Missing Curfew?

Question

Well I'm 17 years old and my curfew was to be home by 6:00 pm. I missed curfew by 3 hours. As you can guess, im dead meat now. She "assumed I was missing" and told all my brother and sisters. When I got in, she asked me where I was at, and lied. I know I shoudn't have, but I'm sure my mom would of snaped if I told her I was hanging out with boys. But the really bad part, she found out any way wich makes it worse. She's really upset with me. She doesn't even think im a virgin any more.

I'm pretty much the good kid. I get good grades, I hardly ever get in trouble. I have one slip up, and now I get the thrid degree. When my older brother's and my sister missed curfew, They didn't in this much trouble.

Yeah, which sucks.

Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do now?

Answer 1

It probably is because you are the youngest. my mom does the same thing to me, and i often have to remind her of my ager (almost 16). At least your curfew is 6 i still have to be in the house by the time the street lights come on. And i, like you, am the one with the good grades, and i do the help, and i try to make my own way (as much as i can without a job) I have never missed curfew, the closest that i've come is that one night, around 10ish, some guys that i had hung out with earlier came to my house. well my dad blew the roof and litterally scared the guys away, while my mom on the other hand kept asking me what i was doing with them. the only thing was that i never lied to her that day, when i came home she asked me what i was doing, i told her, she said who with, i told her, but yet and still i ended up getting grounded for the guys coming by-as if i knew they'd be that stupid!-I think that that's just moms, i don't know why they are so protective of the younger ones, when it's usually the younger ones that are doing what they're supposed to be doing! Sorry, But that's life, just think, you only have one more year left and then you can move, while i still have 2 more years of this crap!

Answer 2

Well, what you dod was kinda bad, right? Just think about all those terrible things that came to your mom's mind while you werer flirting with guys.

But OK, every one makes mistakes, and she loves you. For now she's just upset and hurt. talk to her heart to heart. Apologize, tell her you understand you let her really worried. She'll end up coming around. Show her you're realy sorry. She doesn't want to make you suffer, she'll forgive you and you'll have her trust back. After all, though it's undersdantable she keeps upset for some days, there's no reason to let this incident desatroy your relationship.

The really important thing is for you to apologize sincerely and promise her from your heart this won't happen again.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

I am a parent of 2 teenagers and I can tell you now they don't have a curfew. That is because i trust them. You admit you lied. Would you believe your boyfriend after he lied to you? NO.
I trust my kids because they have earned it. My son who is 16 brought me a joint from school and told me he wanted to try it but wasn't sure it was pot. I sat him down and told him it was and what it would do to him. He decided he didn't want to do it. If he had decided he wanted to I would have had to let him to keep his trust. But I didn't even worry about that I knew he wouldn't.
Things like that will make a parent trust you. If you want to be treated like an adult you MUST act like one. Coming in 3 hours late wasn't just wrong it was disrespectful. Your parents love you more then you can believe. During that 3 hours they had horrible things running through their heads.Not just "you were screwing someone", those things parents tell themselves to try to make it NOT SO BAD. I would rather find out my kid was out losing their virginity then to think he was rushing home trying to beat curfew and got hit by a bus.
The thing is they didn't KNOW so they make them up. We are only human, remember that and you will earn their respect and their trust.
Try calling them 2 hours before you are supposed to be home and ask them for an extra 30 min. then get in the door BEFORE that time. Don't be even 1 min late be 5 min early. The next few times get in BEFORE curfew. Then try asking for an hour and ALWAYS get in early by 5 min or so. If you make it a habit they will come to expect it from you and you will earn their trust. But remember every time you break that trust you have to start over again. Its like a video game...if you die you start over. I hope this helps.
All I can say for sure is I was worse then you could ever be when i was a teen and like me you won't understand how your parents feel till you have a child of your own and have to sit wondering if they are still alive for 3 hours.

Answer 4

Be glad that your parents care about you enough to want to protect you.

Work on building trust with your mom and try to negotiate a compromise on curfew that works for both of you. Let your word be your bond and show her that she can trust you to do what you have agreed to.

Times are different now. Children are being abducted and it's plastered all over the news. Hang in there and good luck!

Answer 5

You could have been kidnapped, raper and or murdered. You are your mothers child no matter what age you are. Just think how you made her feel. While you were out flirting she was having a panick attack. You should not have lied. That may be why she is so upset. You say you are a good kid so maybe she just didnt expect you to act this way. You need to apologize and let her know you understand how terrible you were. Take your punishment. Its time to grow up you are almost an adult

Answer 6

I know where your coming from. and I was the oldest... I wasn't allowed to do anything when I was17... but my parents always said ' when your 18 ,You can do what you want'.... this was great, make a deal with your parents... tow the line until 18... then be free.... It was great, because I'd made this deal, they used to pickup from the pub and drop me off... stay low for a few weeks....your mum will get over it...

Answer 7

you have a job to earn her trust again. good luck and remember normaly parents are good people we dont like staying cross too long. Take your punishment and dont go against ur parents wishes right now.

Answer 8

uh ok i can understand thirty minutes or an hour but three hours? Come on... Your parents might have been born at night but surely not last night... What you present yourself as is what you'll be considered as...

Answer 9

She doesn't want you to lose your virginity to some idiot guy. And yes guys do look for virgins. Perhaps you should quit hanging out with them.

Answer 10

Parents worry about their kids.Its time to grow up and be more mature.You need to earn back your mums respect.