Do you know how it feels, to want to spend time with your wife?

Question

Her friends,they always come first. Just leaves for the day not a word

Answer 1

start going to the gym and get super-ripped and massive and then she'll definitely want to spend time with you.
or get out of that relationship fast. You're getting screwed/used/something.

Answer 2

Same thing happened to me just before my divorce! Not so much the going out with friends, the "going out without a word". I don't think she is having an affair, but she is out comparing other guys to you. Looking at her friends husbands and seeing if you measure up. Now.....what can you do? YOU need to re-evaluate your maturity. Apparently she thinks your still a child. The "Peter Pan syndrome" comes to mind. Only way to get her to reverse her tracks (She's focusing on divorce by the way!) is to stop the video games (toss em in the trash) go get a real job!!!! Look for a job that has high pay!!! Note: the fact that your marriage is on the line should quicken your response time!!!!

Answer 3

You need to let her know how you feel, she might not realise how much it is affecting you. Arrange a time to have a quiet talk, and plan some quality time together, tell her you miss her and want to spend more time with her and remind her of how happy you were when you first met and all the time you spent together then. Ask her if she is happy too. Good luck.

Answer 4

Do you ever tell her that you love her? If you dont you are not doing what the Bible commands men to do in Ephesians 5:33
Men are commanded to love their wives and wives are commanded to repect their husbands. Both find it hard to do either hence the reason God commanded it. In the book LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs from Michigan Dr Eggerichs says that when neither do what has been commanded the relationship goes into a crazy cycle and it continues until one learns to respet and the other to love and to love means telling her verbally what you feel for her UNCONDITIONALLY. Both love and respect must be unconditional.

My own personal marriage lacked both. My husband never said the 3 words i needed to hear and I again thought he didnt care, hence I slowly began to lose respect for him and did stupid stuff in the process. Our relationship got so bad it ended up in a divorce court and that because he decided to seek someone else above me and a lot younger too. 4 months after the divorce he came back and ironically that was 4 years of separation before divorce later. I went for counselling and decided to change and I did. I got more confident self sufficient and lighter about things, but when I beganshowing respect the crazy cycle halted and he softened towards me and we have been togther for 9 years since that took place. I became more accountable to myself and to him and visa versa. The same can happen for you but one of you needs to yield. It might take a bit of time to get her to believe you but just continue regardless of what she says or does. Begine courting her again. Date her all over again and begin that way. Love never fails and I suggest you lose the score of records and teach her to do the same gently lovingly and respectfully. Marriage is far more sacred than people give it credit for. Be accountable friend. IT really works

Read WIld at Heart by John Eldredge and get the book Love and respect too. Its brilliant.

Answer 5

Not a word??? Oh, that is just wrong. She is being very selfish and cold hearted. I do not mean to sound hurtful to you, but either she is trying to make a point--(ie..."you have no control over me") or she really could care less how you feel. If she is reacting from a recent argument, it may get better. If not, it sounds as if she has zero respect for you. That must really hurt. Hope things gets better soon.

Answer 6

It's sad that she doesn't care about her marriage, maybe she
still very immature and she wants to act as if she were single.
The fact that she doesn't let you know she will go out says that she feels you are not important.
Give her an ultimatum, if she doesn't change her attitude, leave her.

Answer 7

I am in almost the same situation. Except for me it is my husband who is leaving the house for hours and not saying a word or calling while gone. He says to me, you know where I am. How would I know that??
But to answer your question, it feels wrong. Like I am being used.

Answer 8

Try this:
you work days
she works nights
kids in between.
no other time available.

If her friends come first, you know how much she loves you.
Start looking for things to do. No use suffering when you can bide your time with other things, since it may sound you are not NO. 1 in her life.

Answer 9

I felt like that before I got married. Since, I wish she'd spend more time with them and leave me alone. Women still need "girl time" with their friends. They can't talk about shopping, hair and make up with you. Trust me, you'll get over it. Find something else "constructive" to do with yourself and your time. You'd be surprised what you are capable of. Man Up, dammit!!!

Answer 10

To be honest if she wants to play with her friends then let her. I tell you what you should do is go out with your friends she will soon see that you have a life to. Women get jealous very quickly and she is no diffident she will soon see that she wants you more than she wants her friends.