i feel like i am being left out in my clique because:
1)for band trip we can only have four to a room and there is five in my room and i got 'kicked out'
2)one of the girls in my clique(the one that i'm having problems with) put everyone in her heroes place on her myspace but me, and she has me last on her top friendsl.
3)if there is someone more popular than i am , she ditches me to talk to them
i basically just feel like she is alienating me, why? i don't know.
and my whole clique isn't doing a thing about it, we all know it is an issue.. but nobody wants to talk about it.
what should i do?
2007-01-19 15:52:39 · 4 answers · asked by lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
talk it out with the girl youre having issues with. Do it while she is not in front of other people so she doesn't feel inclined to be rude to show off. I think if she dosen't listen or change, talk to your other friends and let them know how you feel.
2007-01-19 16:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Megan C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're having problems with someone, you must talk to them about it because your feelings have to be heard. In a calm voice tell your friend in person how you have been feeling about ONE of the recent events. If you mention all of them to her, she'll think you're jealous and spread lies about you. You can start off by asking why you weren't put on the heroes place. She might start making excuses as to why you weren't put on. Don't go behind her back and tell someone else in the clique about your friend because that'll make things worse.Then, if she still treats you like that, don't let it upset you. When people are in cliques not everyone is going to be liked the same. If it feels like a competition, smooth your way out the clique. You can still be friends and talk to them. Just don't be a follower, but a leader who stands up for herself. Find friends that have your back and will support your feelings. Most likely at least 1 in the group will give you more respect for just standing up for yourself. That's the one(s) you want to stay friends with.
2007-01-20 00:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by carmen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get better friends, I mean I see that it is a clique leader you are having problems with, but if the other girls are good friends theyll still be good friends with you. And if not then get new friends.
2007-01-19 23:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets all be honest here.. your friends and you are gonna fall apart in the next few months.. so theres no need to worry about it.
2007-01-19 23:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by don'tthinktwice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋