My husband today told me he wasn't sure if he wants anymore kids, we have a 2 1/2 YO, and I was planning to try and fall pregnant this year. I am apsolutly deverstated by what he has said. Now I am angry and don't know what to do.
2007-01-19 18:21:30 · 8 answers · asked by Skye L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't be angry calm down, u must to ask him why he don't want, maybe because of money or because of something Else... don't worry and be angry and thinking of divorce just understand each other and u will solve the problem... if u 2 years and half together he must to know that the kids is everything in life, and know when u both get married that mean must to have kids because the people increase so don't worry be happy, and good luck
2007-01-19 18:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to explore why he feels the way he does. It may be something simple to resolve and perhaps with some honest, open communication between the two of you, it can be worked out.
Children are definitely gifts, however, they are also a great responsibility. It may be that although he loves your child with all his heart, he realizes it is a big responsibility and simply isn't comfortable having more children.
Think back on all the reasons you married him, release your anger and go to him lovingly to open up the discussion at a time the two of you can really talk. Maybe an evening out alone for dinner. I'm sure paying a babysitter for a few hours would be worth the uninterrupted time with your husband.
You might be surprised ... this could actually strengthen your relationship.
Best wishes!
2007-01-20 02:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by DOOL64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you made a vow, Everyone wants to just cut and run these days. At the first sign of difficulty people want a divorce. Aren't there not enough children in the world from a broken home. As far as what should you do, how about talking to him and an even more novel idea listening.
2007-01-20 03:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by SUPERSTAR X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for the sake of your 2 1/2 year old that you should try and work things out. Marriage is a compromise. I understand your wanting to have another child and I also understand where your hubby is coming from. I think you two need to have some long discussions and see what you can work out. :)
2007-01-20 02:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Inali K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask, did you only marry him to father your children??? Lots of dads feel left out when the kids are little, maybe thats what he is really telling you, that he wants more of you:) You may be able to come to a compromise and both of you get some of what you want. communiicate girl, communicate with him.
2007-01-20 16:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bron E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's not SURE, not that he definitely doesn't want them. Maybe things have been difficult with your first child. Talk to him about it and find out why he feels this way. Maybe he will change his mind eventually. Give it time.
2007-01-20 02:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay and work it out with him. Se why he doesn't want kids and start talking about it with him. Maybe there's a specific reason why he doesn't want anymore kids.
2007-01-20 03:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by classychic2010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i only can tell u that baby is innocent...
2007-01-20 02:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by Poopoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋