first, my friend tiffany liked this guy mike, and then she accused me of liking him, which i don't. then, my ohter friend alia (who is friends with tiffany too) was switching sides beween me and tiffany. so it became a war beween alia and i because she wasn't being a good friend. (i've had broblems with alia before this). it seems like i don't wanna be friends with them anymore, and so i let them both go, but now alia and tiffany keep on saying mean things to me and im just trying to heal from their previous abuse. now i really want alia to stop talking to me, calling me, e-mailing me and following me everywhere (like to the band room, and shes not even in band!) anyway, i don't know how to get out of this fight because i'm tired of getting hurt over and over again because of one person!
2007-01-19 15:25:41 · 13 answers · asked by Gabby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
dontt flirt with peoples crushes if u know the people who like them. Especially if its ur friend she has aright to be mad., but they are acting really immature and i dont think if u ignor them that they will go away.
2007-01-19 15:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by wish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously all of you are young teenagers because these kind of things really show the level of immaturity in your crowd. Please take that as a wake up call, not criticism. What that means, given the above knowledge here's your chance to behave and respond in a better, more mature, more respected, more dignified way amongst all of them. Here's your chance to come up the stronger and wiser and more grown up person.
First, check and believe that you've done nothing wrong, believe that you can think and react reasonable and smarter. Then decide if you really want to stop being friends with them or not. Some big milestone in growing up is being able to finally move on from 'toxic friends' - friends that do no good for you. Show no emotion to these girls taunts. Sometimes give them an icy look and call out their childish behaviour by saying 'hey, grow up' or 'how old are you? Why behaving like 3 year olds ?' or 'hey i dont appreciate your harrassing this and that way. Stop it or you'll regret it" . Give them serious warnings, then tell the teachers, their parents and if it gets ugly and or violent, the police. Yes, I know sounds extreme. But do the right thing, the righty thing only, and all of the right things necessary. Meanwhile, maintain your calm and in control appearance. Just by believeing that you're serious about getting things right will send them signalls to back off.
Good luck!
2007-01-19 15:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Xonja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be so cruel. If they keep saying mean things to you, then confront them and be assertive. Never let someone disrespect you like that. Words can be hurtful, but you need to find your voice and stand up for yourself. You'll feel good once you get that off your chest. I'm not saying you need to be violent. Words are just as powerful. If they were you're true friends, they would help you and not hurt you. So think about your relationship with these people. You probably don't want to lose them over some guy, but if they continue to treat you like that, the friendship will be their lost and not yours. If you want to work out the situation and remain friends with them, let them know that they need to trust you. If they still can't accept that, move on. There can be no friendship without trust. Not all your relationships in life will be healthy or good, because everyone is so different. Take your situation as a learning experience. Don't let it upset you too much.
2007-01-19 15:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by carmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would think that if you ignored them, they'd eventually get tired of it. If not, you could always just be frank and tell them they are annoying you and causing you nothing but stress. That is not what friends are for; they're not supposed to cause you a lot of problems. Trust me, I kind of know what you're going through. Two of my "friends" only used me when they needed help with homework and ignored me the rest of the time. It sounds like your friends aren't the friends you need. Try to find some new friends. If I get down about friends at school, I usually get online and talk to my online pals and try to cheer up. Sorry to hear that you and your friends don't get along that well.
2007-01-19 15:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mizuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too nice.You need to lay both of their butts out one good time. be mean to them. I mean seriously hit them below the belt. Say really mean things to them same as they do to you and then you need to tell them that if they were true friends in the first place then they wouldnt have let a guy come in between you all. When they follow you areound tell them that you love it that they admire you but they should do so from afar and then tell them its sad and ask them do they not have anything better to do with their time. Everyone has a mean side girl... find yours. all you are doing by not saying anything to them is making it more fun for them. Let them know that enough is enough. Tell them to grow up if all else fails. being a teenager is heck... I know it is. good luck
2007-01-19 16:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you want to positioned this female in her position. tell her you don't desire her to undesirable mouth the different female to you reason your acquaintances jointly with her and do not wanna listen that. like you'll say to the different female if she became undesirable mouthing about your stressful chum. (i desire). If she would not provide up in basic terms be honest jointly with her. tell her, her consistent stupid immature comments like declaring 'she's your new perfect chum' have become you down and she or he's both to lower back off or shove the friendship up her a*s. have relaxing =)
2016-10-15 11:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What grade are you in? It seems to me that this has gone from friendship to fight to harassment. This is harassment. Tell them to please leave you alone and not to bother you in front of a witness. If it does not stop go to your counseler and expain. If it does not stop tell your parents so they can go to the principal. If it continues have your parents call the police. Make notes of the date and time they speak to you, send e-mails (make a copy) and phone calls. So if you need proof you will have it. This is a scarry situtation you are in. If you have to transfer schools. Let me know how things go. Good Luck.
2007-01-19 15:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by somg_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they r probably just jealous of u. You should make new friends and get over them. You'll see how tell come 2 beg u to kick it w/them again. try 2 ignore 'em
2007-01-19 15:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by •·.·´¯`·.♥randomchic♥•·.·´¯`·.·• 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seriously find a friend within yourself. Don't let people cause friction in your atmosphere. Invest in a hobby that will keep your mind off those losers. KEEP HOPE ALIVE!
2007-01-19 15:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by pixiedust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me that ur friend ali has no life of her own and likes trouble and really dont want u and the other to be friends she likes the drama cause without it the girl has no life
2007-01-19 16:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by debbie o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋