My Best friend, another girl, and I were at one of my closer friends house. We had discovered a journal b4 she wrote with this other gossipy girl, and when l8r on we were in the room w/o her we grabbed the journal... onnly to find it contained stuff full of how ugly i am and how i have a big nose! One of my closest friends! (of course she has some sisues she used 2 cut herself and have a weird obsession with my best friend. WEIRD obsession). I was supposed 2 sleepover but faked sick and got a ride home. Should I confront her about it or just stop talking to her? It was like reallyyyyy bitchy stuff. 4 pages of it. woo.
2007-01-19 17:16:57 · 16 answers · asked by Candy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ps-i was not snooping around in her personal belongings. last year a bunch of my friends and i started this lil book called "tyatf" (dont ask) basically us writing a bunch of pointless idiot notes 2 back n forth 2 each other that had no meaning. When it had byaccidently fallen out of her shelf b4 she had grabbed it and said it was just another tyatf and put it away. I thought my friends and i would just rite some more silly notes in the tyatf for her 2 see later.
2007-01-20 04:16:52 · update #1
There's one fact of life: THERE'S NO LOYALTY AMONG WOMEN! that's why WE (the guys) have been ruling this planet for thousands of years. Just look around: girls always talk trash about their friends behind their back (guys talk trash face to face); girls steal each other's boyfriends (guys know the golden rule: you never touch your friend's, car, beer, or girl); girls READ other girl's journals (guys do not keep self incriminating journals: That’s fool!!). 99% of my girls and lady friends say the same thing: “I rather have male friends than lady friends, because you cannot trust other girls.”
So don’t take it personal because I guess she talk about other girls even worst things, she is a pathetic looser that will end up alone and without “REAL” friends. So just ignore her, forget about her, do not argue or confront her (if you do so, she’ll feel important, and she is not). Show her that you got more class than her. Intelligent people do not waste their energy on low-life-bugs like that.
2007-01-19 18:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are mature, confronting her in a nonthreatening way is the best option. Even if this talk doesn't patch up your friendship, at least you can get an apology. She needs to know how much this has hurt you.
But remember people make mistakes. She may written the book under peer pressure of her other friend. And/or she probably wrote this childish stuff before she really got to know the real you. Chances are, she regrets writing it.
P.S. You shouldn't have be snooping in her personal belongings without her premission. Though the journal was mean-spirited, everyone deserves privacy. Be more mature next time and not dig into people's personal property. Would you want her to read every single page of your secret diary?
2007-01-19 17:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Shiomi Ryuu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as the old saying goes, "Honesty is the best policy." A better way to tell him might be that it's pretty rough and needs some editing. It never hurts to ask him a few questions about the book, and through these you'll find out how he did it. If he asks your opinion, you could suggest that you might've done things differently. Or suggest that next time he writes a book, he could have an editor or publisher read it before it's published so he can work out the 'bad' spots, or trouble areas.
2016-05-23 23:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her. It's not cool to be a friend to your face, and be a backstabber when she's not. She has problems with herself and is probably jealous of you and is her ugly way of trying to make herself feel better. She's probably a wierdo, so I would confront her and stay very far away from the physco.
2007-01-19 17:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, whatever said and done I know that what she has done is wrong. But she didn’t know you then so give a chance for her to voice her view. Confront her and tell how you feel about it. Maybe you’ll will disagree and argue or maybe both of you guys will figure things out. Any which way there’s only one way to find out; ask her!!!
2007-01-19 17:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt bother confronting her. She has shown she isnt a friend. Just go find new friends. You dont need to be around someone who cuts themselves anyway.
2007-01-19 17:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be friends with someone who says bad things about you. Now that is just plain sad!
2007-01-19 17:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by ღGirly Gurlღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you invaded her privacy. They probably already told her you read it and why you left.
You can ask her about it but you read her journal. I think the other girls knew about it and set you up.
2007-01-19 17:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her u dont wanna know her anymore and not to leave her journal open on DESK!!
2007-01-19 17:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by H.B.K. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to decide if your friendship is worth saving or not. If it is ask her about the journal, if not forget it and her.
2007-01-19 17:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by kf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋