Husbands ,wives,boyfriends,girlfriends who just can't control themselves from cheating/forming outside relationships with other people.What do psychologists /therapists say the reason is for this behavior?
2007-01-19 19:55:13 · 8 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think the reasons are different for men and women. Men cheat even though they love their wives and girlfriends, they just want variety. But also they are driven. I've heard psychologists say that it's just a biological urge for men to spread their seed around to perpetuate the species. Women cheat, according to psychologists, because they are not getting the attention, romance, affection and respect from their husbands and boyfriends. They get lonely in loveless relationships and need nurturance and intimacy.
2007-01-19 20:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Gayle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally with Gail Y but there are many reasons. Depending on the person and situation. ( I am not a pro but I am seeking a doctorate in Human Sexuality-Psych) Some people have some kind of mental illness also. They may have the best person in the world as a spouse or partner but still tend to stray. Alot of people I have encountered feel that they NEED attention even if they are getting it from home. They seek to please and they have already pleased the one they are with so they seek to please outside the relationship even if they know that it is wrong and they may not even have feelings or physical attracttion to the person that they are cheating with. Some people are afraid of commitment, some don't feel like it is the right time to settle down and be monogomous, others may not be totally into the relationship or the person that they are with even though they may seem so. There are many reasons. Whether or not they are correct for the person or situation is differnet. Gender does not matter either male and female both can think any of these ways. I hope you find your answer. Good luck.
2007-01-20 04:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person being treated, as well as the psychologist's educational background as to what the psychologist may speculate this reason to be.
To elaborate on this, imagine what a Comparative Psychologist or an Evolutionary Psychologist might say is the reason. They may say that it is because men want to procreate and spread their seed for the survival of the species.
A Developmental Psychologist might tell you that it is because the person, as a child, had bad examples of relationships or that their abuse/neglect lead them to their behavior.
It really depends because the reasons vary from person to person.
A friend of mine who has cheated several times (female) had a psychologist say that she did this because she sought out the intensity of new relationships and when intensity diminished, she cheated and then immediately left the old bf for the one she cheated with. There's one theory.
Another friend of mine cheats uncontrollably because she has the sexual-addiction problem in which she craves sex all the time and uses no discretion with whom she engages in the behavior with. While having a boyfriend, she continues the behavior with other men. I do not remember the deeper psychological explanation for this, but I feel it might have something to do with her self-esteem as well as the fact that her dad left when she was a child and she sat outside every day after school for 3 years waiting for him to come back home- like she never lost faith that he would come back for those 3 years and finally one day she did loose that faith and it broke her, as her mom told me.
2007-01-20 04:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Elysia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you meant to say .....maintain a monogamous relationship,and not ........maintain monogamous relationships. If a person is maintaining more than one relationship then they cant be monogamous.There are many psychological reasons people can't maintain a monogamous relationship. The reasons vary depending on the individual relationship, a persons morals, the way a person was taught and raised, current events in their life, jealousy, anger, to name a few. To search for just one psychological reason for not maintaining monogomy would be futile.
2007-01-20 04:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by SmartHooker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not in some peoples nature to just be one person. few do who cheat stop. some people have hard being honest to someone that they care for fear of rejection so they act and say what the other person want to hear not how they feel or express their needs. we all different and it was not till just few hundred years a go that humans started to implying that your only to have one partner for life.
2007-01-20 04:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by lady_jane_az 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a psychologist but those people obviously fear commitment and maybe even ever being happy. but this is just my opinion. i had to answer cause i really like you're question.
hope you get great answers
2007-01-20 04:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gails answer is good, but what it boils down to is -
The nature of the beast.
2007-01-20 04:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my guess would be that it is derived from senses of jealousy, insecurity, competitiveness....
2007-01-20 04:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rmprrmbouncer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋