me and my wife have been figthing for over 2 months now over this guy that leaves in our house with her mom and dad when they met we were al cool but she gave him to much trust and with the time i have found letters and weird things happening with my wife can u guys please let me know what can i do we also have a beautiful daugther with us
2007-01-20 01:33:30 · 11 answers · asked by jose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave. You deserve better. No excuse for cheating specially under same roof.
2007-01-20 01:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a little confused...DO you her, the mom and dad and the guy all live togerther? If so maybe start thinking of finding a new spot? What makes you think she is with this guy? Have you tried to sit her down and talk to her? how does she react? Does she cmplain about a lot of things(like you never talk to me, your never home?) if so maybe you can try to work on the things that concern her. to show her you reallly love her. There is a book called the 5 love Languages. I do not remember the author Gary somebody. But it is an EXCELLENT book for this! It should be in any of your local bookstores just ask the bookeeper. Good Luck on everything.
2007-01-20 01:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shampaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll break it down for u to the bottom line...No trust..No relationship. As far as your Daughter, you can't quit living to live. More times than not people stay together "for the children" and it's a fact that this is the worst thing you can do. Have a wonderful relationship with your daughter ( she can not stop this) and get on with your life. What good is a marriage when your tearing your heart up every time she s leaves your sight? Don't allow her to make you a fool. Find someone you can trust and if your new woman is good people, your daughter will love her as well..Good luck. (I've been down that road once a long time ago and it doesn't my friend.)
2007-01-20 01:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you can see, fights do not resolve anything. Take a different approach. Talk to her, allowing each other to finish what they have to say and ask her specific questions.
To begin with, keep yourselves at a even temper and if questions are not fully understood, ask the question back with something like "do you mean....?". That way you will avoid misunderstandings.
Secondly, make sure to avoid accusations of any kind. Instead, explain how you feel, why you feel like that, and why you feel that she is cheating. Then wait for the reply from her. Give her the chance to explain everything before you make a decision. Once you both spoke of everything in a calm way, you should be able to settle the issue once and for all......Good Luck
2007-01-20 01:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look out for #1.
You don't deserve to be treated like that, and I would go see a lawyer to see what your options are for custody. don't even tell her you did. She's obviously not worth trusting. Your wife obviously isn't worth putting up with, and if she's willing to put herself over everything, you shouldn't hang back and wait for her to realize you care. News flash, she's never going to. You have a daughter to attend to, and someone has to be responsible enough to do it.
Take the letters, make a journal of the weird things. You and your daughter deserve better.
2007-01-20 01:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Travis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think the problems may be because she is caught between the two of u, wanting to keep the relationship she has with him also. u can have no relationship without trust, got to work it out first before u can feel right about it, if ever. got to get away from the guy who is causing the trouble, but her heart has to be with u, and she has to want to be with u, something u really can't control. if she also loves him, u need to show some self respect for yourself and get out of there, can't have a relationship when some other guy is in it too.
2007-01-20 01:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, what are you doing living with her mom and dad??? Find a place of your own. That should solve a few problems.
2007-01-20 01:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her parents and tell them the guy has to go or you and your wife will have to move out with your child.
2007-01-20 01:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the foundation of all relationships with out that it crumbles.
2007-01-20 01:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could never hav a relaionship with someone u think is cheating on u
2007-01-20 01:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sm1l3y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋