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my husband and i had a small business,but he was always drunk when he came home..we have a baby girl so i cant stay longer in our store..what shall i do..everytime we left him there,then thats what happen to him cos his friends always go there to join that session..whatever!!!i dont know what to do.. mail me plsss tenx

2007-01-19 22:12:54 · 4 answers · asked by pheng 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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You can't stop him and if you try, you will drive yourself crazy. He's addicted and he has to want to do it for himself and he most likely wont really try to quit until it has caused a lot of damage in his life, like perhaps the loss of the business, the loss of his marriage, a serious car accident, or perhaps spending time in jail due to drunk driving. I think you should tell him that you don't want that sort of trouble in your life and you don't want to raise your baby in that sort of environment. Tell him that his lack of respect for himself, his marriage, and his family is causing you to lose respect for him. Then take the baby and spend at least a couple weeks away from him, or longer if necessary, until he makes up his mind to straighten up his life. This will give him time to think about it and really feel what he's about to lose because of his irresponsible thoughtless behavior.

2007-01-19 23:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0 0

He is an alcoholic. I married a type of. It bought to the factor wherein he felt he did not have a predicament, I was once worn out of it and after a pair years took all of our financial savings, packed up the children, left him and drove around the nation. That was once his get up name. He honestly bought himself right into a rehab, did that for six weeks. Then requested if he would fly as much as wherein we had been and be with us. I stated sure. He was once my husband and I adored him and desired him to get higher. I advised him to stick in a sober apartment for a couple of months and if he would keep sober and attend AA conferences, we might reside in combination once more and be simply excellent. So he stayed sober and attended conferences and I believed he was once at the direction to recuperation. Let him transfer again in with me and instantly, after months of sobriety he began consuming once more. I ended the connection for well. And that was once the excellent choice I ever made. I desired him to be higher, not to be a inebriated, so he made an attempt. But it did not paintings considering the fact that he was once doing it for me. Not considering the fact that he real felt he had a predicament and wanted to conquer it. It's been two years considering that I left him and eliminated him from my existence although he's the daddy of my five yr historic son. He bought right into a dating with a lady who is a celebration woman and loves to drink and from what i recognize they've had a few critical issues. He's landed in prison a couple of occasions, he totaled her vehicle. I bought right into a dating with a person who does not drink in any respect. I've obvious him inebriated on New Years of 2011 and that is it in two years. And he hated it and determined to under no circumstances drink once more. Now if I have a pitcher of wine as soon as a month with dinner, he would possibly not also have one with me. He does not love to drink. It's GREAT!!! :) I selected to not hold to be with an alcoholic although I adored him like loopy. It simply wasn't valued at it. This is a miles happier, extra steady, more fit dating.

2016-09-08 02:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by huenke 4 · 0 0

have a good long talk with him and explain what is happening and see if he wont talk to a qualified expert about his problem drinking....You shouldnt have to go thru this along with everything else a woman has to put up with in daily life......sad thing to hear....good luck.....

2007-01-19 22:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0 0

, tell him you will give him 30 days to quit drinking, if he doesn't, leave, or he won't believe you

2007-01-19 23:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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