My mom came out from Cali, and she has a baby that she had a year ago with another man(she just told me) and she always leaves me to babysit, and she is married, but they are seperated! Um, the boyfriend is trying to be my dad, even though he just met me, and doesnt know a thing about me. My brother wont talk about it and my sis is in florida, so do you have any advice for me?
2007-01-19 18:37:40 · 9 answers · asked by girly#1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
whats the question?
2007-01-19 18:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by warr31 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to stop calling your mom a whore. what ever she does in her life if her business,
Since she has come out and is staying with you I am assuming that you are over 18 and thus an adult.
From your question you say that your mother and father are seperated and she has a boyfriend and a new baby. Are you having a problem with that or just that she is going out and leaving you with the baby.? You do know you can always say NO that you will not watch the baby when she goes out.
As for the boyfriend, My advise is to not listen to him. He may not even know you are seeing him as trying to act like your father. Or you could tell your mother and maybe she could have a word with him.
I know it is hard to see your parents as something other then your parents but it is that way sometimes.
2007-01-20 02:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of what your mom has done or will do in the future she is still your mother. Sit her down and explain to her how you feel and what needs to be done.You only have one mother your whole life try to work with her and make things right, she made a few mistakes but dont give up on her! As for her boyfriend try and get to know him but you tell him from the beginning that he is not your dad! Good luck! I hope it all works out for you!
2007-01-20 02:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a sick family, leave it alone you don't need the trouble and be careful of the man, he is a weirdo as well would be my guessgo to the libary ang get the book written by John bradshaw called the family, after reading yo will have a clue.
2007-01-20 02:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that u have a father but he can b a friend! Also tell ur mom that she is the mother & u r the daughter she should b able 2 take care of her own children!! Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-20 02:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live on your own and you let your mother stay with you, then just deal with it til she leaves. When she is home (your home) go out with your friends and don't be available when she wants to go out. If it's not your home, like you live with your brother or something, then just go stay with friends til she leaves. Your mom has issues and doesn't respect you. And if you can't stand her that much, then cut her off because she is never going to change.
2007-01-20 02:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by toothfairy.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know ur moms boyfriend better go with him and ur mom to see a movie and just have some family fun or somthing like that.
2007-01-20 02:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea remember that your mother can have pleanty more kids but you only get one mother in life control your self and sit your mom down and express your feelings to her without attitude
2007-01-20 02:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea go on jerry springer!
2007-01-20 02:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by sergnaty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋