My husband hasn't kiss or even touch me since last month. He ask me to do what he wants when he needs it. I told him and he ignored. Living wit family I already got enough depress. They even try to controll me. Keep telling how to take care of my 4 months daughter. Get mad when I go visit my mom in North Cali. once a month. Mother inlaw called my husband stupid for letting me go that often, waste money and so on.. He told me he'll never move out even 5 mins away. Wanted to help his family...My sisters will come visit my daughter and I tomorrow. Should I come wit them back to North cali? I'm tired wit this life, i can see he doesn't love me. Am I a bad mom if I take my daughter away from her dad? please hellllllppppp thanks
2007-01-20 01:08:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
was too tired to answer his question, he push my head back and grabbed my face and said " stop ignoring me when I'm talking" and I can see he wanted to punch me. " i told him don't touch me and told me to go back to north cali but leave our daughter wit him. He always push my head and slap my face when I ignore him.
2007-01-20 01:08:33 · update #1
i told him i'll go away to see how he reacts, and he asked"when,are u going alone?" later he said" u know i love her a lot" "all I want is to see everyone is this house happy" he always bring his family to every topic.
2007-01-20 01:08:54 · update #2
i asked wat if i go alone? or take her wit me? he said" well, she's ur daughter if u take her wit u , what can I say?" we're married but haven't get our marriage certificate. We're married cause I got pregnant but I knew he didn't love me enough to put all my trusts on him that's y i didn't and try to ignore tp get the certificate.
2007-01-20 01:09:30 · update #3
tried to work things out for the last chance but it came out horrible. I did watever he asked for and he said" do watever u want when u r satisfied then sleep." I was crying, he hurted my feeling. I feel like i'm nothing to him. He said" don't be sad again, i still love u" it's so easy for him to say that three words without feeling it
2007-01-20 01:10:10 · update #4
he's becoming like his dad, my father in law always gets mad at his wife and they're always fighting. I always stay quiet when my husband's mad bcause i don't believe arguement would work things out only make it worse.
2007-01-20 01:27:09 · update #5
I'm just a kid but trust me you'll want to hear this. My mom and dad fight a lot. I know my dad has done bad things (if you know what i mean) and I know my mom deserves a better husband. SO DO YOU. Do you want your daughter to grow up with parents who fight all of the time. That would be SO hard on her. You need to understand moving away from him is the best for everyone. Your not a bad mom if you take your daughter away from him that would be considered a good mom.
~KH~
2007-01-20 02:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband doesn't sound like a very nice person what gives him the right to say you cant have your daughter with you? It sounds like your daughter would be better off with you away from everyone interfering and telling you what to do. If they do it to you think what your daughter will have to put up with!! Leave your husband and go to North Cali you will probably both be happier, even though your daughter is not talking yet she is picking up on all the tension and its not fair on he she deserves a good life and youre the one who can give it to her. Tell your husband your leaving and leave let him say goodbye to your daughter and no matter how much he pleads for you both to stay think of your daughter and think your giving her a better life free from people sticking thier noses into your business good luck
2007-01-20 09:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by firsttimer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a horrible relationship. As long as you have other people in your relationship, you will never get anywhere. It sounds like your husband just doesn't know how to treat you, like he hasn't been taught. He probably saw his father or someone else treating their wife like he does you.
It depends on what you want in life if you stay or leave. If you are sick of the life you have now, then leave. If you love your husband, then stick around and try to work things out.
Sounds like the mother in law needs to back off. As long as she is a part of your husband's life you will always have problems, as long as she interferes. You need to stand up for yourself. Don't let others treat you mean or in a fashion that you don't like. Simple. Stand up for yourself.
2007-01-20 09:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he sounds very abusive get out and go live with family until you can get on your feet, and no he dosen't love you or the baby or he wouldn't be hitting the mother (you) like that and furter more he's a dead beat for wanting to live with his mom all the time, go back with your sister, just leave take that poor daughter with you.....
2007-01-20 09:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave that man and his crazy family, if you stay there you will feel like a prisoner. And no, you won't be a bad mother if you take away your daughter, she will thank you and admire you for taking that decision.
2007-01-20 09:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by indie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honest i dont think any one can tell you what you need to do,but i say this,...married is a 50/ 50 deal,...an you can not do it by your self,Also spend all the time you can with your mother. for you only have one, An no you not being a bad mom,if if come to takeing your chil a way from him,
2007-01-20 09:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a situation like that myself when i was 18 and believe me you need to leave now . dont waste your time on this guy. when you leave you need to go and file for custody as soon as possible. because there is a chance that if he does it first he will get the child till you go to court. please dont put up with being hit and pushed around it is so not worth it and it is not love .. gl
2007-01-20 09:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by tammy m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him be for he really hurts you and the kid
you don't have to put up with his ****. Report him to the cops. He will not stop hitting you and it wont get better.
Did his dad bet on his mom?
2007-01-20 09:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by david o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a good family divorce lawyer and come up with an exit strategy.
2007-01-20 09:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, if u don't like the way he is treating you, then why should you live with him? Your daughter is only 4 months, and she probably won't care. He has no right to treat you like this. you should live in happiness and peace.
2007-01-20 09:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by swimmergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋