I just got married!?

Question

My hubby and I joined in wedded bliss on January 2nd. I'm 22 - he's 24, neither of us have ever been married before. I have no kids and he has a four (almost five) year-old daughter - whom I adore and love as my own. We have shared custody of her and communicate very well with her mother and stepfather.

I think we are off to an excellent start! Anyone have any advice to keep us on track?

Answer 1

i know that she is not your biological daughter but that you love her just the same so that means children always come first. when thinking about doing something always think how it would affect the child and hopefully future children.
Congratulations

Answer 2

congratulations!

Well, be understanding even when you know you are right, and when you don't want to be understanding.
Remember that although he has a child, that child's mother and her step father do not belong in your household.
Keep them at arms length and do not let them in on your personal affairs ( Unless it involves the child, or where the child's welfare is concerned) Too many times, things seem like happy go lucky, but the ex's tend to somehow get placed first or the baggage gets in the way.

Remember that your marriage is apart of growing together and also individually, give eachother space, but also set time out for eachother. Nurture eachother, be kind and never hurl insults in an argument... they are disrespectful and sting when you say them out of anger or in jest to the person you love... words do cut very deep so speak from your heart, with honesty encouragement and respect.
HAVE FUN! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Answer 3

Keep the communication open and respect each others opinions at all times whether you agree or not. Never go to bed mad at each other. There is no argument that should matter more to you than each other. Always date and romance each other; this keeps it movin. Be best friends after all you are one now so technically one cant think without the other. Respect each other feelings whether you feel in the wrong or not.Keep family and friends out of your business; what happens in your house stays in your house. Pray together if you are religious; if not, do it anyway. Stay blessed!

Answer 4

Keep communication open. Have date night once a week even when you have kids. That way you can remain intimate . A lot of men complain to me that after awhile their wives don't pay attention to them sexually. Though it gets difficult with kids, make special time. A man feels unloved when he doesn't have sex. Never put the kids first before him unless they are ill. For your man will be the one whom you will be with when the kids are gone. When disciplining kids. Talk amongst yourselves on the decisions and come about with a united front. Never contradict each other in front of the kids or anyone else. Your marraige is a private affair between yourselves and you don't need trouble makers trying to hone in on it. Oh and congratulations.

Answer 5

Congratulations to the both of you!!!.
I think one of the most important things in a marriage is keeping the lines of communication open. It's probably thee most important thing.
Keeping your relationship alive with spontaneious, and surprise things, whether small gifts, weekend getaways, things like that.
Make sure to spend time apart, not alot but enough where you have that alone time to regroup & refresh. A girls night out for you, a guys night out for him. You get the idea.
Keep your sex life alive (important), you dont want to get bored.
There's soo many things to a healthy marriage, just enjoy each other, and be good to each other. Marriage is alot of work, but the reward is worth the effort.
Good Luck to you guys, and have a great first year of marriage and many great years to go.

Answer 6

What I think is that just keep things the way they are. Sounds like they are working. I have been married now for a year and it does not seem to be any different like people say things will change once you get married. Just communicate and enjoy your time together. Congratulation. :)

Answer 7

Good Luck and I 'm glad your communication is well with the child's mother and husband try to keep it that way I hope you treat this child as your own even when you have your own make her feel loved as yours maybe one day she'll l be just like your own. It''s hard bu if you treat them the same your never know how much love your heart can feel. God Bless You ALL

Answer 8

The only advice I would give is to be careful of what advice you take. No one else is in your relationship but you, your hubby, and the child. No one else can know what you're feeling, and what works for you but you. Obviously you've figured out how to get this far, so whatever got you here is the foundation for what will carry you through the coming years.

Answer 9

Always be honest with each other and find the time to share little things. I have been married for 25 years and have found that communication is the most important thing.

Answer 10

COMMUNICATION!! Always be open with each other; talk to each other as if you were best friends. Compliment each other; don't "assume" he should know how you feel; especially if your're angry because they don't assume anything. Don't say things in anger that you'll never be able to take back; it's better to calm down and then try to discuss the problem. Love him for who he is; not what you'd like him to be.

Answer 11

Open honest communication with all parties involved with the child. If adults dont tell the truth, you can bet a kid will. Make time for yourselves, you are newlyweds, but always make time for the child too. Good Luck to you all.