2007-01-19 22:53:03 · 46 answers · asked by john 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-01-19 22:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but it is possible that she is the product of an abusive relationship. You'd think that a child who grew up seeing one parent abuse the other would be the last person who would then go and be abusive in their own relationship, but it is a common problem, as if they think that is the norm. So to be fair, and if she otherwise means the world to you, you could make her seek help, and try to cure her.
However, if she is just a girlfriend, wait until she does it again, deck her and then leave, that would give her food for thought. She will then understand that there are consequences to her actions, and would also then be on the road to recovery, but you'll be free to date someone less disturbed.
Best of luck, whatever the outcome.
2007-01-20 03:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether a man or a woman, it makes no difference.
Living with someone who is violent, is destructive.
I would think that you have two choices here. Either she goes and tries anger management, which she will do if she acknowledges that she has a problem and loves you enough to try and save your relationship, or you walk away.
You can't help someone unless they want you to, and unless they meet you half way.
You can't stay with a violent partner, because you don't want to become a punching ball, a doormat or a willing victime.
It's never to late.
By walking away if she doesn't get help, you are helping both her and yourself.
By staying with her and finding excuses for her, you're encouraging her in this behaviour and your children will have no respect for you in the future.
Good luck.xxx
2007-01-20 04:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should get as far away from that girl as possible. There are plenty of women out in the world that aren't violent that are great women.
I married a woman who had a violent temper, the slightest thing would set her off. I divorced her after she attacked me with a knife. Everytime i look in the mirror each day, i have to see the 2 scar's she left in my face from the knife she wielded when she attacked me. That was 17 years ago.
Get away from this woman now, before she leaves long lasting emotional scars and perhaps physical ones as well.
2007-01-20 00:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will find if you stay that you will hit her back and it will get worse the longer you stay.
your partner might be suffering from depression.
or her parents namely mother was violent and it is leaned behaviour.
you need to go to concealing if you don't it will get a whole lot worse. it's hard for a man being brought up not to hit girls what the hell do you do when the girl hits you? you will only walk away for so long. i walked away at start then hit back what it did was normalised things for the girl. the attacks got worse. then we went to concealing and she went to anger mgt course. it turned out she was suffering from depression from an early age coupled with leaned behaviour. since we went t concealing every thing improved 1000%..
on the other hand a man told me once if you buy a broken cow. you cant ever fix it. to a point it is true. but do you love her. or is it just se.x. the decision is yours.
2007-01-19 23:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by brioduinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your girlfriend about this and explored the reason or reasons for her temper? She can seek advice from her GP if you are able to persuade her. It might be that she needs some cognitive therapy, in which case your GP can refer her. Similarly, your girlfriend could access an anger management course, which many people find useful.
Best wishes, J
2007-01-19 22:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by sirjulian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Think about the future. Is this what you want to live with? Violence gets worse, not better, as individuals become more settled in a relationship. Every time you allow her to become violent, you have reinforced the problem. Leave it and tell her why. If she smartens-up and get help, maybe it will work in the future.
2007-01-19 22:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by David M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can stay or you can go but either way see that she gets help. If you want to stay tell her that your staying is conditional of her getting help from a trained counselor. If you leave tell her the reason why you are leaving and let her know that she should speak to someone. Under no condition should you let her convince you that she doesn't need help from anyone and that you can stay. This is a tactic used to allow her behavior to continue, it is how she will maintain control.
2007-01-19 23:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't really don't know how bad her temper gets but, don't leave her because she needs help. Take her to concelling or do some exercise to help prevent those temper problems. If you don't help, there is a good chance the other persons she falls in love her will end up leaving her. Then that will leave her no where.
2007-01-19 23:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Nirra 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no one deserves to be abused regardless if it is a man or woman.tell her that you care about her if you really do and that you hope that she get's help for her anger problem and the problem that it stem's from but you will not be a part of contributing to it any longer.that is the best thing you can do for both of you.you can not fix her. she has to want to get help and then follow through with it.hope you both end up leading happy lives.good luck
2007-01-19 23:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋