I loike this guy... a lot just that he wants me only for sex! I like him but I won`t do it! He is always hitting on girls, you know, he type of macho guy, etc. The thing is that I want to change him so we can be togheter! I want to know how to change him!
2007-01-19 23:52:29 · 18 answers · asked by silly_bitch 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
not worth your energy
2007-01-20 01:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by kardea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone, evidently he doesn't sound like a very nice person so I wonder whether you only want him for his looks and to make other girls jealous.
You can't change people they are who they are he could even be a sociopath now would you want to get caught up with him? there are over 3 million walking the streets of america and they're very good at conning you
Go find someone who will actually respect you and stop wasting your time on this guy
2007-01-20 00:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you gave up the goods to this guy, you have not a chance to change this guy. Next time you meet a guy like him that you really want, refuse to give up the goods, act like you don't like him (but don't be extremely rude) and he'll not be able to resist you. Most guys will deny this, but they go nuts over women they perceive to be a challenge. Just remember to not give up the goods (sex).
Trying to change a guy is one of the classic errors that women commit. Don't marry or have sex with a guy and then expect him to change, it will never happen. Marry someone that you wouldn't dare have changed in the least.
2007-01-20 00:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by miss_ursie_la 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change another person, simply because you can only make your own decisions.
What the other person decides is out of your control.
All you can do is tell him how you feel about the things he does that affect you. If he won't change, then it's up to you to decide whether you want to spend more time on him or not.
2007-01-20 01:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by The Orange Whisperer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot change the person but you can change the look he has on you.
stop making love when he wants
and be nice and funny with him, become his friend ...
but ... it takes time ... years ...
have you never had a love with one of your old friends. that you were with for fun (not sex)(laughing and having drinks and ha ha ha) because of the circumstance (school mate, working collegue, friend of friend) and slowely you realise that you enjoy here /hes presence, if she/he is not around you may be looking for her/him ?? he/she is not bad, nice body, face ok, feminine /masculine ... and one day you discover by being close that, you want to touch here/him, skin contact, reciprocity, you approach by some touch like snake removing hair from eyes (i am a man ! so translate this on your side !!) until you grab here and passion explodes ?
well you must create something like this. you know he likes your body. let him forget about your body (do not dress sexy for him any more) talk to him about other man like you would talk to a friend, ask him advices on man you want to have and you ... make him jealous ... and go to this stage ... BUT LET HIM COME !!!
AND LET HIM COME ONLY AFTER HE FORGOT YOU WERE A GOOD F*CK sorry to be to straight but so you understand clearly the idea
if in bed he had good time with you he will always be attracted by you. keep this in mind.
and if he still wants you it is because he likes you. because he is having fun with someone he likes (by bugging you) and maybe bingo he will have a nice evening !! so he likes you. (not like he had you and you do not exist for him anymore )
and he will be yours forever (or a great amount of time)
2007-01-20 13:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by tomcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sweet sweet dear Only God can change a man and the way he things.
Stop lying down with him in is be soon he will either come to his senses are just move on to the next girl.
Now I know that you see you him but he just thinks of you as sex releif and as long as you comply he will never see you in a different light.
2007-01-20 00:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tom Sawyer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
speaking from personal experience, dont change him. people are who they are, if he truly wants more, he will come around. you always got to remember you deserve someone who gives you their full attention, not who goes and flirts with other girls. does he know how you feel about him? if not maybe sit down and talk with him and let him know you want a relationship. if he doesnt want that then you know, and there are always other men out there hunny. if you all are meant to be it will happen one way or another. good luck
2007-01-20 00:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by Heather0925 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can redecorate things, redo your hair, paint this and that, but ask yourself, how much have I change since I've known me, you may change you habits, but changing anything about someone else can only lead to being manipulated...that person could just trick you and change in this or that way enough to get what he wants from you and move on....people do what's best for them not you....good luck
2007-01-20 00:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You can not change a human being. Either you accept who and what he is now or forget it. It is easier to force a horse to drink water than to change a human being.
2007-01-20 00:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by chi A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna say no, you can't. Find a decent man, one who's mature and wants you for more than your anatomy. Don't you think you deserve at least that?
2007-01-20 00:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can change another person only if he wants to be changed.
2007-01-20 00:03:41 · answer #11 · answered by Foxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋