how can i spy on my husband to see who he is cheating with?

Question

I know he is cheating because he has lost interest in me and won't have sex with me and won't talk about it. I'm scared,

Answer 1

Get a private investigator, but it's going to be pricey probably.

Answer 2

How long has the lack of interest and no sex been going on? Has his usual habbits changed? Is he coming home late? Any unexplained charges (or missing money)?

If it's only a loss of interest and no sex that has been going on for a little while, like a day or week or whatever, then perhaps he has some issue he is mentally working through that he doesn't feel like sharing.

My wife and I are distant at times, but it's a phase and it goes away in a day or two. Usually one of us is stressed about something. We give each other some space, and before you know it, it's all back to normal. Did you guys have an arguement that he feels is still unresolved?

If it's been a while, and there are other signs, then perhaps you should start doing some investigative work...check credit card statements, back withdraws, etc. Be prepared to deal with the situation if you find something you don't like.

You didn't elaborate enough for a better answer to be given, sorry.

Answer 3

He may not be cheating you may just be hypersensitive because he's acting differently. You can keep an eye out for things such as catching him hiding things, lieing, not being where he says he's going to be, not being able to get ahold of him, you can also check on the computer by clicking on the history button to see where he's been looking at.

What I would do is tell him what you are worried about and that you want to talk about it. If he doesn't want to talk then just ask him point blank if he is seeing someone else. Tell him that it would be easier to get it out in the open now that to put it off til you are both miserable. If he is cheating you need to dump him and get on with your life. What I have learned is that once someone cheats they will cheat again.

Answer 4

It really doesn't matter who he's cheating with, if he actually is cheating. You will drive yourself nuts spying on him and it wont change anything for the better. The fact is, he is not communicating with you or making any effort to have a good relationship with you. If I was in your situation, I would pack a suitcase and spend some time away from him to collect my thoughts and figure out what I want to do with the marriage. It would allow him some time to figure out what he wants to do too. It's not much of a marriage without communication, trust, honesty, and mutual effort.

Answer 5

Where do you live?

There are many possibilites (private detectives, spying tools, information mining etc.). But being able to chose one of them depends upon where you are located and weather you can do it legally or not.

The best way is to simply tap his phone. Both mobile and your home phone and check out his bill for the dialled numbers. Tapping is easy but will require that you invest some money. For the landline, any line recorders are available, but try ro get one that gives you complete information about time, dialled numbers and the caller IDs of incoming numbers (ideally some computerised tool, cause it will seem like that you are simply hooking a line to a modem on the computer). For the mobile phone, there are spy phones that can record and can give you access to dial in listen to his live conversations, get one of those and give it to him as a present on birthday or aniversary.

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Answer 6

If he has a cell phone you can start with that.What you do is create a online account that way you can view all the numbers he has called.All you need for that is the last 4 digits of his ss# .(If the phone is in his name) Then you can act as if your going out of town for like business or even with friends or family,stay at a motel and follow him.Another thing you can do is call cheaters.or go to there web site and submit your story online at www.cheaters.com. Another thing you may want to think about is He may not be cheating there could be something Else going on like maybe his sex drive is gone,maybe he is upset with you about something,maybe he is stressed out about something at work or with family or friends.I don't know I'm not with him or in his mind.But you do want to find out and soon or you will just worry yourself to death.Good luck I know that's an awful feeling.

Answer 7

This happens with many couples. They go though stages. You're assumption that he's cheating might come from a lack of self esteem due to a lack of closeness with him right now. (It happens to everyone...I've learned to notice it)...He might just be having a hard time with something right now. Give it time, and if it continues, try going to a counselor. If he won't budge, consider leaving. But give it time first!!!!! The worst thing you could do is to start checking...that's how I pushed my boyfriend away, almost all the way away....Just to find out he actually wasn't doing anything at all..It was just my fear.

Answer 8

hire a private investigator or borrow someone elses car and tail him. you can also look at phone records to see any phone #s u dont no or reconize and call 411 to get a name and address or maybe he just wants to b left alone for a while give it some time

Answer 9

Wait for him in a car far away when he is getting out of work or leaving the house. Then follow him and see where he is heading. Maybe have a friend help you, like them driving you so he don't recognize the car you are in.

Answer 10

A private investigator.

Answer 11

If you are pretty certain that he is cheating on you,Then he probably is.Then again you just never know do you until you have hard evidence that he is being unfaithful or not.Go to Cheaters.com