Family, friends, career, other interests....they are all very important part of our lives but why is it that being alone, makes all these other aspects still bland. Is this normal? To me, a relationship brings the kind of happiness nothing else can get. Without it, there is a feeling of great emptiness.
Does anyone else think like me? Or am I being foolish.
Can people truly say they are *happy* when they have no loving partner.
2007-01-19 17:07:48 · 8 answers · asked by ? 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
I feel the same as you do. I wish it weren't true, but I can find no "reason" without a partner to share life with. I keep going but I have no joy in anything. As you say, it is bland. No spice or flavor!
2007-01-19 19:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by Batty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no partner and I am very happy. If you can't be happy with yourself alone then you bring to any relationship an incompleteness. Be a whole person yourself, enjoying and sharing life with friends, family and even strangers. Then when that special someone does come along you have happy, energetic and complete "you" to add to the mix! Life is so exciting just being "Life" that you don't have to have someone fill a void...because there isn't a void. Of course, it's always wonderful to share life with a partner, but I refuse to allow my happiness to be defined by the presence or absence of someone else. Bland? Look again - with or without a partner, Life isn't "bland."
2007-01-21 18:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by wd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short answer. There are some signs of confusion, but sure, set yourself some goals and see what you can do, I completely agree with that. Long answer. "that we play a vital role, as a species, as a culture, as a community, and as an individual. Why?" Well, we literally play a vital role, don't we?, I mean, we're alive. So, the question would then be, whether you should take your life serious or not, or differently put, whether you should try to be responsible for your life or not. "The motives are varied, but the concept is the same, we want to be free of what hinders us;" Certainly we do, but this is only preparation, you get rid of the obstacles and then do what you want. Of course, for some people getting rid of the obstacles has become an end in itself, they just forgot what for they originally wanted to get rid of them, well, if there ever was a reason. "Which tells us something about our complex society; it hinders us." That is true, but I would prefer the formulation that our complex society doesn't coincide with our desires concerning social relations. "Wouldn’t it be so nice to not have to worry about keeping our heads above the proverbial waters of our intricate and devastatingly flawed civilization? No matter how much you would love to just sit back as someone makes all of your decisions for you; we all know that life simply doesn’t work that way. If you want a better future, well then, you will just have to go out and make it." Well, I think you're discarding a real option here, namely not to worry about that what doesn't concern you. If you want a better future, then focus on that what you need. If you worry about too much, you won't get anywhere. You really have to become clear about the core problems that you have with society and then deal with those directly in as much as they concern your life as a (social) person.
2016-03-29 05:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the most important to you.
It is true that loving partner can make you happy and feel like the world is awesome and worth living.
Without loving partner, it is also true that you could feel empty inside.
When you're empty inside, the question may arise "what is the most important to you?"
It is a goal that you choose. People who have goals in their life probably won't let themselves down eventhough they are losing or don't have their love one. It is like "life goes on" after enduring break-up or loss.
Sometimes great responsiblities fill those emptiness. That's why some people never feel empty inside.
2007-01-19 17:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Nate K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not foolish. I think like that, that is exactly why I day dream about my future with my husband...and I know when I find that type of love-it will bring a happiness that I haven't ever felt before...because the connection ; the unity is a complete different one then all of the other ones, as this one includes intimacy; a partnership-a future nuclear family :) with someone very special.
2007-01-19 17:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am single and i really wish to find my true mate in life. although a am happy being single there is still the feeling of doubt why until now "the right person" has not come. i think that it is because of the abundant love that a person can share to another that she/he finds it more meaning to have a loved one in life. the person has so much to offer that she/he already to family, friends, etc. now its time that she/he offers it someone wholl be there for her/him for a lifetime. also the love that was given and shared to us by family, friends etc are bountiful that we learn to share them yet again to a secondfold... say,. pay it forward. with no one to share this love, life is bland.
2007-01-19 18:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sands -
I agree.
Just got my 2nd divorce. Only recently and already finding it would be much better to not be alone.
I have to work on finding out what's now important to me.
I want to be alone for several years, though, so I can discover that.
2007-01-19 17:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by frankb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is there that gives you meaning? If there is no one to share in your success, what does it all REALLY mean?
2007-01-19 17:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋