I was still shocked at first but now reality has sunk in im filled with utter dread its making me feel so depressed. I dont no how ill cope im only 23 part way thru my degree. The babies dad isnt happy about all of this and i cant rely on him. I feel so stupid for gettin myself in this position, my instinct is to abort this pregnancy but i feel so evil when i think about it.
Has anyone else shared these feelings at all??
2007-01-20 00:09:51 · 7 answers · asked by stacie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I felt the same way with my first. It was a very emotional pregnancy for both me and my husband. We weren't married at the time and almost split up because we didn't communicate with one another. I became severely depressed while pregnant.
When our daughter was born, we completely changed. We began talking more and really became a family. We got married when she was four months old.
I'm not suggesting that everyone has the same kind of experience, but a LOT of people go through the feelings of dread and panic--whether or not their pregnancy was planned.
Whatever you do, don't stop communicating with baby's dad. He's part of the creation of this child. He has a right to know whatever decisions you make regarding keeping the baby. And if you have the baby and keep it you're going to be stuck with baby's dad for at least 18 years--even if you break up.
2007-01-20 00:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by pattypuff76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! But since I am strongly against abortion, so I will say Don't do it. Especially if you feel guilty just thinking of it, you will feel terrible after it is done and that is not something you can undo.
I was 18 had a 4 month old baby and found out I was pregnant again. Talk about getting depressed! I gave my second baby up for adoption, which was hard but the best thing I could have done. It is open and she knows me and who I am. I have my son who is 9 now, I am working on my 2nd degree and we are happy. You don't need the baby's dad, I have never got a cent of child support. You can do it! Look at the positives everyday to try to get you out of the blues. Everything happens for a reason! Good luck to you! If you would like to talk my messenger is the same as my ID on here.
2007-01-20 08:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by jenandmj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you are in this situation. You really need to sit down with your partner and work out the pros and cons of the situation.If you can't count on him for even this, then you will have to ake the decisions on your own.Don't do anything rash,think it out,but don't beat yourself up over it.You are certainly not evil for contemplating abortion, it may very well be the best case for your situation, but it is a very personal decision, that nobody can tell you to do or not.You need to decide if finishing your degree and being a mother in the future will make you the best mother you can be or wether juggling everything now,you will be the best mother you can be. It can be as simple as the support around you.If you have to do this totally alone,it will be a hard road.
don't forget, don't beat yourself up, you are neither stupid nor evil.I wish you luck.
You will get some neg judgemental advice here....please ignore it.
2007-01-20 08:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by BeeMay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear Sister Friend
The thought of abortion is ugly, those ugly feelings run deep. However, if you do abort, you have a chance to finish you degree, find someone who loves you and wants you to mother his children, marry you and love you unconditionally.
If you have the baby, well you know that you are on your own so be prepared for that and make sure you have a support system.
You already know that he is unreliable. You cannot hope that he will change. You will put yourself through some unneccessary pain if he will not be there for you.
If you are ready for this(which no woman ever is) then go for it, you will soon see your beautiful baby and can put the pieces of your life back together again soon.
It's not the end of the world.
Put God first.
One love
Puddinpop
2007-01-20 08:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by mstdean518 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty normal to have negative/positive/mixed feelings about a pregnancy. The main thing is to do what is best for YOU. Forget what he wants or doesn't want, in the end, it will be your decision. Although I am against abortion, I respect everyones choice. Just make sure you can deal with the after affects. If you chose to have the baby, just do what is best for you and the baby.
Good luck on the baby, whatever you chose :) Good luck on your degree too.
2007-01-20 08:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by ~Anna~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was scared when I found out I was pregnant with my first son, but after having him, and his brother I wouldnt change it for the world. Your choices are having this baby, giving it up for adoption , or having an abortion. No one here can make up your mind for you. If you keep the baby or give it up for adoption, make sure you seek prenatal care. And tell your family. It will be alot easier to tell them now then when you are in labor. I wish you all the best
2007-01-20 08:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If your heart says keep the baby....then keep it and it will work out somehow.
2007-01-20 08:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Babyface 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋