I am married for about 2 years,I love my husband but is making my life impossible ,he always complaining about everything,i work part time in our shop i have to ask him for the money and he always complain about how much i spend but i only buy food stuff ,he always complain about everything i do, I always tell him to change and he says yes, but is always the same, sometimes when we have a fight he tells me that i am not good in everything and others things that hurt so much,i am so hurt!!!
2007-01-19 19:55:59 · 7 answers · asked by MANDY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mandy...you poor thing!
Doesn't sound like LOVE problems as much
as "CONTROL ISSUES".
You deserve to be treated better than that! I have been on a past relationship that started out great and slowly he started taking control of every aspect of my life....then came the emotion critisizm and feelings of deep depression came soon after.
Eventually after getting a good Therapist, I realized several things I think you'll relate to:
(when I started therapy this is how I felt)
1) I was lonely even when he was there.
2) I forgot about the things I use to do that made me happy.
3) I conformed to someone else's lifestyle
4) I had become completely DEPENDANT upon him
5) My feelings didn't matter, it was hopeless
6) No matter how hard I tried, it was never Good Enough!
After Therapy (TODAY)
1) I DESERVE RESPECT!
2) I HAVE A LOVING HEART AND DESERVE TO BE LOVED!
3) I CAN'T CHANGE ANYONE ELSE'S BEHAVIORS
4) I ALLOWED EMOTIONAL ABUSE
5) IT'S OK TO BE ME!
Don't lose site of who you really are....it's a very Lonely Place and you don't have to be there...the choice is yours.
Tell him....His Attitude and emotional abuse is no longer going to be tolerated...that you Will NOT allow someone to treat you like that....maybe he'll open his eyes.
Closed Mouths Don't Get Fead....SPEAK UP!
2007-01-19 20:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by JULIA T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. don't let him keep on hurting you. you have the right to complain, too.
well, you know.. it's like this.. usually, lovers get into arguments. yeah, they do. it's normal if they do. because even though he's your husband, you guys are still different. you have your own personality. you have your own ways. that's the reason why there are misunderstandings.
when these misunderstandings happen, you talk. but do this nicely and gently. don't hurt each other's feelings. with this, it is proven that you guys are really meant to be. don't fight. don't get into divorce. remember, you made a vow that he'll be the one you'll be spending your entire life with.. until death do you two part. don't break this vow. DON'T.
remember, differences make you stronger. so why don't you try making each other strong with your differences?? oh yeah, and your husband should know that you deserve some respect, too. (maybe he's just stressed out from work or something.. that's why he's a bit bad-tempered. try to find out.) good luck. take care with that, sis. love yah! muahh..
2007-01-20 04:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been married, so I may not be of any help...
but I think communication is the best way to solve a problem. Talk about your problems with your husband and explain to him that the words he says hurts you. You have to make him understand what is bothering you and why you feel he needs to change. If he doesn't understand your point-of-view, then he never will.
2007-01-20 04:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sonny E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and rationally express your concerns. If he still complains, then I think it's time you seek counseling!
2007-01-20 04:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two might need marriage counseling
2007-01-20 04:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him for some days
2007-01-20 04:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by aamirtaj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and take him for everything he has
2007-01-20 04:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Nate Dogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋