I am 20 yrs old and I have never had an orgasm. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years and no matter what positon we are in I enjoy the penetration but I've never felt the urge to climax? Is this just me or are there other females out there who have this problem also?
2007-01-19 18:53:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Ive already bought dildos and other things. Sex toys get boring. I want to feel a sexual connection with my partner. He tries to give me foreplay but he gets very impatient and it just doesnt work out for me. What would you do?
2007-01-19 19:16:37 · update #1
Your head is far away when things happens. Relax, chill, think of something that you like. Buy a dildo. Enlarge your options, think more than usual. Tell your boyfriend that he has to make a prelude, like 2 hours of kiss and lick. When you'll getting horny make love. This will help.
2007-01-19 19:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by LynX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of women who may never climax during intercourse, unless a massager is used. It doesn't have to be a problem. It may take some practice to learn to do it.
You are not alone. Hope it is something you can accomplish, whatever help you have to get for yourself. It would be nice, as well, to have an understanding partner who doesn't resent your needing a bit more stimulation.
2007-01-20 03:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say for a start you need to stop worrying about this and enjoy sex. You need to have lots of foreplay and i suspect you will need clitoral stimulation, many women cannot climax merely by penetration. When you having sex concentrate on the feelings you feel, it may take a bit of practise cos your new to this but i would say to just ease yourself into it slowly. :)
2007-01-20 10:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by boopie240 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a rule of thumb, young females have to get their libido up and running to peak up around 40-50. It's not like starting up an engine at will, you know, and many young women can't reach orgasm right from start or even for some time.
These days, a number of sexologists start thinking and saying it's a mistake to go hunting for female orgasm at all cost, as women can experience more subtle satisfactions than us males do. Orgasm is but one of these physical satisfactions.
2007-01-20 03:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This does happen to many girls, but its not impossible for you to get a climax during sex...you might just need to work it in different ways. you said your bf gets frusterated with foreplay, well thats not going to help anything you need to express your concern with him and he should be more sensitive to your needs you might need to get really worked up with foreplay first, and then have sex and you might have a better chance getting off...also communicate with your partner tell him when it feels good and where...also when it starts to feel good and you feel like you might get off tighten up...thats the key! good luck you shouldnt be missin out on this any longer
2007-01-20 03:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by thereis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, he has to involve you in some foreplay. It usually takes females longer to reach orgasm, but when you get there you can have several. Secondly, tilt your hips forward. He may not be stimulating your clitoris enough and that is paramount for orgasm during intercourse.
2007-01-20 04:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a detachable, shower hose and aim it to your clitoris, think sexy thoughts and orgasm, I didn't till I was 24 and as soon as I figured out how to do it myself it was easier to tell him what works. Not very many women orgasm with penetration you need clitoral stimulation at the same time, try a small massager on your clit as he is entering you
2007-01-20 21:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is common. But solution lies mostly with you. Find which acts stimulate you more. Ask your partner to carry on foreplay till you reach arousal.Watch and read porn and feel yourself.
2007-01-20 04:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by sunita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have answered you're question when you said "he gets impatient". This might, unknowingly, be having an effect on you. Is he a "me first" guy? Might make one evening "yours" and see what it takes to do it. Reward him later for his efforts.
2007-01-20 22:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by wdr31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend a course of Tantra or Kama Sutra to bring out your hitherto, untapped sexual potential and orgasm.
2007-01-20 03:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by quilm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋