Man I don't know what to do anymore!?

Question

My brother used to play with this boy when he was little[but they were not friends], so one day [when i was 11] he started talking to me and we started going out. We went out for 11 months and then we broke up. We then had a on and off relashonship up until I was 13 1/2. Im about to turn 15. Well, as soon as I just became friends with him, he has been going to jail, in a gang ect. I feel that its partly my fault but I refuse to forgive him for hurting me. I try to tell him how I feel but he acts as is he does not careand I feel that he is using my feelings to his advantage. He wrote me from jail and told me that he still "loves" me and that he wants to go back out with me. I know that you are going to say "he is trouble, leave him alone" but its more complicated than that. I also know that I am young and do not need to be tied down. We have had such a long history [friends and not] that I'm to the point where I dunno what to do. Should I trust him and give him another chance?? Should I just fight what both my gut and my heart is telling me?? [which is I should try it out one more time] Should I just stay friends with him?? Or should I just cut it off all the way??? PLEASE HELP! thanks

Btw I do not need critisizim for dating when I was 11..... please be kind... thanks

thanks you guys helped alot... and marklemoore, you can just shut up and get a life. I'm not a slut and as far as I'm concened I have a life since I do not waste half of my life leaving rude comments to others because Im not happy

Answer 1

If this kid thinks it's cool to be in a gang then your relationship will never get better unless that is what you like... if he decides to clean up his act and stop trying to be a thug then give him a chance.

Answer 2

I tsounds lie you guys have really known each other a while, and you know him better than any one on here. Either way you're going to do what you want, but obviously pointers can help. i would say that if you truly hink that you love him, go ahead and break your heart again. I you don't want to get hurt again, there is only one way to keep him from hurtingyou, stay away. As for him getting in trouble, don't believe it. That's his choice and you should put your self into guilt through it. Every guy knows that most girls are not interested in a guy that's in a gang, and getting in trouble is not showing off. Girls don't run around telling jail stories... You guys know eachother more than any body on here knows either of you, so obviously (again) it's really up to one person... You! So take your time to decide because he doesn't need an answer right this second, tell him when he gets out or right him and say that you'll think about and that you'll talk to him when he can see you (outside of jail). [Hope that helps]

Answer 3

Look elsewhere for love, and don't try to grow up too soon. These are the only teenage yours you will ever have--make them fun and enjoy them. This young man is manipulating you, whether you can see it now or not.
Helping others is fine, as long as you don't shoot yourself in the foot while doing it. Do you really WANT a troubled teen 'bad boy' to tie you down and get you a reputation, just when other young men are starting to have an interest in dating? Best of luck.

Answer 4

i was in ur shoes once. its not ur fault his into all this trouble so dont let it worry u. but unless u want to go down the same road he is, u should leave him alone. in time mayb he will see whats going on in his life. i know its hard at that age to understand. i think back on my teen years and wish i done things differntly myself. i had a boyfriend a few years older than me that was into drugs. i dont think he had a good life at home is y he done what he did. if he cares for u he will change, but for now tell him u just want to b friends. good luck hun. things will get better i promise. by the way i was dating at 11 too, dont listen to the bad comments.

Answer 5

OMG, thats funny
i know this girl who chills on my block who is also turning 15 and is having the same problem you are.... let me tell you what is said behind her back. Wow she is so young and pretty and doesnt even know her potential. Everyone feels this way toward her but nobody will tell her and everyone one doesnt understand that she really doesnt know. So i walked up to her one night and said hey tati wats up, she said the normal thing i knew she was going to say..."oh my romeo is this and this and ohh he he so i dont know" it was just a bunch of that basically. I looked at her and said to her basically what we all are afraid to tell her, "you are so beautiful and young, this guys would be so lucky to have you. You should take advantage of such luxury and never give all you have to none of these guys, you can do much better." she was so happy i said that to her. I havnt talked to her really that much since then but i think we all grow from experience and i hope she does and girls like you.... females are the ones who carry us and they are the ones that deserve the most respect... we should never hurt them or call them names but love them and the world would love us back

Answer 6

You feel guilty because he is in jail and going down the wrong road? That is just a cop out on his part because I have a hunch he is helping you feel that way. If you cut off your relationship, no going back, you will be forever grateful. Don't make the mistake and continue seeing him you will only regret it later if you do...

Answer 7

if you dont get anything else from my answer, get this--IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, PARTIALLY,OR OTHERWISE,FOR HIS BEHAVIOR , GANGING IT, AND LANDING IN JAIL!! if you were older, you would probably realize that people are responsible for their own actions. it is immature for him to imply that you caused him to go wild, because you broke up with him. but- you certainly have the opportunity to see this. and you must learn this truth. next, you must not let him hold your emotions hostage. people manipulate all kinds of things out of others when they are allowed to do this. you have history with this person, and you want to have some kind for relationship with him. keep him at arms length if you must have contact, and for goodness sake, dont send him money. sharpen your mind, and guard your heart and emotions. he will have to own up to his actions at some piont in his life best wishes

Answer 8

No honey----you do not need criticism---I have a gut feeling you need to sever all ties with him once and for all----I also feel that you too have a gut feeling this would be best for you as well...Good luch in whatever decision you make------our lives are what we have left over from the decisions we make.

Answer 9

what kind of relationship will you have with a guy if he is in and out of jail...that's what you need to think about

Answer 10

don,t stay with a guy that hurts you fiscally you deseve better in a man.