I know this person for a year
I was trying to know him better & be close to him but he showed me that he is interested in physical relation not love.
Though I was always nice to him – I never thought some body would treat me like this – guys could you give me a reason ?
Note: I am not ugly
2007-01-19 22:52:51 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is a good side and a bad side to it.
First of all, the bad side: he's just looking for a booty call. He's just looking around for someone he can just share temporary happiness with in a no-commitment way. He wants someone to use as a pleasure toy. When he's in for some boinking, he comes to her, but when the mood's not there, she might as well be some by-passer he doesn't even know.
And now the good side: It is a good thing that you found out about it this early. It may at first be considered rude for a guy to just say it up front that he's just looking for some cake to cut but that is a lot better instead of him playing around with your feelings. Girl, if you're out for love, then move on. You don't deserve to be treated by someone out for some boinking. At least this early, you get to realize he's not the one for you.
You're guy's out there somewhere. Good luck in searching for the right one and get over Mr. Booty-call! Cheers!
2007-01-19 23:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by tango_adamantine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guy may have some other psychological issues that you are not aware of such as low self esteem. Even though a person might think they are hot stuff, he may think he is not worthy. Also, he could be afraid of getting hurt so he pushes people away instead of acting in a mature, responsible fashion.
A better question to ask yourself is why are you allowing a guy to treat you like this? What issues do you face that landing you up in this situation? When you can feel good about yourself, you wont choose guys like this.
This guy is obviously not worth you. Don't let his treatment of you make you believe less.
Good luck
2007-01-19 23:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a female, but I think I can help. People that are rude haven't needed anyone in their whole life...if you been all the way down you know what it is like to hurt someones feelings and it's the last thing you'll ever do. After 9/11 I can't believe what I still see what people are doing, that is not being serious. what if someones said help I have a knife in my back, run, get help.....and some low I.Q. person is just standing there being rude acting like some model he saw one time.....just asleep at the wheel .... these people are not smart...don't matter if he is you friend.....you RUN, towards someone that is ready for anything....wake up.........oh yea, when men come into them selves, like we start our monthly around 12 to 14 or so, that is their friend...once the harmones kick in for men they simply cannot hear....good luck...
2007-01-19 23:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah the answer is simple, hes not interested in you.. it doesn't have to do with being ugly or not cuz he could treat the prettiest girl bad and he could fall in love with someone not so good looking and treat her with respect.. but in conclusion hes a jerk and a man shouldn't use any girl for her body..
2007-01-20 10:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be he is just not interested in more than sex. It is his problem not yours. Sounds like he has taken advantage of you.
Take what you've learned and move on, have more self respect and don't get involved with guys like this.
2007-01-19 23:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like that. They want to use others for personal gain, and they don't care about the other person.
It really sounds like he was just trying to use you for sex, to please himself, and not you. So, unfortunately for you, you have to just keep looking for someone else (if you want to), or hope someone right will come your way.
2007-01-19 23:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Ultima vyse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks thats your only worth to him.
2007-01-19 23:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just possible that you deserve it? Be honest with yourself.... are you being objective and open in your discussions with him?
2007-01-19 23:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry.
Forget him.
2007-01-19 23:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋