And its not the first time.He doesnt seem to be interested doesnt matter how i try to spice things up and get all dolled up.Wouldnt you fell rejected,would you get up the next day normal as usual or would you give him the silent treatment? I gave him the silent treatment this morning and he's got the nerve to ask me why im upset
2007-01-19 22:07:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I should not, but if I get turned down usually I give him silent treatment and not because I'm mad but because I'm embarrased and it feels too awkward to act normal.
2007-01-19 22:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you give your man the silent treatment, you cut off communication. This is never the answer to solving problems. How is your husband's health? It may be that he's having problems in his performance and doesn't want to disappoint you in bed. Have you gained a lot of weight? This may be the problem as well.
If you are overweight, get on a diet you can live with and stick to it. Start exercising and let your husband see you going through your paces. This will show him you're serious about losing weight and he'll start being more amorous in bed.
If you're not overweight, something else is going on. It may be that you're too controlling (considering how you enjoy giving him these silent treatments, this may very well be the problem). Perhaps he would rather initiate sex, so stop getting dolled up and don't initiate sex for a while. Give your husband some time, and If he still doesn't seem interested, sit down with him and ask him what's wrong? Ask him in a loving manner; otherwise, you won't get the answer you need.
2007-01-20 06:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get up and share your feelings asking him what is wrong. Communication is lacking in your relationship and its a big part of a trusting marriage. Be sure you never did the same thing to him at one time. He may be paying you back. The silent treatment doesnt work it only makes us men think well she is mad about something and now wont even talk about it so I guess I will wait till she gets over it. When he asked why u were upset you should have discussed it with him.
2007-01-20 06:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The silent treatment works only when you have talked the issue with him before or explained your frustration at being rejected. Find out why he is off and then may be both of you can sort things out. best of luck
2007-01-20 06:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by pet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never find out why he rejected you unless you speak with him.
When are you coming on to him? Has he worked a long hard day? Is he sick or really tired? You have to look at the events that day. I know, if my hubby had a long day at work that he will probably not be in the mood.
You should be open and honest with him, ask him what is up? Don't ask him when your angry though...that will be a bad scene.
Good luck ;)
2007-01-20 11:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give him the silent treatment, let him know that yes you are mad and this does make you feel rejected. Ask him what's going on with him....talk it out so that you can get to the bottom of this, silence wont help a thing
2007-01-20 06:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would gave him a silent treatment and you did nothing wrong. I think he has been seeing someone else behind you or something must have bother your husband greatly.
If this continues in your relationship, at the end he will lead you to find other man.. by then you need not feel guilty coz he can't satisfy you on your needs. Good luck..
2007-01-20 06:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, women don't expect men to be upset when men try to initiate sex and women turn them down cold. Right?
So why should it be different the other way around?
Honestly, more women need to experience what you have felt. It would wake them up to how much it hurts when a spouse rejects you for sex. But since women pretty much control the frequency and occurence of sex, most will never feel that feeling.
2007-01-20 07:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tries to initiate sex with you and you refuse, does he give you the silent treatment the next day? I hate that with women; they reject us men all of the time but if we dare reject their advances they get mad at us.
OK, rant over. You need to TALK to him about what's going on. Sit him down and ask him. Open lines of communication (not "silent treatments") are essential for a healthy, happy relationship.
2007-01-20 06:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give him the silent treatment. I would speak to him long enough to ask WHY he did that, and then...if his answer isn't good (which it won't be because there is no good excuse 4 that!) I will speak to him one more time to tell him to get the hell out of my house and my life.
The cheating, controlling, bastard!
2007-01-20 06:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋