Regarding gay, and cures.?

Question

I'm gay in a society that rejects gays ( Singapore ). They think I'm sick mentally or something. And though some of my friends don't mind, but when I've told someone I love him, it really hurts when rejection happens. I don't wish to be hurt this way again, and also I don't want to have such rejection again.

I've tried watching pornography of girls ( I know I'm underage ), but it really doesn't help ( Though it does turn me on ). I don't fall in love with girls somehow. The government sends people to tell us in our schools that gays can be cured. But I really wonder what is their cure? What do they do to us?

I really wish to lead a normal life. I want to be someone str8. I really hope someone can help me. Thanks alot.

Answer 1

You have three choices:

1) Start a movement to protest and petition for equal rights. It means you risk being mistreated and being a political prisoner, but you'll help others in the future.

2) Emigrate. If you're educated and have no criminal records, many countries will accept you as citizens.

3) Continue hiding and live unhappily for the rest of your life.

Nobody is going to make the choice for you.


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Answer 2

First you have to realize that some people, kids or adults, innoscently choose to be homosexual. Homosexuality is constructed.
As a child we make innoscent choices. Then often forget the choice we even made, but that choice will stay with us and not change untill we change it.
I do not know how old you are, but immagine thinking and constucting a choice for 13 years or more. It would seem like it was natural at that time.
There are some children that may have to consider other issues as well. Gender nonconformity is a big issue for some children that may think they was born gay. Gender nonconformity could be born in a child or it could be learned characteristics that cause a gender nonconformity. Often children that have gender nonconformity did not have treatment or even know what it means. They often know that being gay is something.
I know not all children with a gender nonconformity construct homosexuality in them. Some children never hear the word, and some children are coaxed to accept their differences as something other than thinking they are born gay.
Science would rather say it is a pre requisite to becoming gay. That is not true, gender nonconformity is a seperate isse than homosexuality.
I also remind you that a child does not have to have a gender nonconfromity to construct homosexuality. It could start from a touch, a kiss, something innoscently done and precieved. it also could have come from not so innoscent issues. and later forgotten even. Look at it this way:
The Formula For Producing A Homosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way:
A Predisposition
Toward Homosexuality
Plus
That First
Homosexual Experience
Multiplied By
Pleasurable and Positive
Homosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added
More Homosexual
Experiences
Multiplied By
More Pleasurable
Thoughts
It could take many years to unconstruct homosexuality.
Here is a good religious article on the subject.
http://www.ccel.org/contrib/exec_outlines/hom/hom_04.htm

Answer 3

There is not a treatment to cure you from being gay.

You will hear from some religious groups that they have treatment methods and that they are successful. For some reason they will not share the full results of their studies with the scientific community to be evaluated. A couple did release full results and their claims were proved to be false. We might think that if these groups had a REAL cure they would be publishing it so that everyone could use their practices.

The American Psychiatric Association has not considered homosexuality a disorder for over 20 years. They do not treat it as an illness.

Answer 4

I had no idea that Singapore is so ignorant on homosexuality. You are born gay, why would anyone choose to be gay? And Society wonders why gay men get married and live a hidden secret life behind their wife. There is no need to frustrate yourself and try to be someone you're not. Stay strong, I know its hard to have unnecessary battles w/ the majority. But once you're independently successful, you'll realize ignorance is bliss to those who are concerned, on who you are having sex w/. Homosexuality is not a disease or contagious, its just moral views just outweigh the ethical standpoint of being human.

Answer 5

There is no cure, because it is not a disease. You are not mentally sick, and no proper psychologist or doctor would say you were. It is a normal variation of human sexuality. It is like being left handed. I have no idea what kind of "cure" your government has in mind, but it is certainly not supported by proper science.

Love can hurt, especially when it is not returned. This is a normal part of life. Try not to dwell on it. Sometimes you have to fall in love a few times before you really find the one.

Answer 6

I'm not sure if any cross-cultural studies have been done, and I"m not sure how much it matters. In America, the "cured" gay people have a VERY low, if existant, "success" rate. And the people running the programs refuse to define "success". Essentially, they're trying to get you to stop acting on your feelings, but your feelings will never go away. Most of them admit that. Aside from not really working too well, these programs also have a tendancy to increase the risk of suicide; these aren't healthy places to be.

Answer 7

If you feel uncomfortable about your being gay then i know you wont mind changing your status..then i advice you seek councelling,if you look deep into what the bible says God our haevenly father created a man and a woman with a solid reason :procreation but i know ther are pple out there who dont believe in god i bet you are not one of them.
Choose whats best for you despite all odds coz if you believe in yourself and stand strong to your opinions and principles then i think the socity wont have a choice but accepting you as a person and not agay.goodluck and be strong

Answer 8

I wish you peace. Look to wise people gay or straight. Some people believe that you are born gay. Others believe that it is environmental in nature as I believe that it is more likely to be environmental. Don't just take militant gays views that you MUST embrace homosexuality, that is just not true. Be true to yourself. Explore secular and religious writings for wisdom and guidance. Sometimes feelings are not always right.

Answer 9

properly you won't be able to truly "treatment" him. bear in mind which you chosen your atheism in some unspecified time interior the destiny brushing off the popular religious impacts in society. as a effect he has the comparable freedom of choosing if he desires to stick to atheism or have self assurance in a trascendental being. although, do be conscious that he's sixteen and that as you mentioned, he purely began reading the bible 3 days in the past, he's maximum possibly clueless approximately any suggestions he's processing and as a effect maximum possibly he's no longer even drawing close deism as maximum religions do anyhow. in case you desire to impression him in direction of your facet, attempt giving him some "helpful" factors of view approximately faith coupled with nefarious outcomes, including how the inquisition grow for use to maintain a strict social order even though it did so by skill of killing 1000's of persons for no longer agreeing with them and yada yada. Then proceed to furnish him your reasoning of why you have self assurance that faith isn't genuine. be helpful you permit him understand which you're no longer attempting to stress your convictions on him (whether you solidly have self assurance he's erroneous), he continues to be a teenager and attempting too demanding to impression him can effect in a, probably involuntary, rebellious ideas-set and push him against your ideals.

Answer 10

sweetheart, you cannot become straight. your best bet is to get a good education and then move out of Singapore when you get a chance. Times may also change in Singapore, just wait it out. But there is no changing your orientation.