ok well heres the story just over a year ago my ex and i broke up over me cheating on him (i know my bad!!) anyway we remained good friends (still sleeping together,goin on holidays,family partys together) and i met someone else and he got really jelous,it wasnt serious with the other guy and that was over ages ago anyway last nite my ex txt me sayin he didnt think he coud keep being like this with me and it was getting to the point where he wanted all or nothing,now i still love him always have and the time i cheated on him i was very drunk and it was a mistake but i understand why we broke up,he said to me last nite that he wasnt sure if he could trust me if im out drinking but im willing to give up going out and getting drunk (i only go out once a month if that) if he wants to try again but he thinks this is unfair of him to ask me,he is coming up tonite to discuss it all how can i make him see that im ready to comit to him seriously??
2007-01-20 00:07:29 · 15 answers · asked by lolls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok just to put it striaght i dont go out whoring about i slept with one person when i was drunk and i only go out drinkin once a month so i dont do it alot
2007-01-20 00:16:19 · update #1
You need to quit drinking and whoring around for him to take you seriously
2007-01-20 00:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Looks like in his eyes you have hurt him twice. He was just getting over you cheating by forming another relationship with you, he was obvioulsy taking things slowly to put his own mind at ease that he he could trust you again, then while he is building this trust you go out with someone else. You have probably knocked him back to square one. Drink is no excuse to cheat, sorry. If you are committed, drink will never cloud your love for someone. If youu really in your heart want to be with him, then explain that the 1st time was a genuine mistake and when you went out with the second person, you didnt fully understand the situation of your relationship with him, but you do know. See what he has to say, he is probably badly hurt. Good luck.
2007-01-20 08:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in his position. As he said the trust is gone. He doesn't think you're serious about a relationship with him and he thinks he's being taken for a ride by you.
Whatever comes out of your mouth means nothing to him. The only thing you can try doing is change the way you act.
The way to do that is stop going out to drink. Because that is what started it all.
Don't tell him you'll stop drinking, just do it. If you want him that bad it shouldn't be hard.
He might be coming over tonight to end it...because it hurts too bad for him to have to look over his shoulder to see what you might be doing.
Good luck
2007-01-20 08:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only way he will know is if you show him. Make him see that you are ready, if you really don't care about going out that much then stop, spend more time with him and be honest at all times. If you do feel like going out invite him make it a night for you two to have new experiences. But must important of all let him know exactly how you feel.
2007-01-20 08:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he comes over tonight that you love him. That your sorry & have grown & learned from your mistakes and will do whatever it takes to regain his trust. Tell him you will give up anything for him. Then someday when you have gained trust again it will probably be cool to go out with a friend or 2 sometimes .
2007-01-20 08:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not discuss that you are ready to start a new life with him by finding a rented accomodation in joint names and that you would like to put him jointly on your bank card. also that if he doesnt want to stay around that you are ready to leave everything behind for him. if he feels the same he would want that too. dont propose for marriage just yet- you dont want to sound too desperate.
cook him a nice meal tonight and discuss possible properties. you would like him to be with you and you love him. that you cheated on him once, and you were confussed but you know what you want.
2007-01-20 08:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not that I condone your behaviour or anything, but you could always play the "everybody deserves a second chance" card. See if that works. Tell him you've grown up a lot since then and that if there was anything in the world that you could do to turn back the clock then you would.
2007-01-20 08:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Elmo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well its up to you i guess you are gonna have to compromise when you go out ask him if he wants to go with you. Or just stay in and have a romantic dinner you don't need to drink to have fun, work on your problems alcohol is not the solution its the problem.
2007-01-20 08:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES OFFER HIM SOME KIND OF SECURITY, DO YOU WANT HIM ALONE OR NOT? DONT BREAK HIS HEART AGAIN BE HONEST IF YOU ARE NOT READY FOR A ONE ON ONE RELATIONSHIP?
RESPECT HIS FEELINGS FOR YOU, NOT EVERYONE IS BUILT TO SWITCH EMOTIONS BETWEEN MORE THAN ONE PERSON, IF YOU CANNOT COMMIT TO HIM HAVE A BASIC FRIENDSHIP THAT DOES NOT INCLUDE INTIMACY AND DO NOT TELL HIM ABOUT YOUR CONQUESTS
DO NOT DO ONTO OTHERS THAT YOU DO NOT WANT DONE TO YOURSELF IF YOU REALLY LOVED HIM YOU WOULD UNDERSTAND HOW HE FEELS GOOD LUCK
2007-01-20 09:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by BettyBoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will show him how committed you are to him be careful make sure you both really love and want to be together and its just not the fact that you cant let each other go he obviously loves you but make sure he wants to be with you for the right reasons
2007-01-20 08:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by claire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk the walk, and Talk the Talk, and allow HIM to see that you are a Changed Person!
Oh yes, stay OFF THE BOOZE!
Thanks, RR
2007-01-20 08:11:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋