my only son got married, and told me 3 months after, i was upset, i thought i would have liked to be their.there didn,t have to be a big party, just out for dinner with the parents and close freinds, i think every parent wants to see their child get married in some way. i feel like that honour was taken away from me, not happy.
2007-01-19 15:15:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there's probaly a reason he didnt tell you, and the fact that your only talking about your feelings says that your blinded to what it is...
2007-01-19 15:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by marriedman26 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, what do you think they can do about it now? Obviously they wanted a private wedding. No fuss, no muss. Yes, I know your feelings are hurt, but demanding they apologize isn't going to help. If they say they are sorry, they won't be telling you the truth. They aren't sorry, they did what they wanted to do. As is their right. The honor of seeing them married is just that, an honor. It isn't your right to see them married.
I know I sound terribly harsh. But my family has a LONG line of elopements. It's how my family does marriage. Saves time and hassle.
The best that can happen now is you somehow get over the fact that you feel slighted. Do they have any pictures of their wedding? Even we (husband and I) have a few; 5 actually. Ask that they sit down with those pictures and tell you about their wedding day. What they were feeling, and thinking. Ask them to share this with you. It could help you resolve your feelings.
2007-01-19 16:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I am sure that really hurt, I would feel the same way.
Surely he told you some reason why???
If they got married by a judge, maybe they could get married in church, too???
Or have a special 'wedding' party for everybody??
2007-01-19 15:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. You should have been there. I have two boys and would be just like you, very upset if I could not be there when they got married. I have a question though, did he think that maybe you did not approve of the marriage, if so you may need to fix those problems first. If not, shame on him for not letting you know about his marriage.
2007-01-19 15:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by ransdoll90 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married and didnt tell my parents for months. I dont know why it had to be such a secret i was 25. i guess subconciously we kind of knew it wasnt the best choice.
2007-01-19 16:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a reception party, of course with his permission. Something light; close friends and family. But since he's your son I don't think he'll mind.
2007-01-19 15:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by GoddessJeneffer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you may feel short changed it is your son's life. If the wifes parents were not there either you have nothing to be sad about. Enjoy the new union and be happy that your son has found someone he loves and loves him in return.
2007-01-19 15:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by d b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could ask him if you could plan a reception for them. You and the other parents could cover the costs of food, etc. At least the relatives would get a chance to give gifts and get to know the new spouse. Just a thought.
2007-01-19 16:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this.
Explain to him that that was your only chance to see one of your offspring get married.
Cry a little, it may help.
2007-01-19 15:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not be too concerned, 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, just give it some time, second chance to be at your son's wedding will come around, and this time i suggest u stay on top of things.....
2007-01-19 15:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by DesiGirl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋