well, not totally "love-love"
its more of a high school love,
and he was going to turn 17 next month,
but he is a ginuine ,really sweet, nice type of guy
2007-01-19 16:17:22 · 27 answers · asked by nina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, so what? what's wrong with it?
2007-01-19 16:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by yodakelbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe in "love" at 14? Do you remember being 14??
Better yet, do you remember 16/17-year old guys??? Even the genuine, really sweet and nice type still have hormones.
I raised a step-daughter and a birth-daughter... neither "dated" at 14. If they had someone they were sweet on, they could go to school functions, group activities, places where there'd be adult supervision; but no one-on-one dating. If the guy doesn't like it, he can get someone his own age. Really, a 16/17-yr old guy isn't a match for a 14-yr old girl... if he is, he is *really* immature. Why would he want someone who can't drive, can't work, and is 2-3 years behind him in school? Why isn't he dating someone more his "equal"? Something isn't right, with him....
2007-01-20 00:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a bad age gap at all. My first love in high school was 17 and I was 14. He was very respectable and sweet. We were together for 4 years. :)
2007-01-20 00:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Spontaneous Combustion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are worse age groups but I understand why you're worried, sometimes the experience levels differ a bit- though quite often age doesn't really affect that. Your daughter likes him and you approve of his personality- trust your gut. My mom has always been right about the guys I've dated. If you're worried, allow him to watch DVDS or have dinner at home with your daughter- that way, she's happy and you can keep tabs on what's happening
2007-01-20 00:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by Girly girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, when i was 14, i was dating a 16 year old turning 17 in about 2 months. It's okay. Just do a background check. Also, if he's as genuwine as you say, i dont think you should worry.
2007-01-20 00:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by jennyferr_x3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend a lot on the maturity of my daughter and trust. You just have to remember that if you do consent to the relationship, that on down the line when this young man turns 18 and he makes you mad or your daughter makes you mad, that it is totally heartless to press charges against him. You can ruin a man's life by making false accusations and making him be labeled as a sex offender for the rest of his life when you knew about the relationship all along and were fine with it.
2007-01-20 00:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read all of the previous answers and I was surprised that no one suggested that you meet the boys parents to make sure that his parents knew what was going on between them. Having four parents knowing what's going on is alot better than one parent or one set of parents. Although I do think that if you have a good relationship with your daughter, you should be able to communicate with her the boundries. 14 and 16 is not too far apart. I don't think you should let her go anywhere with him unchaperoned until you have known him for awhile. I think it's fine to have him over on the weekends to watch movies, but she is still too young to date.
2007-01-20 00:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by themerchantprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well kids are growing up fast these days. I would say instead of trying to keep her away from him tell her of the dangers of sex and the responsibility that comes with it. Tell her the complexity that comes with dating an older guy and how he might pressure her to do some things that she does not want to do because they do not have the same peers. As a parent there job is to guide their kids out them in the directions of good decisions, but let them make their own choices. Guide them.
2007-01-20 00:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldnt care how genuine or sweet the guy is. Most guys that age just want one thing from a girl and your daughter is still to young. Who knows what can happen when they are alone.
2007-01-20 00:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...I'm a teenager myself (17) and truly i would say to let her be and though as a parent you may be worried about her heart getting broken or it eventually leading to sex, but just trust her. If the age thing bothers you, age is nothing but a number. She's 14 not 5 and I think she is capable of knowing what she feels.
2007-01-20 00:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say thatz actually pretty normal minez bad im 12 and the guy i likez 15 1/2 will be 16 in October.but he lovez me 2 is that normal and we both want 2 date
2007-01-20 00:33:48 · answer #11 · answered by Meagan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋