i am 27,male working in mnc.i have been masturbating since 13-14 imagining sex with males of age more thn 45 upto 60 & no attracn towards males of my age i.e.young boys nor towards girls.
now i want to marry with girl. how can i come out of this situation & to whom should i consult(psychlogist, andrologist,auyrvedics,any other counsellor)
Please help me.
2007-01-19 19:47:39 · 27 answers · asked by prem 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Your problem is nothing serious as it’s not your homosexuality but only your curiosity towards it. If you are not indulging in gay sex then nothing to worry once you marry & get a wife you will have normal sex life with her. Need not to worry the feeling of attraction towards males of age more then 45-60 during your masturbation is only your imagination that will subside after you enjoy sex with your wife. More so getting attracted by same sex person is nothing wrong in today’s society. I am 48 yrs & get attracted to guys of younger age group & feel quite normal.
2007-01-20 18:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, there is no cure because it's not a disease.
You were born gay and there is nothing you can do to change that.
What you can do is realize that and make it a productive and positive part of your life rather than going through this titanic struggle of denying what you know to be true.
It would be very wrong to marry a woman in the vain hope that some how marriage will change your sexual orientation - it will not
Your wife will be hurt when she discovers the truth , you will get divorced or possibly have the marriage annulled as a result of fraud on your part [ Kenny Chesney & Rene` Zellwegger ? ]
Find a good psychologist to help you work out your internal conflicts.
Good luck
2007-01-20 04:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie, if you're gay, you're gay. End of story. Any trustworthy psychologist will tell you that it's a load of Christian crap that you can somehow "change" or "turn straight." There's nothing wrong with being gay unless YOU think there is. If you fuss over it, you're only making your own life harder. I hope you can accept it sooner or later...
Ask yourself if you can do it willingly (no force necessary) with a girl. If you DO feel sexually attracted to women, too, then you may be bisexual or another label... *shrugs* If not, then you can pretty much assume that you're gay. I mean, YOU should know if you are or are not. 1 out of 10 men are gay, by the way, and that adds up to a LOT of hot gay guys in this world, so it's not as if you're alone!
Besides, you can get married to a guy in certain places like Canada or Massachusetts... if you're marrying so that you can have a kid, ADOPT! Don't think an adopted kid will love you any less...
2007-01-19 19:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
There are 2 different definitions of homosexuality:
1) someone with sexual urges towards the same sex
or
2) someone in a sexual relationship with someone of the same sex.
To avoid #2, simply stay away from having sexual relationships with those of the same sex. (Not that this is likely to be simple for someone who has been in this kind of relationship.) Most churches will advise to stay away from sexual relations like this, and use 2 as their definition of homosexuality.
To avoid #1, some people have tried electric shock therapy, but nobody really knows what causes it, so the treatments are not one hundred percent effective. It may be a genetic fluke or may be something in the environment. Some people may have this tendency all their lives.
2007-01-19 19:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by userafw 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are probably looking for a father figure. How was your relationships with your father? Work this out adn it'll help. HOwever, it's difficult to fix this in adulthood. Studies show that gay men who marry women, stay marreid only if the love is very strong. You'll probably always desire men, but dont' we all have desires we dont' wnat to give into? dont' let society make you settle for less than what you desire. Be honest with the girl you are interested in and let her know your stuggles so she can hlep you with it. Counseling can help find the reasons, but it can't "cure" it in most cases.
2007-01-19 23:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by IKB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be depressed. There is a lot of people in this world who are gays or bi. Doctor can't help u. Ur wife can't help u. Becuase all these guys(Gay, bi) are the creature of God & he has made like this. Though the religion does not permit it, but science has revealed that being a different sexual fellow (BGay, Bi, lesbi & others) is an issue of by born. You dont have anything to do with it. Just admit & relax .
2007-01-19 21:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by pawrob2001 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Difficult struggle and hard to leave.Even if you marry will still be there.This is a spirit from the devil that lives in us and the only way to get rid of that is through prayer.First you need to confess that to God and ask Himto cleanse and forgive you.He will.Secondly,you need to speak to that spirit of 'GAY' and bind it and command it to leave your presence in Jesus' name,Next cover yourself with the blood of Jesus.You must give everything to God.After pray and ask God to show you how to be delivered,You need deliverance,Finally take a piece of bread and some grape juice take communion,Any time the urge come pray and tell the devil /gayness it has NO POWER over your life and that the blood of Jesus has washed you from that. Good Luck.I am praying for you.
2007-01-20 00:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by BLESSED 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is not any treatment for this project. notwithstanding while you're actually not as different from immediately Christians as you may think of. immediately human beings and bisexual human beings all experience choose for human beings they won't be able to or wouldn't have. Having an significant different or getting married does not end you from feeling choose for different human beings. If I choose somebody else sexually and that they don't desire me, i won't be in a position to fulfil my choose for that man or woman without being a rapist. immediately Christians might desire to stand as much as extra sexual temptation than non-Christians: they might desire to not have intercourse exterior of marriage. the actuality that marriage is a possibility for them does not make it consumer-friendly. keep in mind which you're actually not condemned for being tempted or feeling choose; committing sin is a controversy of conscious selection. additionally if absolutely everyone sins we've just to ask for God's forgiveness, freely given via Jesus Christ.
2016-10-07 10:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. I feel for you. I am 23, male, and live in NYC. I spent my teenage years dealing with a lot of the same feelings that you have right now.
The short answer is that it is OK to be homosexual. I beg you, please speak to your doctor. Only a doctor is equipped to really help you deal with any depression, etc. that you might have.
Doctor's, Psychiatrists, and Psychologists all say that homosexuality is normal, and innate, and NOT a psychological disorder.
Doctors, Psychiatrists, and Psychologists all say that homosexuality can NOT, and should not attempt to be "cured."
Doctors, Psychiatrists, and Psychologists DO recognize a problem where someone who is homosexual really, really, really doesn't like the fact the he is a homosexual. This can be devastating.
Please talk to your Doctor.
This is not going to be an easy process for you, but in the end, you will be OK, and you will be happy.
Please talk to your Doctor.
-Frank
A homosexual 2nd year medical student.
2007-01-19 19:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Frank G 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Please seek out a counselor or a psychologist. I don't know if its a language barrier or you just worded your question differently, but you can't just get "rid of homosexuality" as if its a virus. Its not.
Talk to a professional in your area that specializes in gender identities prior to getting married. Talk through your desires and try to find some kind of understanding that works for you.
Good luck
2007-01-19 19:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by sugarapple25 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋