I have a very polite question for our freinds the Maxicans?

Question

I have a teenage son who is going to turn 17 soon. He is a very nice and lovable young man, loved by his friends and his teachers.
He is an American-Russian kid, into music -metal/rock-, doing great at school and having good time here in the US.
However, Mexican kids and their friends keep trying to start fights with him for no reason. Sometimes they make fun of his English accent. My son keeps avoiding them not because he is weak - He is a well built kid - but because he does not want to get in any kind of violent act.
Do not get me wrong people. I have nothing against Mexicans or any other Hispanic people, they are nice and decent. However, what is going on with some kids there.
Me myself I am an American-Russian woman. However, some of us were born somewhere else and have accents.
Again, my friends don’t get me wrong just answer me: what is going on?
Many thanks for your kind answers.

Just to clarify an issue my friends.
I am a very good friend with my son and we communicate on daily basis. I hate fights and problems. I always seek peace and harmony in my life. I don't ever look at any people as lower than me or anyone else.
& he is into sports, music and school activities. He made friends already. But I wish that he will have more friends other than fights.

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Answer 1

I think you're specific, unique situation is Mexicans but there are countless other kids around the country that are being accosted by whites, blacks, asians, and every other race of kids whose parents do not step up and teach there children how to act. I wouldn't be quick to jump the gun on assuming Mexicans are the only ones doing this.
I commend you on raising a son who is above this by not wishing to be involved with violence. That being said, He should beat the crap out of two or three of them one good time and they would probably leave him alone.

Answer 2

It's not just one nationality. It's people in general. You happen to live in a part of the country where there may just be a higher population of Hispanic people. But no matter where you live, people have always bonded together in ethnic groups and shunned outsiders. It's human nature. But because we are of a higher intellect than our cousins the apes and gorillas, we are able to use language and communicate our thoughts. Unfortunately, it feels like some people would rather cling to the lower evolutionary link and resolve our primal issues the same way our cousins would: with violence.
I suggest that you stand tall, show your pride of being a part of the human race, and welcome strangers to join you and be a part of a civil world without violence. If it's a fight people want, suggest that they join the army and find out what war is really about. But be careful to respect other peoples feelings. There are a lot of Hispanics who have been discriminated against for many years, and the children are the most honest when it's their chance to look down at the new person on the block. If your son can prevail, he'll probably end up with some very loyal friends.

Answer 3

Your facing the group mentality of the young. All things different are to be challenged. Racism is taught by parents and peers and it is a nasty thing. Please tell your son to be very careful and avoid fights at all costs. One can't win against a violent group. He's doing the right thing and will soon be out of high school and moving on to college (I hope) and there will be kids from everywhere with all kinds of accents and there is where a lot of kids learn to appreciate the differences of others. I just don't get prejudice. I think its the differences in people that make life interesting. I would love to know more people that have lived in places I'll probably never get to go and hear their stories and learn of their culture. Good wishes to you.

Answer 4

Teenagers can be mean to each other. They do it for sport. My guess is that it may not be a racial issue, but just that kids in groups often adopt something of a "mob mentality" where no one is willing to stand up to the others when they get out of control. It is unfortunately fairly common for kids in groups to pick on someone who isn't part of the group, who is different in some way. Your son is doing the right thing by not engaging them. Ignoring and avoiding them will help make sure that things don't escalate.

If this is happening at school, you or your son need to speak to the principal about the group bullying. Schools have a responsibility to provide a safe environment for education.

Answer 5

wanna be gangsters in little towns! this seems to be what u r talking about! I live in a little town that doesnt have much blacks in it.. and Mexicans and some white kids started the gangster bullshit! all the time there was a problem between gangsters and other goths, metal heads and punk rockers... but me myself I was a metal head and I had my friends and always been having the same problems, they just want somebody to pick on to look better in the front of their sluts.. every time I pass by them they start saying ****! but if one of them was alone and I pass by he doesnt say **** because hes scared... so its all about showing off... after I beaten the crap out of 3 of them in three fights they started paying attention to whom they are messing with... I think everyone who has that problem has to do this! its the only way out.. cops wont do anything and school wont do anything..... so sometimes u have to take the law by ur own hands in this kind of situation!

by the way I am 17 and I know all what ur son is going through!

Answer 6

I think that it's more of a adolescent thing then a racial thing.I know what your saying about how these kids act. My self being Mexican and seeing kids act in such a disgusting manner, sometimes makes me feel racists against my own race. Then I have to think about their age and knowing when I was that age how kids behaved. I grew up in a white neighborhood, and seen white kids do it white kids. So really it's not race, it's that those kids need a good *** kicking! I do not condone violence, but there is going to be a point where your son just needs to stand up for himself before it gets worse. Once they know he isn't going to take it, they will back off! Good luck to you

Answer 7

hmmm.... sounds like he's going through what everyone goes through once in their lives. Im an immigrant who moved here when I was 14, and at first I was teased cuz i was overweight, cuz of my hair, my color, my accent, everything. As time gradually moved, I learned to adapt, and next thing yu know, I was friends with the people who made fun of me. Give yur son time, tell him that instead of worrying and getting mad at this things, why not just join some sports, or get to know some people, be more social. Once people see that he is friendly, It'll be easy for him. And plus, he's in high school right? Once he gets out to college, its a whole diff. level.
Talk to him, and makes sure he talks to yu. Just be with him when he needs people around him. :-)

Answer 8

I am Black, but, I think I qualify to answer your question. When one group of people (different race or social status) discriminate against another group, it's either because they feel intimidated or they're trying to inflict intimidation. Tell your son to keep conducting himself like a gentleman despite being treated otherwise. Maybe one day he will be an example to those same people who pick on him. But if it gets too out of hand, maybe you should seek advice from the law.

Answer 9

Sooo...you think that any person of Mexican descent will be able to explain to you why the kids at your son's school pick fights with him?

Maybe they don't like being called "MAXicans"?

Or maybe they are just being teenagers...teens are sometimes petty and can be quite mean to one another. High school is a tough place, and 16 is a tough age - no matter where you or your ancestors are from.

Answer 10

First let me welcome you and your son to the United States of America.
I think it's sad that we live in a country that was founded by minorities. And ever since the beginning one minority has tried to harass the others, for the way they talk, dress, look, live. And all while they are some sort of minority themselves.

The fact that we have not learned from our past is sad. I 'm sorry that your son has to be harassed for his accent. Especially by a race of people who have constantly been harassed for their accent.. But that's how our society is. Perhaps we could start to live better examples in from of our children and set the example for them to live by.
Sadly, our kids only relive our own prejudices they see in us as parents.
Take care