Well, see, I'm a little confused. When i "do my business" it is usually to the thought of guys, but when i see a hot girl, i still get feelings for her, and i can love girls, but in my heart, i don't want to be gay, I really don't, but as hard as i try, i just can't "do my business" to the thought of girls. I have had a hard enough life already. So, can somebody tell me what to do, or at least give me some advice? What i mean by "i can love girls" is that i can have feelings for girls.....and thats what i want...I mean, don't get me wrong, i have nothing wrong with homosexuality, its just......i don't know.
2007-01-19 15:05:59 · 20 answers · asked by bizzlio 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have thought about being bi, and im not worried about what society and the rest of the world thinks about me feelings. I have dated girls in the past, and they have all been great, i loved all of the girls i dated. It's not that i find a problem with being gay, but i just......don't know, and if the point arises that i find a girl that wants to experiment, then how can i "experiment" with her if i am attracted to guys when i "dp my business"?
2007-01-19 15:24:13 · update #1
and also, the way i see it, in god's eyes.....homosexuality is a sin.....but god forgives people for their sins.
2007-01-19 15:25:27 · update #2
I had the exact same feelings last year, and they hurt me a lot. In one year (only to myself I didn't tell anyone else) I went from straight, to bi, to gay. I started to feel a bit more comfortable with myself, but when it comes to coming out, it can get a little hard. But you can make it easier, so if you do come to the conclusion that you're gay, only come out when you feel ready. Also you have to make sure that your friends are ready, because even if you are they might not be and it can make it very hard for them too.
2007-01-27 14:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by stfan95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. bizzlio, I think you must answer a question: if you have ever fall in love, it has happened with a guy or a girl. The bisexuality can remain until you discover with which gender you are more comfortable with. Try to forget the thoughts that with no scientific fundamentals want to make you feel miserable. When you find the correct person fight for that relationship. Make no harm to others but don't permit nobody hurts you, just because you love somebody else. God blesses you.
2007-01-26 10:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Pato FV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U sound unsure. Find urself first cause no one here can say what UR sexuality is. It takes time, so do not rush it.
Ok, now Charles, i know it must have been so tiresome copying and pasting that. I would like to know since when was there a word for homosexual back in those days? Get with the act DUMB@SS, or atleast a RELIABLE source.
2007-01-19 23:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Imanobody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen up, find a chick whos up for experimenting and go that rout! See your attraction to men is obvious, accept that OK. However you could be bisexual not just gay. The longer you wait to experiment the harder life will be for you later. Accept what your attracted to and act on your feelings, but keep in mind everyone has feelings.
PS ... If uncertain in a situation, joke about it calmly and the true feelings of others will unveil!
2007-01-19 23:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by violettelillyrose81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people struggle with their sexuality before finding out who they really are. Unfortunately some of them make the mistake of taking the easy societally approved route of marriage to a person of the opposite gender.
Do you not want to be gay or not to be how you perceive gay men? If you only see them as negative stereotypes then you may not only be putting them down but you are putting yourself down.
Look at gays with an open mind. That may help you with a lot of grief.
2007-01-19 23:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right, i have heard that god does forgive sins....and maybe you need to conduct an experiment...sounds odd but try having an actual girl and an actual guy in front of you....try having sex with both of them some time or not....maybe your just bi-curious...if you have sex(or something else..like kissing .etc.) w/ a guy maybe the thought would go away and youd be alright, if not you shouldn't feel bad....if you believe in god....he will understand im sure...
2007-01-27 15:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by AquaxinxMarch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow for you, Girls are associated with the right thing to do, the divine thing to do... You love them, and you want to be apart of the divine thing... marriage, kids, family...
Having sex with guys or thinking of guys when you have sex is associated with the part of you that isn't the above paragraph.
Girls= Divine, love, marriage, children, family, religion, society...
Guys= Raw, Sex, bad,...
You will just have to work though what it is you want and what's important to you.
My heart goes out to you! It sounds like you are having a real tough time with it. Be kind to yourself!!
2007-01-19 23:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your bi. If you were bi you would have sexural feleing for botyh guys and girls. You are gay, but want to be striaght. Its nto uncoomer for gay people to have feelings for girls, but that if nto romantic love, it is a differnet kind.
Just dont lable yourself yet. Give it time.
2007-01-20 00:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by quest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i understand, and im not sure what i can tell you besides...trying to deny something that you are pretty sure is true is just going to make it harder for you. maybe one of the things that bothers you about being gay is that people will hate on you...or maybe that there are stereotypes about gay guys that you dont like.
you can still be you, and be gay. yeah, a lot of people make it their lifestyle, but you dont have to. you can be gay and still be yourself, and not be super femme, and not be like "im gay, and thats who i am"
EDIT maybe you could experiement with guys. its not like you cant change your mind. i know someone who said "i love guys for sex and girls for relationships" (he was a guy)
oh and by the way im queer.
2007-01-19 23:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by lyrathefairie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and don't ever listen or read Charles notes. His uncle was a mammoth so you now understand why he is so ****** up.
You may be what you wish just be a good person, either bi or gay, may be rain may be snow, you don't know but love is fine and you will always be fine.
2007-01-27 22:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋