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ok im almost 39 weeks and not dialated at all! my ob says that she wont induse me untell 2 weeks over my due date....now she said that im measuring big and the baby is like 8 lbs right now!im getting worried because my aunt was preggo with twins and her ob let her go to 41 weeks and both my cousins died the first one was a stillborn and the other lived for only a hour they said her umbilical (how ever you spell it) cord rupsured!! now if my baby is that big already and this is my first baby why is she making my weight?? im getting really scared about it should i just take her word for it that everything will be fine??cause thats what my aunt did and everything wasnt fine......please i need serious answers only

Answer 1

First babies are always late. My first was 10 pounds and two weeks late.

The reasons for making you wait are numerous.

First, babies come when they are ready. You are not in charge. You will not be in charge of your own life for years. The baby, the child, the teenager's needs will come first. Learning this patience, this surrender, is an important development in becoming a mother.

Secondly, induction is a risk. The safest way for your baby to be born is naturally when he or she is ready.

Thirdly, what happened to your aunt is a tragic event. But, it is not your tragedy. You are not having twins, you have a different doctor and you are doing it at a differnt time in history. Every moment of parenthood can be about worry, pain, and fear, if you let it. And the real dangers start when the kid can crawl, walk, speak, drive, go to school. It can stop you in your tracks and prevent you from living. Unless you learn how to manage all of those complex emotions now. If you don't they will prevent you from being a good parent.

I am so sorry for what your aunt went through. It is a story that makes me more grateful for my good doctor and my healthy babies. It, however, is not your story, not your event and is not your experience.

You need to suck it up, count your blessings and give up control.

Sorry to give you some tough love, but you will remember it through nursing, through sleepless nights and teething.

Good luck with the birth. Any time in the next three weeks.

Answer 2

The 40 week mark is not some magical point in your pregnancy when the your body goes off like an oven timer and you go into labor. That's just the average. Normal gestation lasts from about 38-42 weeks. Both of my pregnancies went to 41 weeks and I delivered healthy babies. Was I a basketcase? Yes, but it was just the impatience/excitement of impending births.

Your OB is probably making you wait because- as you've said- you aren't dilated at all. Your body (and your baby) isn't ready yet. Even if she tried to induce you, she probably wouldn't have much luck, and you might end up having a C-section.

That being said- just because you aren't dilated yet doesn't mean you can't/won't go into labor at any time. You might be one of those women that goes from 0-10 in no time at all.

As far as measuring "big", 8 lbs really isn't so bad- and no matter how big you measure, there's a huge margin of error and there's no way to really tell until the baby is born.

Best of luck- be patient- and enjoy the last few weeks of your pregnancy!:)

Answer 3

Don't stress. It's no good for the bub. If your worried about your baby, count the kicks. Time from when your bub starts kicking and when it stops. Every time it kicks or wakes up and flips around, note it down on paper. If you notice your baby becoming less active take yourself to hospital and they'll check the bub's vitals.
Try and bring the labour on yourself. My friends, sister and sister-in-law have all used this method and been successful - Eat something spicy with chili in it. Then take a nice long stroll (about 1/2 hour to and hour). Then come home and have some good loving from your man.
This will solve the problem of having to wait to be induced. My pregnancy was induced and was very painful. Apparently more painful than natural labour.
Good Luck and smile your about to go through the best experience of your life. Sit back and relax and enjoy it all.

Answer 4

Share your concerns openly and honestly with your OB. She can induce you soon as you are over 40 weeks (I was induced in my 1st pregnancy @ 41 weeks).

Do you see a group of Doctors, or only her? It's important to stress to the doctor how you are feeling and let her know what happened to your aunt (as you are related, and share some genetic history).

Above all, try to stress as little as possible - if you are being regularly monitored, they should get you in as soon as you need to be..

Everything is much more likely than not to go well, I wish you all the best!! ..Most important is to keep communication lines open between the Dr. and yourself..

You'll do great, and your baby will be with you so soon (healthy, if not wealthy, at least WELL)..!! ;)

PS. Don't worry about not being dilated.. things can get started and finished VERY quickly.. With my second baby, I was not dilated at ALL, then 3 days later went into labour at night, having him that day!! Conversely, with my daughter (1st baby), I was dilating long before her birth, then ended up having to be induced!!

Answer 5

I can understand why you're concerned, but if your OB was at all concerned, she would have you in hospital by now.
If you do go overdue, they will want to see you several times a week until you deliver, so they should be keeping a close eye on you and your baby in the event of that.
Don't put too much stock in being dilated or not. I dilated from nothing to 10 in just the 4 hours before my son's birth, even faster with my daughter. My waters didn't break until I was delivering both of them. Everyone is different, so just because you're not dilated today doesn't mean you won't deliver tomorrow!

Answer 6

Healthy babies are born weighing 8, 9 or even 10 pounds all the time. It's not particularly fun for the mother, but it's done. They should be monitoring you regularly to make sure the baby is still thriving in the womb. Your aunt's case was different than yours, she had two of them, you mention only one, so try not to worry about it.
If you're still not dilating by next week, ask your doctor if there are things he/she would approve you to do at home to perhaps induce labor naturally. I'm posting a link below. I also read a posting somewhere of another pregnant woman, and what worked for her was acupressure massage in the ankles.

http://www.pregnancyweekly.com/pregnancy_information/inducing_labor.htm

Answer 7

8 pounds is not an extremely large baby. The bonus is you are carrying a single fetus, your aunt should never have been allowed to go that long with twins. Keep an eye on your own health, late term swelling and high blood pressure will help determine if your obgyn will change their mind on delivery. It is also not uncommon for a first baby to be late. Just relax and enjoy your last few weeks of pregnancy as hard as it is as you must be starting to feel uncomfortable.

Answer 8

okay you need to take a deep breath and relax. You have what every first time mum experiences...over thinking everything. My darling little girl wasn't even engaged when I went into be educe and she was born at 41 weeks, and 8lbs 9 oz and a massive 52 centimeters...She's fine, normal little 5 year old now, you need to stop worrying and just remember that the doctors do know what they are doing and Twins are a completely different story all together.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are very worried that lightening will strice twice in your family,but i have never heard of what you described, and i have five babies! 8lb is a good sized bub but they get bigger than that, I am proof, and the babies are born overdue,naturally,and come out just fine! Pleas stop worrying and enjoy these last few days as much as you can, rest a lot, pamper yourself,eat energy foods{They generally take a bit of pushing these bigger bubs!} If you really cant stop worrying tell your dr how stressed you are and that might make har let you deliver on time?Stress is not good! So relax! Good luck to you , and congrats!

Answer 10

Seriously I would not worry......what happened to ur Aunt was terrible but don't take it as an everyday ocurence. Mothers go past their due date all the time and 2 weeks is the norm. If u are feeling that anxious about the birth tell ur ob and talk it through with them. Getting worried about it is undue just try to relax......u never know u may come on time......good luck with it all