Why men cheat on their wives/ girlfriends??

Question

My aunt told me that when men cheat its because their wife can not make them happy. I thought that was a rather cruel thing to say. What do you think??

Answer 1

I disagree that men cheat because their wives can't make them happy. What I do believe is that there is some aspect of the realationship that is unfilling and they seek to fill that void eslewhere. I also believe that some men do it to boost their ego or to have a "Plan B". Statisically speaking, most men do not leave their wives for their mistresses. I also believe that if a man will cheat on you once, he will cheat on you again. We are taught to forgive and so we do (or try to) and that makes the man feel like he has gotten away with something. If we were never to forgive them , well they would never be given the opportunity to cheat on us (women) again, because well we just wouldn't be with them anymore. Sometimes, they cheat for emotional reasons, or for the thrill. Othertimes, it is because they think that the grass is greener. My theory is the grass may be greener, but it will need to be cut more often, therefore taking alot more work.

Answer 2

Now I agree with all who responded to this question, Does anyone realize that when a man cheats its because he's bored w/his wife/girlfriend or either one don't have that groove going on anymore, The relationship basically has become a convenience, for both parties, and yes this man may be going through some lifes changes and wants a pretty young girl by his side and it makes him feel younger so what. Does anyone realize that when a man cheats the woman whom he's cheating with is actually saving his marriage she is the only who can, since neither husband or wife can see eye to eye and as long as the affair is on the down low, both parties (husband/wife) deserve to be happy.

Answer 3

I would say that MOST men do NOT. Many do, however. Too many for MY tastes. It's the very same way for women as well. As for myself, I have NEVER cheated on a woman under ANY circumstances, even when I KNEW that a breakup was imminent. I have ALWAYS waited until the relationshiop was irretrievably done with. I know MANY men who feel exactly as I do about these things and, I think that MORE people should go around conducting their relationships in this way. A relationship should and MUST be built on trust and respect and to "cheat" on your partner is a betrayal of BOTH and, not a very honorable way to live one's life. Brightest Blessings, Raji the Green Witch

Answer 4

You aunt answered from what she "knew". Not all men cheat and those that do, in some cases it might because of their wives/girlfriends, but in many instances those wives/girlfriends are some of the nicest and most loving people. The reason those men cheat, I feel it is because of their own insecurities, looking for something elsewhere when they should be looking within. But then their little indiscretions leave those wives/girlfriends with the most scarring.

Answer 5

Im answering this question with reference to a real life experience.My elder brother was a very conscientious person and really loved and cared for his first wife and their children.Everyone in the family and all his friends were shocked when we discovered one fine day that he had contracted a second marriage without informing or consulting anyone thus provoking a variety of comments about how deceptive appearances can be etc.But somehow i wanted to hear it from him as to why did he did that and asked him upfront.,he said his first wife had taken his love for granted and in their seven years of married life never cared for him like a wife should and his second wife possessed all the qualities of a good life partner.
The point is that it often occurs that men are literally forced to look for a second option when the first one fails.
That ofcourse is not a rule but a very major cause of what you have asked.

Answer 6

I would have to say the main reason we men cheat is because we lack communication. If we would communicate more with our wives/girlfriends and tell them what we want or how we feel when they do something to hurt us there would be less cheating. From experience the sure-fire way to get your husband/boyfriend to cheat on you is to reject him when he is trying to be intimate with you. Most men find it easier to just go out and cheat than to try to work this problem out, I am not saying that it is right, cheating is not an answer only the doorway to pain, grief,and trouble.

Answer 7

Same reason that women cheat on their partners. What your aunt said is too simplistic. Happiness is the responsibility of the self not the spouse. While the spouse should care for her partner and treat him or her in a loving way, utimately happiness comes from within. Blaming someone else for one's own unhappiness is immoral, irresponsible and immature. Cheating comes out of the same personality flaws.

Answer 8

I have a theory for men or women whom cheats their partners.
Those people are unhappy no matter with whom they are. They can have the one they want and the one they don't want that much, and are still unhappy. I think is a desperate way to look for happiness. No one will be able to make yourself happy but you, is not the person whom you are but the person whom you become that makes you unhappy. Of course that keeping a relationship with a cheater won't make anyone happy, it is hard to admire yourself when you live a situation like this.

Answer 9

Some men cheat because they just can't stick with one person and there's nothing you can do about it. It's not because of the wife, Those men just like to try a variety. I hate those men....

Answer 10

I agree, it is a cruel thing to say. It's telling the female, that they are the guilty one, not him! And that's utter rubbish! How about the man making the wife happy instead? Fair! not the way a man would see it, is it? Talk about male chauvinism! You have a good day!