Hello there,Im currently having a sexual problem with my girlfriend.Before we have intercourse I have an ercertion,but as soon as I put on protection and actually go to have intercourse my exerction goes !! Is this nerve's or is there any soloution to this problem.I have never had this problem before with other women so its a little confusing !!Im am also very attracted to my girlfriend so this is also not an issue !!!
2007-01-20 00:56:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
What about taking Viagra???
2007-01-20 01:11:37 · update #1
You have a normal problem and it is OK. It sounds like you are just concentrating to hard on getting the condom on. You just need more practice to putting it on. Have it ready, relax and don't get anxious about hurrying to put it on. If the erection does down then just put your mind back to your girl friend, and have her stroke it and feel you for a few minutes... It will grow. I commend you for loving your girl friend enough to use protection for you and her. This problem is not about you or your girlfriend or how you feel about her. It is just you get so excited about the time it takes you to put it on. Maybe yo can have your girlfriend to put it on you while you are on your back and erection.. she can touch and pay attention as she rolls the condom onto your erection. Good luck
2007-01-20 03:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have some worries/anxietys or insecurties about the relationship. Instead of heading straight for sex maybe work on the foreplay and go from there. Have a bath together, give her a massage that sort of thing. When your more relaxed, it will happen without you thinking about it. As with condoms, change brands or type, there are some nice lubricants about to that heighten sensitivity like durex feel, heat too. Get your partner involved in putting on condom for you.
2007-01-20 10:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by darkchild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do a couple things.....
1. This is a self-perpetuating mental thing for you now. You are thinking about the problem happening, so it ends up happening. You have got to think about something else to keep focused on her sexy body...whatever. You just can't think about "my erection going down". If you do, that's an automatic penis deflater.
2. Get the condom out of the package prior to initiating lovemaking. This will make it take much less time to put on.
3. Try having your girlfriend/spouse put the condom on your erection while she continues to stimulate you. Your hands can be busy exploring her body, breasts, or vagina and keep your erection solid and your interest up too.
4. Viagra will help, but you don't have an erectile dysfunction problem and that is what viagra is designed to treat. You have a mental confidence problem.
Having her put the condom on will probably take care of the problem, but it is your responsibility to avoid thoughts or concerns about losing your erection. That'll make it happen for sure.
2007-01-20 10:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could try spicing it up a little, instead of you putting on let your girlfriend put it on you. Also try different condoms some have a desensitising ointment on them.
2007-01-20 09:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by stargazer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Could be the condom, maybe u changed the brand or smthing.
2007-01-20 09:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its the condom thats causes it try going in and getting the feel of it then pull out and put on the condom
2007-01-20 09:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a blow up doll or another girlfriend
2007-01-20 15:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by gregg98133 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens more often than you think. unfortunately protection is not a sexy device at all... don't be stressed by this. ask your girl friend to help you lovingly and be loving to her
2007-01-20 09:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by hobson 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
could be to tight cutting off the blood flow
2007-01-20 09:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by bob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably nervous. Just try and relax, it'll happen.
2007-01-20 09:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋