If your answer is no. how to get girls parents together to make this decision in their own interest & girls interest and stop the menace of dowry and dowry deaths/related harassment.
Do you think it will work for others – I personally feel it will. You are at liberty to disagree with me and if so tell me why you think so.
If you agree with me talk to parents and get this society rid of dowry and its associated ills.
My experiment:
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I carried on a life long experiment with my own daughters and nephew and nice.
I made them understand the value of dignity of labour and allowed them to do all their works including washing their cloths dishes etc. Treated all of them equally. Gave them yearly budgets and gave them this money as 12 monthly installments mage their financial affairs. The aim is to make them confident that they can manage.
2007-01-20 00:22:31 · 6 answers · asked by righteducation 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I don't think mairrages will be stopped but really it will lead peoples to think not to ask for dowry. To eradicate this evil from our society we should not give our daughters to them who are asking for a dowry.
2007-01-20 00:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by rinku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is NO to the above question.
In the worst case 75 percent of marriages will be delayed and rest 25 percent of marriages woul take place as per time. The refusing of girls parents to pay dowry should continue for decades and decades,then only change would definitely come and the 25 percent figure would rise to 100 percent.
2007-01-24 00:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by dramakrishnarao2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question first. Marriages wouldn't stop if girls' parents refused to pay dowry. As I agree fully with you there is no question of explanation I guess.
Hats off to you for having imbibed the value of equality of sexes in the girls of your own family. I'm sure they have come out mentally and morally stronger with lots of confidence in their being and abilities. All parents should ideally emulate you.
But I will relate an incident, the nature of which I suppose, you are not altogether unfamiliar with. A young man had just been selected as an IAS probationer. He was preparing to set off for his training. Lots of people were coming to congratulate him on his feat. A few also came with photographs of their daughters. Not only was the young man shown the photos but was furnished with a list of goodies that he would stand to gain if he married the daughter of Mr So & So. As the news spread, the competition heated up with the stakes being raised considerably. It was as if Mittal was bidding for Arcelor against another competitor. And do remember that the girls' parents were all decently educated moneybags. With these kinds of open temptations can you really always blame a boy's parents for dowry?
So a total change in their mentality is the need of the hour. And that calls for a revolution of sorts. Every girl's parents saying "no" to dowry. Can girls' parents really accept that challenge? Revolution demands sacrifices. Initially some girls might have to end up spinsters for life. Their parents, if traditionally inclined, might not die in peace, being unable to see their daughters comfortably settled as housewives. Some married girls might have to face torture from their husbands and in laws for failing to bring in more dowry. But it will end the misfortunes of the women folk of India. The centuries old evil of dowry will be wiped out for good and ensure that all girls lead their married lives with dignity. It will ensure that lives of innocent girls are not snuffed out in their prime because their parents failed to pay a hefty dowry.
Let everyone heed to your call and make Indian society safer and better for their daughters.
2007-01-20 01:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The type of marriage they have in India is a big problem, I believe. They also take weddings WAY too seriously over there. I think you have the best idea I've seen yet. The money management, especially, is a very good idea. Lots of people don't know how to manage money, and that's a great gift you gave them.
2007-01-20 00:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages cant stop. But if it begins, it will bring a revolution in India.
2007-01-20 00:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tarun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, BUT WHY CAN'T A BOY & A GIRL CAN DECIDE ABOUT THEIR MARRIAGE ? WHY YOU INVOLVE PARENTS IN TO THIS ?
2007-01-20 00:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋