My husband hasn't kiss or even touch me since last month. He ask me to do what he wants when he needs it. I told him and he ignored. Living wit family I already got enough depress. They even try to controll me. Keep telling how to take care of my 4 months daughter. Get mad when I go visit my mom in North Cali. once a month. Mother inlaw called my husband stupid for letting me go that often, waste money and so on.. He told me he'll never move out even 5 mins away. Wanted to help his family...My sisters will come visit my daughter and I tomorrow. Should I come wit them back to North cali? I'm tired wit this life, i can see he doesn't love me. Am I a bad mom if I take my daughter away from her dad? please hellllllppppp thanks
2007-01-19 19:59:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was too tired to answer his question, he push my head back and grabbed my face and said " stop ignoring me when I'm talking" and I can see he wanted to punch me. " i told him don't touch me and told me to go back to north cali but leave our daughter wit him
2007-01-19 20:18:49 · update #1
i tried to work things out for the last chance but it came out horrible. I did watever he asked for and he said" do watever u want when u r satisfied then sleep." I was crying, he hurted my feeling. I feel like i'm nothing to him. He said" don't be sad again, i still love u" it's so easy for him to say that three words without feeling it
2007-01-20 00:33:38 · update #2
I am sorry for what you are going through Now that there is physical abuse that over rides even all the emotional controlling abuse you have had to deal with . You'd be the best mom and role model for your daughter to get the both of you out of this situation love yourself enough to get out then she'll grow up to love herself enough to know that this is not how loves looks..
GL
National Domestic Violence Hot line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224
also I posted a web sites with more insight into what abuse is and how to break free...
2007-01-19 21:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by UmaCat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are going through and I don't think that it would be a bad thing to do this I think that it might be a good thing and I don't think that he should know about you moving away either. I think that you are taking your child out of a very bad situation. Look at it this way he doesn't love you and you are being treated like a child. You want to do things like live on your own for a change that you could have some sort of privacy. I think that you should leave with your sisters today. He isn't what you wanted or things aren't corresponding and something is odd.When you move away then ask him for a divorce and according to what he says or how he acts then you would know if he is trying to work it out,compromising or if he really doesn't love you. If he says that he would do some things like move out make sure that he does before you go back to him because you seem to really love him but you have to bang his key boards a bit for him to actually see that you are serious and that you would leave him. If you stay there you would become more and more depressed.
2007-01-20 04:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to edit my response because I just read your addition. If he is getting physical, things will only get worse. You need to get to a safe place and take your daughter with you. He might follow you to your family's home. You may need a protective order. If you are ready to talk to someone at a shelter, they could refer you to legal services to advise you. If you are in danger, call the police and be ready to file charges. It would be to your advantage to have a police record if he is physically abusing you or threatening you or the baby.
The following advice would only apply if you are not in physical danger.
Would he be willing to go with you for counseling? Marriage is a two way street, and it takes both people working on the relationship. Before you make a decision to leave, talk to a counselor, even if you have to go by yourself. This decision will effect more than just you, and if you decide to divorce, you need to go through some legal steps in order to be able to move your daughter out of state legally. Otherwise, you could be charged with kidnapping even though it is your own daughter. If you are being threatened or abused, or he is on drugs, you can go to a shelter and be protected (free). If you can't pay for a counselor, you can go to the minister of your church. If you don't have a church, this is a good time to find one. There are several avenues for you to get help without having to pay. If you are fearful of what he will do if you leave, get counseling, and have a plan in place to make sure everything is legal before you exit, or you could end up losing custody of your daughter. If he is abusive, there is an organization called DVIS, Domestic Violence Intervention Service. They are in most cities, and they can refer you to a shelter, free legal services, etc. You are not a bad mom - you can get help and advice. I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-01-20 04:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by secret finder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you already answered your question. You already mentioned that he told you he will never leave. So perhaps a little space between you is not such a bad idea, Nothing has to be permanent !
2007-01-20 04:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your relatives out of it.
This does not involve your in-laws...it is between you and your husband.
Talk to HIM ALONE and if you cannot work out a solution, you may need to see a family counselor or maybe even go to court to settle your differences.
2007-01-20 04:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave the jerk!
2007-01-20 04:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋