My friends and in-laws has made some crude comments about me stayed home as a housewife, after my baby was born 3 months ago. Some of them have asked questions such as " Are you still staying home?", other commented, " ....but you were make good money before" . I guess many people think I have a easy life because I'm mooching off my husband financially .
What I do care about is my husband's feeling, because I love him. I would like to this chance to take a poll from the audience and use it as my guidance.
To husbands: What are your feeling towards a housewife like me? explain( Don't worry I can take the criticism.)
2007-01-20 00:42:01 · 20 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whoever is questioning your decision, is just hatin' on you & probably for more than just staying home. From what I can tell from your page, your looks and intelligence are probably included. The decisions you & your husband make govern your house, not theirs. Remind them of that.
2007-01-20 01:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by w8n4u0 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2014-12-16 15:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a husband, I preferred that my wife not work because I knew that just keeping house and taking care of a child was quite enough work. On the other hand, I've seen how socially isolated such a person can become - they need to get out with other people, maybe work a part-time job, something like that. Anyone who doesn't value the labor involved in keeping a house running hasn't done it.
2007-01-20 00:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by mattzcoz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you staying home if you can live off of just one income and you are happy doing it. My wife does it. Being a housewife is just like having a full time job. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, kids, etc. Don't worry about what your friends and family say. Maybe they are just jealous that they can't stay home. I have a lot of respect for a housewife like you, and I'm sure your husband does too, and he's the one that matters.
2007-01-20 00:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is a good idea - basing a major life decision on the comments of strangers.
This is a private decision between you and your husband based on your financial needs, the needs of your baby and your own situation.
Being a full-time mother isn't an easy option. I can't help but feel how sad our society is now that a mother who wants to look after her own children is considered as "mooching".
I don't work outside the home (although I often do small jobs for people) and I don't consider myself as living off my husband. These are his children and they deserve the best care - no one loves my children as I do.
2007-01-20 00:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its nothing bad to be a housewife. Anyway its not easy to be one even though I have no idea what its like to be. But i know the whole lot of household chores can keep anyone occupied more than at work. Anyway if your husband can support you and child with no monetary probs then there is no issues. whats impt here is how your husband feels about you staying at home.
2007-01-20 00:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you misinterpreted them. Most women I know take several months off after pregnancy to be with their child. If I were a husband, I would give my wife all the time she needed.
I think most people would feel like that so I'm surprised your friends have made comments contradicting that.
2007-01-20 00:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife WANTS to stay home and be mom. I wish I could get the job to provide without her working, This would actually put the burden on working on me and raising the kids on her, which both of us agree.
Her parents have a hard time with this. They complained about her not finding work, she is now working. They then complained I didn't make enough.
Go figure.
My wife and I don't like the idea of paying someone else to raise our children. We have the right to raise our kids in our values, not the daycare. Plus, the cost of daycare literally wipes out one of the paychecks. It is more beneficial and cost effective for her to stay home.
Besides, the kids benefit the most when one of the parents is there for them. Trust factor.
2007-01-20 01:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married anymore but me and my partner at the time when bringing the kids up swapped roles occasionally. Being a housewife/husband is as hard work as any other job but you don't get paid for it, I commend you.
Your friends and in-laws comments don't sound rude or offensive at all.
2007-01-20 00:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband would say that the two of you should be greatful that you can stay home and raise your child......as he always says....when you are married, it's one pocket! So if you can survive on just his income then the child is much better off....good luck and ignore rude comments from others.....
2007-01-20 00:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋