He was my one true passionate love. we haven't been in contact for over 20 years and I do not want to contact him. these dreams really bother me-I keep thinking about them. I do not think about him during the day. any advice?
2007-01-19 22:34:23 · 19 answers · asked by rozern2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try to fix the problem by:
1-saying that these r dreams no more and they r funny
2-if u try 2 think about it during the day try 2 think about other thing.
3-make ur self stronger than that hunny lsn give ur self daily 15 min. before u sleep by saying he is nothing and it's just dreams and my husband is amazing no 1 like him he is my only love i was sullfish when i fill in love with that guy
***and belive me time by time once by once day by day these dreams will start not 2 efect u and u will start to forget that guy and fill in love with ur husband
good luck my lady xoxoxo
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2007-01-19 23:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is, why isn't your husband your one true passionate love? What's he not doing for you that this other guy did? If you can figure that out and get your husband to do it, maybe it will help.
If you're not going to contact the other guy (and on planet earth it's better that you don't) you can either keep it to yourself and keep being bothered by it, or you can talk to your husband and be honest with him. Don't make him feel second best though. If it's purely a sexual thing, see if you and your husband can kick it up a notch. You are really in the driver's seat on this one and it sounds like you've thought it through already and will be fine... just make sure your husband knows there's nothing to be threatened about.
I tell ya, one thing I hate is this feeling girls have that they can never love anybody like their first love... or like some guy is always there looming over them and he means more than the guy you settled on, even though your new guy treats you better. GET OVER IT! You can love again, and EVERY BIT as powerfully and fulfillingly. It doesn't mean you have to forget your past experiences, but dear God, give the new guy a chance!
(Sorry about the last part, it's just a pet peeve of mine).
2007-01-19 22:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by thebobcatreturns 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I did...I hurt still today for a lost love. But how do we consider that we are happily married. Strange as it sounds, I was able to find peace in a dream. I was able to tell that person the way I felt. I know that is not possible for all people but if eased the pain of kicking my self so to speak...I was told that lost loves are like a death...it is true. I hope you find peace
2007-01-19 22:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common for people to dream about ex-partners. Individuals that have been an important part of our lives continue to take up a part of our mind and heart. It is impossible to very dramatically shut the person out of thoughts and feelings. Just because the relationship ends does not mean that all is finished. As we go through relationships we learn and at times pick up "battle wounds." You will continue to dream about your ex until you "let go" of him on a very important level, or until you learned your lessons from that relationship. Either way, dreaming about your ex-romance does not predict future involvement. It may be wish-fulfillment, reliving memories, or working out old issues.
2007-01-21 01:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are funny & usually mean the opposite. I have had dreams of famous people, & people I dont like, I have heard dreaming about other people does not mean you want to be with them but either you want to be more like them, or you want your partner to maybe a little like them, not a bad thing, the person your dreaming of could be adventerous or sponataniouse, I am not sure what but you could just wish your partner is like them in that way, not syaing you want to change your partner as your partner could be better in 100 different other ways or else you wouldnt be with him. Dont stress, you dont control your dreams so dont let them control you, wake up & laugh about it.
If you are not sure, search on Googl about dream interpreters.
I hope I have helped you.
2007-01-19 22:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me when we dream of the other, its not that we want them, it is that there is something that we miss in that person and we really like it and maybe it is something that you wish your husband had.I know for me, i dream often of my first love.We shared a very special bond.Me and my mouth ruined it for me, talking about marriage to early. we did't fight, we had alot of good times together. Me and my husband share alot of arguments and i think that is why i dream of him, i miss the not fighting part. I could be wrong, but that is what i get from my drems of my first love
2007-01-20 07:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was not and should not be your one true passionate love. Because if he was you would have been with him. So all I can say is move on. Don't let those past ruin your present time.
2007-01-19 22:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by anthony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop feeling guilty about dreams you have no control over. people have waking fantasies they don't feel guilty about and they have control over those! don't read any more into it than you already have....i have had sexual dreams at one time or another about many of the men in my life that are not even remotely interesting to me by day...in fact, I've woken up before and thought....oooh, GROSS!!!!! let it go and stop worrying.
2007-01-19 22:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by jewlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that ur husband has not given u the physical pleasures which u got from him. Do not crib as u may have had many things in life thru ur husband.
2007-01-19 22:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dreams may contain messages, may mean there is a conflict i your marriage. u just regret loosing him, and maybe aren't satisfied with your life. so your dreams are bringing u back to a time and place u were most happy.
2007-01-20 00:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋