ok my husband of one year plays video games constantly. he has played them all his life as he tells me, his family also plays video games daily. my husband will come home from work for lunch and turn on the video games, when he comes home from work he will play non-stop until he has to go to bed, about maybe 8 hrs. thats every day. then on the weekends he plays from the time he wake up until he goes to bed possibly 16 hrs. both days. i've tried everything to have him ease up on it and spend time with me. he doesnt want to go anywhere or try anything. hates to watch tv. everything else is just dead boring to him. what am i to do? i've told him many times how it bothers me and that i want to spend time with him....i've tried to work some kind of compromise but nothing changes. any thoughts? suggestions?
2007-01-20 00:59:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do and have played with him, and i do watch him play the games and i play a video game sometimes also of my own, its not about involving myself with him about the games i do that plenty. its about getting him away from the game! and if i come by him and let him know i want "bedroom time" he will keep playing and make me wait! whats with that?
i mean all in all its just a game, shouldnt he have thought about playing games nonstop when he asked me to MARRY HIM!?
2007-01-20 01:20:30 · update #1
He has an addiction that is as strong, if not stronger, than any chemical addiction. The gamers get the same high from reaching the next level in a video game that a gambler does from winning or an addict from a hit; sadly, it is not a recognized addiction...yet. It could be rooted in self-esteem problems or an escape from reality and dealing with issues, particularly since you indicate his whole family plays video games daily.
A compromise might be, even if you are not interested in them, play with him one hour a day and ask that he play with you (do what you want to do) for an hour a day.
You may also want to get counseling help you cope with living with a video game addict and see if he will also go (most likely, won't).
2007-01-20 01:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start telling him (while he's playing video games) that you and George are going out to a movie. When he asks who George is, tell him just a friend who likes to spend some with you. Then leave! No more explanations. When he walks after you asking more questions, just tell him to go back in and enjoy THOSE video games. Then leave. Get your hair done, or rummage through a thrift store, whatever, just get out and let this shocker set in. After 3 hours come back, and get ready for some real heart to heart talk because NOW you have his attention. Drag him over to the computer and show him this question and THIS answer! Tell him....No let me tell him, that if he doesn't mature quickly and get off those damn video games all day, that pretty soon George will be someone real, instead of this fabricated lesson to be learned! Why not make a compromise? 1 and 1/2 hours a day of video games till he grows up. Then of course he will see it's much more fun to actually enjoy life, have responsibilities, read, snuggle!
2007-01-20 01:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has an addiction.He need's counseling if he does not get any your marriage will not last.I am sorry but that is the fact's plain & simple.You must start giving him some tough love he need's to compromise his video game playing and make time for you as well.A marriage is all about compromise and right now you are getting nothing out of your marriage and that is not fair to you.Good luck to you.
2007-01-20 01:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?
You said he played before you met him, why are you surprised now? You obviously hoped to change him when you married him. maybe you should work on yourself a bit.
I'm willing to bet a kidney he doesn't have any reason to hang with you instead of playing games. he doesn't have an addiction or anything. it's probably just how he's used to spending his free time.
He didn't make you marry at gunpoint. You should have used some common sense before you got married, but since you made the mistake, you need to work at solving it without getting mad at him for being him. Any of the previous suggestions will probably work, but you made this bed.
2007-01-20 02:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes maybe you should put a tv screen up your a.s.s. then he might be interested, wow that's bad even I feel sorry for you I mean I like to play games but when my wife comes into the room and she has something sexy on, I don't care if I'm about to beat the game I press the pause button,and have some REAL fun. the only thing I can think of would be for you to start playing these games with him maybe if he sees that you are willing to try something that he is into he might want to try something that you like
2007-01-20 01:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Weapon X 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oftentimes get approximately 2-4 hours of gaming in an afternoon yet in no way watch television so because it rather is why plenty time is going on gaming. purely from monday-thursday extremely nevertheless as while the weekend comes i'm out the completed time.
2016-10-07 10:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is addicted just like anyone who has an addiction. If talking doesn't work and he is not giving you anytime at all, what is the point of your marriage? I know I wouldnt put up with such treatment and niether should you.Tell him how you are feeling, how it obviously hurts you and is affecting your relationship. Tell him to make a choice. You or his games....
2007-01-20 01:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Light some candles. Put on some victoria's secret and a little perfume and flip the breaker.
If you two don't have any children, you might consider pushing on.
How in the world did you get together?
2007-01-20 01:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by kielbasa7 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Play alot of video games to, but I have to prioritize my responsibilities first...give him a schedule of when he can play and give him some chores or something and see if that helps...
2007-01-20 01:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by gamy2121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋