learn to play a musical instrument and you'll always attract people. Or just grow up and be able to enjoy your own company. Anyway having people around all the time is a pain in the butt. A dog is a great friend and wont shat on you like people do. Dont be so weak and get into the game more !
2007-01-20 10:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Thom Jo D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is beacuse we are created to have the instinct to find a mate in order to reproduce. otherwise we would all dye out without this instinct. There is also the feeling that you are only half a person in life without another half. ying and yang stuff. Without someone to give your love to it builds up inside youthis is when lonelyness sets in, The only solution in the mean time is to find a way of giving this love to others until the right person comes along, get involved with charity work in your spare time you will feel rewarded and fulfilled and who knows you might meet mr or Mrs right while you are at it. There are so many people who could do with some love, Homeless, disabled, elderly, under-priveledged children are but a few of them.
2007-01-20 01:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by jens21angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness, is not the hardest thing to cope with; being totally alone when in need is getting there, though.
Loneliness is an egotistical luxury and it follows its owner everywhere.
2007-01-22 03:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by steveb9458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to answer your question. I can understand how you are feeling. It is indeed very hard. I have been there. It has been so intense to the extend I have even thought of ending my life.
I don't really know what I did. I just went on with my life doing whatever I can to live and survive. I kept my faith to God and here I am, still alive. I don't feel that much anymore all though I still live alone. Maybe it was time. Just give it sometime. It will pass. It has passed by me now. It will for you too.
Please refer the following website for more information on understanding loneliness.
http://www.webofloneliness.com
Take care.
P.s. If you need someone to talk, you can msg me.
2007-01-20 02:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by rajkath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness is so hard to cope wiht becuase it is the ultimate human necessity that a person needs friends and/or company. Studies show that children (say orphans) who feel unloved usually live shorter lives.
How do I deal? I answer questions liek this and watch seasons of 24! That show kicks @$$
2007-01-20 02:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're lonely, it's because you feel there's nobody you can talk to. It can be a short-term thing or a longer term emotion. I start feeling lonely when I've too much time to think and in a mood where I'm feeling sorry for myself.
2007-01-20 11:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Novice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because one is ALONE. I asked my Higher Power for help finding a good friend for years. And stayed at home in bed,
reading all the time. The "Hybernation Method" of recovery.
We live ina material world, and opportunity doesn't come flying in the window. We have to get out there. Make ourselves visible.
There are plenty of community and cultural gruops out there
where one can meet decent people. Just look in your local
newspaper for events.
2007-01-20 02:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Spock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because it is something you must deal with deep within yourself. To me lonliness is not about having no one it's about a lack of happiness in being with youself! Have you ever been with someone in a committed relationship and still felt lonely? I know i do now. The problem with lonliness is that it's not about sharing with a significant other - it's about accepting ourselves as who we are and being happy with that!
If you love and care for yourself anything else is a bonus!!
2007-01-20 02:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we are designed to be social creatures and need others to pass our genes onto... lonliness is failing at our evolutionary level..
I'm not often lonely anymore but used to deal with it by losing myself in TV, books, work, etc. and counting down to the days when I could get home.... I know it's not healthy wishing your life away so my other option was shopping...
2007-01-20 02:50:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋