my husband about 1 year ago left me for about a week he moved in with his daughters mom. I* am freaked out and feel he will do it again. He would always tell me how he had no feelings for her and she gained wait and was a turn off to him. When he left things were not to good between us he said he went and it was a huge mistake and wanted to come back and it wouldn't happen again, obviously I let him back home and since then it has been hard to trust him he says my insucuritys are getting on his nerves. He just recently started seeing his daughter and when he goes of course I watch the clock. he was 30 minutes late and he said they had a argument because she was giving him a hard time about him seeing her so they had to get things straight. I dont know what to believe. I cant go on with these insucuritys what do I do?
2007-01-19 19:28:09 · 9 answers · asked by socalgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People diserve a second chance, but not a third one.
2007-01-19 19:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't think your ever going to completely trust him again, u need to talk to him, he needs to show some remorse about what he did, and acknowledge that what he did hurt u. no one really know's if a man will cheat again or even why they cheated in the first place. but if every time u have an argument will he go off to her house? hard to get over betrayal, something like that just seems to stick in our minds, and whenever u have any disagreement and he goes out somewhere u will amigine he is with her again. she also could loose weight and than maybe she wouldn't be such a turn off with him.
2007-01-20 00:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately, once someone cheats, it's hard NOT to think about it when they're gone. and in this case, it has to do with his child. that is something you can never get between, he will always have a relationship with his daughter's mom because they will always share that child. you will really have to decide whether you can trust him again or not. it's a hard decision, but better sooner rather than later for you to make up your mind. he needs to be upfront with you and maybe when he goes to spend time with his daughter, you should go too, at least for a little while. that way, he's proven he's honest and you've settled your insecurities...
2007-01-19 19:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by hello_beautiful_222 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say you go with him to go see his child and if he says you can't go then you know something is wrong there.Also once a cheater is always a cheater in most cases it just gets easier after the first time beings that you took him back he may feel you will take him back again beings he got away with it before.I'm not saying he is or will but just know from talking to friends this is what happens.I hope I am wrong in this case for your sake.Good luck!
2007-01-19 19:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by amber 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater!
What happens if she loses the weight?
I know someone who's husband got his ex-wife pregnant about the same time he was marrying his second wife. No one knew it was his baby until about 5 years later when the time was right for the 1st wife to really stick it to the 2nd wife!
I would kick his butt to the curb so fast!
2007-01-19 19:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard one. You are never going to trust him again because of what he did. It's only natural. Also I've found once a man cheats he usually does it again. Because now he knows he can.
2007-01-19 19:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by hstoic01 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He shouldn't even fix his mouth to say that your insecurities are getting on his nerves. He mad you insecure. And, yes, if he cheated once, he will cheat again.
2007-01-19 19:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not spending 24/7 thinking of ways to give him happiness, it is normal that your husband will stray.
2007-01-19 19:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
he might once a cheater always a cheater
2007-01-19 21:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Nate Dogg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋