Hey all I want you to meet my friend Jim. (say hi and keep reading). Now imagine that you have hung out with him, played sports 2gether, and do whatever you guys do together...chillin out, chasing girls etc. All of a sudden one day he tells you that he is bi-sexual or homosexual(whichever)....now all of a sudden YOU have a problem with Jim. He doesn't act or speak any different from when you all were hanging out.
My question is why does it bother you now, were you thinking about sleeping w/ him while chillin, playing sports and everything else that you guys do? Would you have the same reaction if Jim was hetero and decided to sleep with a woman of a different race than him, 20yrs older or 20yrs younger than him?(not talking about statutory rape)
What if Jims name was Jane...would it be different and why?
Explanations and opinions wanted.
2007-01-19 17:46:46 · 3 answers · asked by Ms Toy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well if we did all this stuff together for years, and then he tells me that’s he's bi/gay...I'm sure it would shock me at first, but he would be a good person to educate me on that issue of why he feels the way he does, as long as I didn't criticize him. Jim wouldn't bother me after he told me that, cause he has already gained my respect through hanging out together in the past, and in turn I would respect him and not tell anyone that he told me so.
I personally don't agree with the gay/bi lifestyle and if I just met a person who was gay, I wouldn't want anything to do with them till they gained MY RESPECT. I'm not scared of gays/bi's, and no I wasn't thinking about sleeping with them, but I have had many of them gawk at me looking at my crouch while their making sexual comments to me. Many of them don't take no for an answer. I have told some that I'm not into the gay thing/lifestyle and some still persist in scoring with me, saying things like "Well if you never did it before how you know you don't like it?"...etc (just because just I never ate turds before, doesn't mean I have to eat them to tell you I wouldn't like them). There was only one time that I had to ever educate a gay man, he would take no for an answer, so I took him a drive down the road, since then, I never saw him again. It's no difference then women being hit up on by straight guys and the guys don't take no for an answer, and their gawking at you while their talking with you.
If Jims' parents named him Jane, that would be different, he didn't have a choice, but if he changed his name to Jane, I wouldn't know what to do about that...all I can say is I don't want him coming to me complaining about how people is treating him bad. There's always consequence to our actions. If we smile at people...most of the time they smile back, if we give them the finger...we can expect to get into a fight sooner or later.
As for Lesbians/bi their ok for the most part, but I don't care for the men bashers, and they too have to gain MY RESPECT. I give credit to one lesbian that I knew, she basically taught me how to give oral sex better, and it worked ;). Face it...who knows a woman better than a woman.
So, over all, I would continue to be Jims friend and still hang out (as for the Jane thing...I don't know). I'm a far cry from being gay, I do know gay guys, and the straight guys can learn much from gay men...gay men listens better, their more sensitive to issues, their more willing to help, their more caring then straights. I hope I didn't confuse you ;).
As for Jim sleeping with a different race...I wouldn't have trouble with that...I'm white, and I wouldn't mind dating a black women. However, if things got serious between us, we should discuss about where we would live, cause areas of society isn't too accepting of mixing relationships. I would be willing to move for her...yes! If my parents reject me...so be it...I'm still going to marry the women I love, and they better treat her with the same respect as they treat me, I'm not saying they have to like her, but they do have to respect her! If they disrespect her, then they disrespected me, and I hope she would view that the same way when it comes to her parents.
As for age difference, that’s questionable. Wow....20 years is a lot. I can't answer that...the only thing that concerns me, is not the age difference so to speak, but the differences in the lifestyles in the generations? Love is strange and can move mountains, but I think I would be more concerned with the guy being older, cause older guys tend to dream or fantasize with being with a younger girl, mostly for the sex. I trying to think if I would...I'm 49, and would I date a girl who's 29....sure ;), that doesn't look so bad now.
OMG...I'm sure glad you didn't ask another question...my poor fingers. Well this is my own opinion only.
2007-01-20 02:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by WV_Nomad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how I would greet Him, I mean, meeting God would be pretty huge, but I guess that after I would recover from the shock (which would have to be really fast cause let's face it, God's one time on earth and it's not like He would spend it all with me) I'd probably take a deep breath, bow, and say Hello. I would ask him...Did you know, when you created humans, that we would turn out to be so mean, violent and superficial?? And if you did know (which I'm pretty sure He did) what was the point of creating it if everything would end up in destruction?
2016-03-29 05:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be a littlr strn[ang but i think i could handle it.
2007-01-26 07:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nocurfew313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋