Im 23 weeks and am thrilled to be pregnant but I feel detatched from the experience. I have been excited when I buy stuff but I feel distant from the whole thing of being pregnant and whats about to come in a few months time. Also the thought of larbour and birth scares me along with wondering if I'll be a good Mum. I have always wanted kids and love being around them. Could it just be the fact that 4 months before falling pregnant with this baby I had a miscarrage and now I feel resereved? Is this normal?
2007-01-19 16:57:44 · 13 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i totally understand what you are feeling, i have 4 children already and we were trying for another one when i found out that i was pregnant but i was also having a miscarriage, it was really horrible what i went throught, now i am pregnant again i am not so over the moon as i was with my other children as the thought of losing this one too hurts me. You will be a good mum, and dont think that you wont, as soon as you look into your babies face you will feel a feeling that only you can feel, this will make you strong and try to be the best mum that you can, no one is a perfect mum but everyone will try to be the best that they can.
kia kaha, which means be strong in the maori language
2007-01-19 17:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 34 weeks and remember feeling a bit down at around 26 weeks but i am excited now. I think that nerves about birth and being a good parent are natural and i am going to try to thanks people for the opinions but do things the way i want them done.
I must say that i have been happier the last 8 months than i normally am - i think the hormones that pregnancy has created have done me good. I am worried that when the baby comes out i will cry myself silly.
good luck and congrats
2007-01-20 01:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Boo Boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was all over the place, so happy to be having a baby, yet so scared and upset, I felt liek my whole life was baby and baby only and got depreseed. I wasnted iit out, i didnt want to be pregnant by 28 wks i trying to convince the dr to induce me lol, the mornign sickness, pain and cravings make it bad. But then there are some days when i didnt want to stop being pregnant and i loved it. Pregnancy is a big emotional rollercoaster. Keep a diary of your feelings and read it 6 months after bubs is born you;ll look back and go i cant believe i felt this way. Labour scares the hell out me. With my first it didnt but it did with no. 2 cos i knew what to expect. Im not lookng foawrd to number 3's [pregnancy.
Good luck
2007-01-20 01:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that you are scared to get to close.. to hope to much... to love it too much. However I am a mother of one, never had a misscarriage.. and this pregnancy is going awesome (I feel like crap but the pregnancy itself is going really well). I get that. It is hormones. The baby kicks.. I hear the heartbeat on my doppler, I am showing, I am sick, I feel like I have pms moods... I am obviously pregnant (am 18 weeks along)... and yet somedays I don't believe it is true. Or i am scared to believe it, like it is some cruel joke that my body plays on me. Sometimes I even think I don't want the baby and I get scared about how I will handle it... what if I don't know how to be a good parent to this different personality.... It is hormones... and I think for you having had a loss... you have a bad experience on top of those hormones...
2007-01-20 01:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your still in mourning over the miscarriage, allow yourself some time to grieve. Your body is also going through a hormonal roller coaster, so feeling a little up and down will happen. I always woke up in the best mood( when not morning sick struck)while I was pregnant with my little one. This is a very big change in your life, so you will feel all sorts of new feelings and remember that there is support out there from the millions of mothers who have also gone through this. You will be a great mom, everyone one makes mistakes in love that's the process we go through loving and mothering. Good luck and con-grads.
2007-01-20 01:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say those were normal feelings. I am 20 weeks pregnant ( first time ) and as my belly grows and all i still feel like it all wont really hit me till i go into labour and am holding the baby i have been wanting so badly. I'm sure every first time mom worries if they will be good but there's lots of info and help out there about parenting these days... dont worry you'll do fine!!! i'de encourage you to stay positive and not worry about the baby. worry can really wear on you.
2007-01-20 01:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Cess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, yes. The fact that you have had a miscarriage would definitely affect you in that way. Emotions tend to be all over the place and it is very normal to worry about labor, delivery and all the things involved with being a mom. Feeling reserved is normal because you have gone through a big disappointment already. Keep taking good care of yourself, eat healthy and rest when you are tired.
2007-01-20 01:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by mother of Bridezilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, don't be worried about the way you feel. When we're pregnant, we have so many extra hormones that we don't normally have to deal with so we feel different. Don't worry, when that baby comes, it'll be love at first sight. I felt kinda that way with my first because we got pregnant so fast (homeymoon baby) and I almost felt robbed of time with my new hubby. But I couldn't have asked for a better family. Don't worry about giving birth, just get your epidural and you'll be fine. Pregnancy is worse than labor because labor's short compared to the 9 months of carrying that baby around with swollen feet and heartburn!
2007-01-20 01:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by eric H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha ha ha ha, welcome to pregnancy!! I'm workin on #3 now. I remember with #1 I was always mad as hell, or horny. #2 I just wanted to go away from the world. I didn't even want to deal with my 3 year old, which I felt tremendous guilt for. I just wanted to be by myself in the world. I always felt like crap too, morning sickness, back aches. With this one I'm kinda bitchy again and annoyed by every thing in the world. And horny so it might be a girl again. LOL Don't be afraid of labor. You'll be in pain, that's why it's called labor, but opt for meds if you wish, if not, read up on doulas and non medicated pain coping options. Watch those baby shows on discovery health channel. You'll be alright
2007-01-20 01:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by LYRICSORUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say I still feel detached from the expirience, and I'm 40 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I think it's just hormones, and maybe we are so scared, that our brain isn't allowing us to feel any emotions in regards to this matter?
2007-01-20 01:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by three_red_shoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋