I'm 16, My older brother is 18, and my dad is 47. My younger brother is 10. Out mom doesn't live with us. Anyway, the last week or so after school, my youngest brother has been going out of his way to try to see me, our older brother, and our dad naked. He hasn't succeded yet, but it's getting kind of awkward. We all share a bedroom, and we only have one bathroom. He has been trying to hide and look while he doesn't think we're looking. He almost got me too! Luckily I grabbed a towel quickly. Now it's the weekend and we have to spend two whole days like this. And to make matters worse, I caught my brother looking at a picture of me in a speedo from one of my swim meets. This is really getting awkward. What should we do? Thanks to anybody who can help. My dad and older brother are just as disturbed as I am.
2007-01-19 23:21:24 · 22 answers · asked by Nathan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think if you look nervous & sensitive it will go more important for him.
so just be relax & dont punish him .
find out if his friends are gay or much older than him.
talk to him to change his friends.
i think you have to act like it is not important to you that he sees you naked(accidentally)& let him see you!!!
2007-01-19 23:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should talk to him. Did anyone give him the "birds and the bees" talk yet? He is at the age where he's starting to change and wonder about everything. He's most likely just trying to see if you all are the same. I definately wouldn't take it in a gay way. Have your dad talk to him or maybe you should because you're younger. But don't ignore it. He's just curious.
2007-01-19 23:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by stephyrose87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww poor boy... ask him, "do u like looking at guys naked" or ask him if he has any questions about his body that he feels he needs answered
i mean maybe he is starting to grow pubes and feels wierd about it and wants to know what u older guys do about it...
just because he is doing this doesnt mean that hes gay... but if he is let him know that its ok to like men.. just not family men... and isnt this about the time when u started to realize ur man hood and all that was going on with it... and when it would get hard and everything... werent u curious about what to do and what it looked like on other people... i mean i was also curioius if my bajinga was different from others.. i didnt spy on people to find out... but then again everyone is different...
PS tell ur dad its time that u all got a bigger place...
thats a lil freaky that he has u all in the same room... ur too old and need ur own space
2007-01-19 23:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by red.one9luv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You r younger brother is almost getting ready for puberty. I don't think he is gay or anything like that. He's at the age of discovery, I think he is trying to look to see size wise if he is um...well,,,if he's the right size or how big his will get. I think he is just curious. Have dad or 1 of you boys have a talk with him & ask if he has questions. my son & nephews were upstairs 1 day ..my son was around 10, nephews were 11 & 12......older 1 came runnin down askin whats wrong with my sons weeny.......i said OMG whats happened? He said we were changin for bed and his weeny is like way shrunk in or something. i went up & demanded to see it thinkin somethin was wrong. My son was fine..his was just smaller. My nephews pulled their pants down & said see our is normal. Them boys even at that age were HUNG like horses.I had to explain that kids all develope at different ages. Later I explained to my son that I did't think his was gonna be like theirs but his dads is quite normal ,,,so his will be too when he is older.
I NEVER wanna have that TALK again!
2007-01-19 23:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is this fiction? a fantasy? why do you think it will be 2 days of the same? Do you guys get naked all the time? Close the door when you shower, lock it. That's the best way to deal with him, unless of course you want him to see you. Why do you guys share one bedroom,? This sounds fishy to me
2007-01-21 13:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is 10 then your father should sit him down and talk to him. His body is starting to change and maybe this worries him. Your father should not just skirt around the issue. He is probably trying to look to figure out what is going on with himself. Someone needs to definately talk to this young man.
2007-01-19 23:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is odd, best bet start locking all the doors. Has anyone tried to talk to him about it? He may just have some curious guy question and is trying to figure it out for himself. Of course he could be- well but its still odd for him to scope out his family if that were the case. i say sit him down and have a long talk with him.
-NmD!
2007-01-19 23:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him - look - it's okay if you are gay, but you can't be attracted to your own family members, even if you are straight and it's just curiosity. Stop trying to see us naked, we all know you are doing it, it's disturbing, and if you do it again I'm going to demand a whole family meeting about your behavior. If you are gay you are my brother and that's fine but find a boyfriend outside our family whose dick you can stare at or there's going to be enormous trouble around here.
Your dad really should be the one saying this but he sounds paralyzed at the moment. Tell him to take the lead and demand this behavior stop as well or off goes brother to counseling.
2007-01-19 23:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe the kid had his first erection or something and he was all surprised...maybe he thinks he is different than all of you because of that and he tries to make sure he is not...
since there is so many guys there in the house you are probably not used to talking, mothers usually do that...but do try to talk with him, asking why he does that, what is he tring to see, what is he trying to find out? your dad should ask him that as he is, after all, the head of the family, dont worry, i think its pretty normal...especially in that age.
2007-01-19 23:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jellyfish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to talk to the little fella. A father and son "birds and the bees" chat. He may be going through puberty and is confused about the changes happening to his body. Sounds like he needs information rather than condemnation.
2007-01-19 23:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by Brainyass 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well its usual for children that age because of the hole puberty thing its just age if you want lol get him a victorys secert book and tell him you should look at women not men im not trying to be funny but it will probly work, being your moms not around your dad should have no problem with that lol
2007-01-19 23:28:19 · answer #11 · answered by Agent 10017 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋