We recently had a baby who is now 6 months old. My girlfriend is from the east coast. She had some depression before we had the baby, but now the depression has grown even more. She desperately wants to move out of town, and I have happily agreed thinking a change would be good. We thought about moving to the east coast while she can finish her education, and recently the beach community in the central west coast has been very appealing to her because she has found a subject of interest. I want what is best for us and will do whatever it takes to keep our family together. Her depression seems to amplify every small problem that should be resolved much easier. She will ignore me when there is a problem or just scream to herself. Sometimes they seem to go away, but I really feel that our problems get put in a closet. She recently told me she wanted to stay with her friend. She doesn't want to break up, but just get away until she feels like coming back. Any suggestions to help her/ us?
2007-01-19 18:30:43 · 11 answers · asked by jt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even though she was depressed prior to pregnancy, she may be experiencing transitional depression or postpartum depression. Is she on medications? I highly suggest that she makes an appt to see her doctor and possibly go to therapy/see a psychiatrist and if she isn't on meds, maybe go on them. There are negative stigmas associated with depression, but please be supportive. It sounds like you love her a lot. Good luck.
2007-01-19 18:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The post-partum depression is a normal reaction of the woman after birth. The sepparation from the life she has carried around and nurtured for 9 month is a very traumatic experience, and most women suffer for many month from it. The fact that your girlfriend has had depressions even before only makes it worse. This is not a problem which can easily be solved, and most certainly not by people who aren't qualified. That is why my suggestion would be to take her to a psychologist, a specialist who can identify her problems correctly and deal with them in a professional manner.
2007-01-20 07:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Emin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like post pardum depression, it should go away after a while, its just her hormones are probably still a little out of whack from the pregnancy. I grew up in the Portland Seattle area and when I was a younger the gloomy wheather never use to bother me but then it's like I hit my mid 20's and I started suffering S.A.D. which is seasonal affective disorder know as just plain sad, then I finally moved out of that part of the country and moved south and now I don't have the gloomy depression anymore since I got out of that area, so just give her some time and more then likely she should get better and improve. Good luck
2007-01-20 02:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray for her. stay patient. We as women react in all sorts of ways after giving birth. Maybe you should consider granting her wish to be away. She might just need that. I wouldn't advise going to a friends house(sometimes friends can unconsciously support the wrong things) maybe a weekend to the spa or alone to pamper herself while u stay with the baby. She sounds as if she definitely is crying out for help. Get her the help she needs and continue to be supportive. my husband and i are from Long Island and because of his career we relocated to the mid west for 2 yrs. During that time we had a baby and it was diff cult adjusting to our new born and being far away from home, She might just need the support of her family right now. We just moved back and it seems as if things have gotten a little easier. good luck
2007-01-20 02:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving to a sunny area will help her if she has a mental problem due to lack of sun light but she has to find out where the depression came from and you can't run from it; also, you have to face your problems they don't go away they build up. Maybe a stress management class can help. Going and staying with a friend isn't facing her problems either and that seems to be one of her problems. She needs counseling to find the root.
2007-01-20 02:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by queenie one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is trying to run from her problems. Moving away anywhere isn't going to resolve them. She should go to counseling. Perhaps you should both go together. She should also talk with her doctor because it seems to me from what you wrote that she is experiencing postpartum depression, being that her depression has gotten worse since she had the baby. Medication might help her.
2007-01-20 02:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she depresed? is it cause she had a baby even tho she is not married? I guess just give her the space she needs. Good luck! she needs to appreciate you, cause not any guy would say " I'd do anything to keep my family" you are a very nice guy! i hope she comes to her sences and appreciates you and starts caring about her family you and the baby cause thats what you both deserve!
2007-01-20 02:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs help immediately.. sounds like post-partum, and since she had depression problems prior to the baby, that made it worse. Not that I'm saying she will do anything, but some women with post partum go into what's called post partum psychosis and often they will try to harm themselves or their children. Please get her help now.
2007-01-20 02:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by fefe917 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her hormones might be still out of whack...or she might even been suffering from a delayed PPD. Make sure she sees a counselor to work through her depression.
2007-01-20 02:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her into couseling it sounds like baby blues w/ full blown depression!! If she leaves now she probably won't b back!! Get her some help!!
2007-01-20 02:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋