sometimes i probly do deserve it cuz i do get in a lotta trouble but its just really embarassing to get it from her especialy bare butt. im 16 and i dont want her seein me naked. if it was my dad it would be different but shes the spanker in our family. should i be stressing over this or is it no biggie?
2007-01-20 00:50:47 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You could choose to behave yourself, and then its not an issue at all.
2007-01-20 01:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 4⤊ 4⤋
You may deserve some form of punishment but not a spanking on the bare butt. I am a mother of a soon to be 16 year old and even though he is generally quite well behaved he does need to be put back in his place but not by me on his bare ****. That's sick. My children would get smacked once or twice on the bottom when they were young but now they have their computers taken away (only to be used for homework) or not allowed to go out with their friends or take TV,PlayStation's, mobile phones away, given extra jobs to do etc. Even if it was your dad spanking you that would be weird too especially butt naked. Surely if SHE feels the need then she could do it with your pants on. It's not only physical abuse that's mental abuse as well. Maybe you could ask your father to speak to her on your behalf so he can explain how demeaning it is for you that she spanks you naked.(Or doesn't he wear the pants in the family?) Other than that I would speak to your school councillor or CAHMS. I think your mother should seek help!
2007-01-22 09:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Vera K 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter what the rest of us think, it's what your mom and dad think about the subject. No one can tell you not to stress or it's no biggie. It is what it is to you. Try talking to your mom about it and tell her how you feel about being spanked naked. Also, see if your dad can help advocate for an alternative form of punishment because of your age and gender.
If this distresses you a lot Speak to a counselor or social worker at school and see if they can help you figure out a way to approach this with your parents.
Stop getting into so much trouble! Get clear about what your parent's expectations are so that you can avoid this whole situation in the future. Talk to someone about how you can make better decisions so that you can not get into so much trouble.
2007-01-20 08:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Blackgold347 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Taking your other questions and your profile into account, I'm going to suggest that you talk with a counselor at school or somehow get an appointment with a professional counselor (the doctor kind). Not because there's anything wrong with you, but I think you're being abused in a subtle way and being made to feel it's all your fault. Please go, Taylor. You deserve a much better life than you're living and there is help out there. You're a much better person than you've been led to believe. Please go, kiddo, I care about you.
2007-01-20 12:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I spank my kids, but they are under ten years old. You are too old. There are other things that you mother needs to do, at this point, to punish you.
For instance, she could ground you for a month, take the car keys away if you have access to them, or ban you from the phone, computer, and television.
Sixteen is an age, though, to where I feel spanking no longer does any good. If you were my kid, getting into a whole bunch of trouble, I'd ship you off to Marine Military Academy and let THEM straighten you out if other forms of discipline weren't doing the trick.
2007-01-20 10:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you feel that you could be approaching trouble, dodge it, and avoid it. That will prevent you from the embarassment of your mom seeing your bare butt.
2007-01-20 08:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by jessrich1000 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
then you might want to stop getting in trouble and you are a minor untill 18 but i would think that they should stop around 16 somewhere but maby you need to think about what you are doing to cause this problm if she does it for no reason then maby you need to talk to your dad
2007-01-20 14:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by jab 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not too young. Their house their rules. You are old enough to know if you do something wrong then you need to not do it. And you know what will happen if you do it. If you want it to stop then you need to stop doing things to get you into trouble. Stop doing stuiped stuff and you will not get spanked. Really easy!
2007-01-20 14:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
ya may knock some sense into you and make you think again before doing what ever you did to get the whooping in the 1st place
2007-01-20 23:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by rives 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not getting in trouble = not getting spanked. Are you sure your 16?
- Bride
2007-01-20 10:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tori 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You're joking, right?
By the time I was 16 there was no rule my parents could enforce and I was out drinkin' and druggin' and stealing their car and climbing out my window...
I don't recommend any of that, but, yes 16 is too old for a bare-bottom or any other kind of spanking. Get help now.
2007-01-20 09:01:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 6⤋