Why is it so hard to find a decent man who is not a dog, a pig and a donkey?

Question

The more I date the more I find out that guys don’t want to have anything to do with me unless I have to offer something..it is either sex..or some kind of favours..so I always end up leaving them.. And I am not proud to say every guy I ever been with I was the one who ended the relationship and when my current bf found out that I have done this he is scared of committing to me because he said he doesn’t want to be with someone who I don’t mean to show off but I am beautiful..I have a nice figure, beautiful long hair, good looking face, I have my own business, I have my own place..I am confidant out going, kind and a nice person but every guy I go on a date with end up being the opposite of what I thought they were..I have dated more than 40ish guys I am 22 years old and still a virgin..but they all disappeared because one said he wants sex..they other said lets get married after a week of getting to know each other..the other lied about being single.. and my most recent one all of a s

and my most recent one all of a sudden he wants to do every classic thing you have heard about abusive relationships( controlling, telling me to ask my mom not to come over, asking me not to have friends..and asking me to close my business so I can be home and not spending too much time at work with the guys..I mean the list goes on)


why is it so hard to find a decent man who has more morals than a dog, a pig and a donkey?

Answer 1

Hey, I interviewed my husband.!!!!! Yes... I told him "I have "no feelings for you right now........ why should I get to know you more if we have no "core values"" ... so.... I had a checklist and interviewed him.

First question was:
How do you get along with your mother..... (it's a dilly)

Had about 10 questions.... I was older than you - but I'd do it today in a heartbeat. We got married 6 months later and been married over 20 years.

I wasn't looking for him - he found me and I pushed him away until he came back for more......the first time I met him - I knew we'd end up together - so there's hope.

Lots of fish in the sea - but only a few are worth showing off.

Oh - men ARE pigs..... it's our job to domesticate them..... mine was easy.....

Answer 2

A Good man is rare to find. Why do you get into a relationship before you even assess their qualities? The problem with women today is they don't discriminate. They just pick a guy and think that some how they will mold him into their own idea. It doesn't work that way. You have to make a list of the qualities and choose someone with those qualities. If they don't have them then what is the point of a relationship. 99 percent of men want sex so better be careful. This world is just a big illusion anyways Try chanting the Maha Mantra it will help you get in touch with your inner true self and you can be satisfied with that until Mr. right comes along. (it could be a while they are rare) but don't settle for less. go to harekrishnatemple.c for details. Read Bhagavad Gita As it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada. It will give you all the answers in life. IT worked for me and I found a great man who loves to chant tool (Married 7 years)

Answer 3

dont date anyone more than 8-10 yrs older. they just want you for sex. that's honestly every man's eventual goal the main difference between a man in your age range and one 20 years older is one will want you for you, the other for himself. the 40 yr olds being the latter of course. if they dont have a wife, or any strong relationship, that's a sign they have big time commitment problems. really think about that ppl ur going out with now, and look in another direction. dont listen to ppl telling you to take time off from dating, the more time you spend not looking, the more you'll get used to being alone. i know how that felt. if you got it, work it girl! good luck and good job on staying in the v-club.

Answer 4

If you are all you claim to be, a guy like me would never think he had a chance with you. He would have low end job somewhere and prabably not have perfected all the social graces yet. if he is over 25 and single he is a loser. If divorced, he is a real loser, most times. If you don't like dogs, pigs, or donkeys or other dumb animals, You must really be a prize cow. Take a second look at your self.

Answer 5

Well, this will not be what you're asking for but, supposing a normal (Gaussian) distribution of the qualities you are searching for among men, it's possible that there is a strong concentration of personalities of what you detest. Thus there maybe very few worst, but also very few better, what you're searching for. Maybe you're not not looking in the correct man. The problem you see in them is related to your own beauty. Most men will notice it and become inmediately exited sexually instead of romantics. Thus you may want to search for men that had previously had experience with women like you, or whose live style or work forces them to live with beautiful women, for whom the beauty reaction will be lesser because they are accustomed. Also, try to make it very clear that you're not looking for sex since the beginning, so that those that are only interested in that abandon their intentions or their intent

Answer 6

Well, if you talk about yourself on dates the way you talk about yourself on here, it's easy to see why guys don't want to date you. Get over yourself. If you keep telling guys, "I'm so hot, I have so much money" of course they aren't going to take you seriously. If you have had 40+ boyfriends, it sounds like you just need to keep validating your self worth. Take some time off, be single, and grow up a little bit.

Answer 7

maybe you need to look in a different place. you did advertise yourself in Yahoo Answers so maybe you do that out there also. there are good men out there and you need to be careful who you present yourself to. so far it sounds like you have dated creeps so maybe that is who you are presenting yourself to. you seem accustomed when the types of fish you bait are landed so that is what you try to catch all the time. go fishing in a new pond for some new kinds. sorry men, as long as were using metaphors i wanted one that would not sound as bad. You gave your BIO like you were wanting to catch someone in here.

Answer 8

You are blessed with all the things a man loves to have as a trophy girl, unfortunately you have not met the man for you yet. He's out there and he's one in a million just be patient and don't give up.

Answer 9

u got issues

girls want guys to do everything right

guys only want girls to do one thing right

u are screwing up apples and oranges -so get a life

preferable after u have no reason to have one=cause if what all your rants are about no one cares they want a relationship not a issue, u have to find one that wants u, if u keep running into the guy that wants u to want him your starting to understand how it works and it doesn't really work unless u want him-then things will make sense to u

try relooking for the guy that wants u cause if you got attitude it is readable and that is how the guys are getting by your defensive system that u don't like=just a head game so understand........

...... head games:::

selective rejection.............
deffered gratifacation...............
bait & switch.................
direct oversight....................
yadda & yadda............................

Answer 10

yeah, dating sucks. but you know if your "dating" most guys are gonna want to have sex eventually if not sooner, thats what people do. mostly. im not saying your wrong, but that doesnt always make the guy a bad guy. i suggest not "dating", just know people then know them better. that doesnt really come with all the implications unless you take it there.