I have been mourning the loss of my birth mother for just over 3 months now, my adoptive parents told me she was killed while i was offshore, I got a call from her yesterday saying they would not let her near me.
I almost collapsed thinking I'd had a call from the dead.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO ???
2007-01-20 01:25:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Because my mother lost her mind at 17 and regained it, my adoptives think it runs in the family cause it has happened to me too under different circumstances.
2007-01-20 01:42:03 · update #1
I have known her for 15 years.
2007-01-20 01:44:41 · update #2
I would explain to your birth parents the damage they have caused that you are an adult and that you should have been able to make your own decisions on whether or not you wanted contact from your birth mother.Even though you may not have had contact with her there is still a parent child bond there,it still is a hard thing to lose someone who gave birth to you and your birth parents should have looked past their own selfish reasons for keeping her from you.No matter what type of person your bio mother was or is you should have been given the choice of at least knowing her for yourself,that is a decision your adoptive parents had no right making. I would sit them down and explain what their actions have done to you. It has to be a hard thing thinking someone dead when they are not.
2007-01-20 01:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!
that is a toughy.
Call a family meeting with your adoptive parents.....find out what it is they don't want you to know about her.
Is she scum? or is she a good person?
Are your adoptive parents afraid you will turn against them and that they will lose your love?
Let them know that they won t lose you and you feel the need to "see things for yourself"...learn from your own mistakes when it come to your true mother.You have the right and they should support you on this one...it's a big moment in your life.
But don't be a jerk about it when you talk to them.
And keep communication lines open with your birth mother if you can.
Sorry,have never been in that position so I'm not much help.
2007-01-20 01:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you sure that your mother called and not some sick prankster. Second, why would your adoptive parents feel the need to deceive you about your birth mother. You also don't mention your age, if you're over 18, you can communicate with whomever you chose.
There must be more to this story, something you're not being told, ask your adoptive parents, why the deception?
Insist on an answer.
2007-01-20 01:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, they told you she was dead for a reason. I really do not know what I would do, hun. I would just try to keep in mind that if the people who are providing me with a good life think I am better off without her, then that is how it should be.
They probably did not make the best decision by lying about her death though. They should have been honest.
2007-01-20 01:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told my birth mother died...I guess I would freak if she was really alive. Your adoptive parents must feel insecure or are afraid that your birth mom will cause havoc if she comes near you. There could be issues they are hiding too
2007-01-20 01:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
brush off the thoughts n think, "hmm.....probably some prank caller who doesn't have a life." look, i just lost my birth father too and probably, all this trauma is making u paranoid. pick an activity so that u'd be 2 busy to even think what happened 2 ya, okay? n, what does this question have anything to do with "comics & animations" anyway?
2007-01-20 01:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Cerra Azizi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your adoptive parents are just worried about you, they shouldn't have done that, though....they don't want you getting hurt or lose you to her. have you sat down and talked with them?
2007-01-20 02:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by INSANE SUGARPUFF 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be furious with my adoptive parents and it would be difficult to try and come to terms with their lies. Time will heal.
2007-01-20 01:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront your adoptive parents then go see your birth mother...they CAN'T stop you from seeing her.
2007-01-20 01:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! I would go see her after the shock wears off.
2007-01-20 01:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by JHAMAINE E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋